Tuesday, May 30, 2023

Roy G Biv

"How will the kids learn their colors?" That was my husband's reaction as we watched a local news story about a parent who objected to a rainbow motif in a classroom.

He, like me, remembers learning our colors via the rainbow and the familiar acronym of Roy G Biv. That's red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, and violet, for the uninitiated.

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Fascism has come to the Roanoke Valley dressed up as "concern for the children," as book banners and school patrols go after what they consider items and persons who "groom" or "indoctrinate" children, ostensibly trying to "turn" young people into homosexuals or transgenders or whomever it is these folks are afraid of.

Ban one book, and where does it end? Is the next one to go some beloved story like Little Women, which is, after all, about strong young girls (and we can't have that). Remove one rainbow, and the next thing to go will be unicorns and leprechauns, I suppose. And why do these people - some of whom do not even have children - get to say what can and can't be happening in a library, a classroom, or any other place? And if they're so hellbent on protecting children, where were they when some were murdered this weekend by gunfire in Florida? Are they protesting for gun control? No. They seem pretty content with letting a child bleed out in the street.

We watched the first two hours of FDR on the History channel last night, and I highly recommend it. We are taping the remainder of the series and will watch it before the week runs out, I expect.

It really brings home the issue of fascism, which I consider any effort to ban a book to be, so I will end with this rather long quote that I am borrowing from Heather Cox Richardson, who borrowed it from an Army pamphlet from 1945. I looked up the original but it's easier to copy and paste. Yes, I can be lazy.

Keep this in mind and then determine who is really a Democrat, a Republican, and a Fascist. I know what I think. I think the people who keep calling Republicans Rinos are really the fascists. Real Republicans know better and are trying to keep our Republic strong. Anyway, this is worth the read:
Fascism, the U.S. government document explained, “is government by the few and for the few. The objective is seizure and control of the economic, political, social, and cultural life of the state.” “The people run democratic governments, but fascist governments run the people.”

“The basic principles of democracy stand in the way of their desires; hence—democracy must go! Anyone who is not a member of their inner gang has to do what he’s told. They permit no civil liberties, no equality before the law.” “Fascism treats women as mere breeders. ‘Children, kitchen, and the church,’ was the Nazi slogan for women,” the pamphlet said.

Fascists “make their own rules and change them when they choose…. They maintain themselves in power by use of force combined with propaganda based on primitive ideas of ‘blood’ and ‘race,’ by skillful manipulation of fear and hate, and by false promise of security. The propaganda glorifies war and insists it is smart and ‘realistic’ to be pitiless and violent.”

Fascists understood that “the fundamental principle of democracy—faith in the common sense of the common people—was the direct opposite of the fascist principle of rule by the elite few,” it explained, “[s]o they fought democracy…. They played political, religious, social, and economic groups against each other and seized power while these groups struggled.”

Americans should not be fooled into thinking that fascism could not come to America, the pamphlet warned; after all, “[w]e once laughed Hitler off as a harmless little clown with a funny mustache.” And indeed, the U.S. had experienced “sorry instances of mob sadism, lynchings, vigilantism, terror, and suppression of civil liberties. We have had our hooded gangs, Black Legions, Silver Shirts, and racial and religious bigots. All of them, in the name of Americanism, have used undemocratic methods and doctrines which…can be properly identified as ‘fascist.’”

The War Department thought it was important for Americans to understand the tactics fascists would use to take power in the United States. They would try to gain power “under the guise of ‘super-patriotism’ and ‘super-Americanism.’” And they would use three techniques:

First, they would pit religious, racial, and economic groups against one another to break down national unity. Part of that effort to divide and conquer would be a “well-planned ‘hate campaign’ against minority races, religions, and other groups.”

Second, they would deny any need for international cooperation, because that would fly in the face of their insistence that their supporters were better than everyone else. “In place of international cooperation, the fascists seek to substitute a perverted sort of ultra-nationalism which tells their people that they are the only people in the world who count. With this goes hatred and suspicion toward the people of all other nations.”

Third, fascists would insist that “the world has but two choices—either fascism or communism, and they label as ‘communists’ everyone who refuses to support them.” (Emphasis mine)

It is “vitally important” to learn to spot native fascists, the government said, “even though they adopt names and slogans with popular appeal, drape themselves with the American flag, and attempt to carry out their program in the name of the democracy they are trying to destroy.”

The only way to stop the rise of fascism in the United States, the document said, “is by making our democracy work and by actively cooperating to preserve world peace and security.” In the midst of the insecurity of the modern world, the hatred at the root of fascism “fulfills a triple mission.” By dividing people, it weakens democracy. “By getting men to hate rather than to think,” it prevents them “from seeking the real cause and a democratic solution to the problem.” By falsely promising prosperity, it lures people to embrace its security.        -- Heather Cox Richardson


Which do you want to be? The book burner or the book saver? The person who admires rainbows or the one who denigrates them because of their own personal insecurities and hang-ups? Just who do the children need to be saved from? 

I really have to wonder.

 



Sunday, May 28, 2023

Sunday Stealing


1. Do you go in at a fast-food place or just hit the drive through?

A. We generally use the drive through, especially since the pandemic.

2. Have you ever lost anything down a toilet? 

A. Not that I recall. If I did, it must not have been important.

3. Do you have a dog?

A. Not anymore. I had a dog for 17 years, but she died in 2001, and I was so heartbroken that I did not get another. Besides, I am highly allergic to animals, and she had to stay outside unless it was really cold, at which point I brought her in the garage (fortunately she was half Eskimo Spitz and loved the cold). I didn't think it would be fair to an animal to bring it to live with me.

4. Ever go camping?

A. Not as an adult. My father took us camping when I was quite young. I barely remember it. Mostly I remember that my mother hated it.

5. Have you met anyone famous?

A. I have met a lot of politicians who could be considered famous. This was due to my work. I met all of Virginia's governors from Douglas Wilder through Bob McDonnell. I am on a first-name basis with my state House of Delegates representative. I know many local news reporters who would be considered "famous" around here. I have also met famous writers like Lee Smith, Sharon Olds, Beth Macy (I went to school with her), Jill McCorkle, and others. But no actors.

6. Any plans today?

A. It is supposed to rain all day, so maybe I will simply have a lazy day. I have a few letters I need to write, and I should do bookkeeping for the farm, but we'll see how it goes.

7. Are you happy?

A. I think "happy" is overrated.

8. Where are you right now?

A. In my office in my house in a county in the state of Virginia, USA, on the continent of North America.

9. Biggest annoyance in your life right now?

A. My hair. I have been seeing the same person for several years now, and while I like her, she cannot cut my hair. This last cut was a final straw. It's the shortest it's ever been and needs to grow out quite a bit, at which point I will return to seeing if I can find someone who listens and doesn't scalp me.

10. Last song listened to?

A. Carry On My Wayward Son, by Kansas.

11. Last movie you saw?

A. We watched part of Star Trek: Into the Darkness on Friday night but did not watch the entire movie. I have never seen it in its entirety even though I like Star Trek.

12. Are you allergic to anything?

A. Pollen of all types, animal dander, dust, hay, various medicines, black pepper, milk, strawberries, etc. Some of the foods I can tolerate in moderation.

13. Favorite pair of shoes you wear all the time?

A. A pair of Apex sneakers (white) which are quite expensive, but few shoes can accommodate the special orthotic insert I have to wear in my right shoe.

14. What do you think of when you think of Australia?

A. Kangaroos.

15. Do you use smiley faces on the computer a lot?

A. No, I don't think I do. I'm not an emoji fan.

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Saturday, May 27, 2023

Saturday 9: Some Gave All


Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

Memorial Day is the federal holiday designated to honor American service people who died in battle.

1) Here at Saturday 9, we regard everyone who served -- veterans and active military -- as heroes. Have you, or has anyone in your family, worn the uniform of our armed forces? We want to hear about them.

A. Many members of my family have served. My father and his brothers, and several of my mother's brothers, would be my closest family members. My grandfather on my father's side served in World War II. The only story I remember my father telling about his time in the service (he was in Korea, after the fighting but during the mop-up and occupation, I think), was one day he was serving potatoes in the chow line, and he looked down and saw his brother coming through. So, he pulled down his hat, and when his brother got to him, he only gave him a spoonful of potatoes. When Uncle Jerry said, "Hey, I want more!" my father looked up and said, "Go to hell" or something like that, and Uncle Jerry sprang over the chow line to hug my dad. Obviously, they were serving at the same time.

2) Memorial Day has its own flag etiquette. In the morning, the American flag should be flown at half staff in memory of those we have lost. Then, at noon, it should be raised briskly to full staff, in honor of all who have served. Where is the nearest flag flying from where you sit right now?

A. Probably in downtown Fincastle, at the county courthouse, although there may be neighbors who have flags up that I cannot see. So many houses around here sit far back from the road and if you're driving it's hard to take note of little details like that.

3) Since 1988, motorcycle riders have participated in Rolling Thunder. In events all over the country, including Washington DC, bikers "Roll Together" to draw attention to service members still missing and raise awareness of mental health issues our veterans cope with each day. When have you most recently ridden a motorcycle? A scooter? A bicycle?

A. It's been a very long time for any of those. Thirty years, at least, unless you want to count the recumbent bike I used for exercise prior to 2013.

4) This week's song is the title track of Billy Ray Cyrus' best-selling album. Named for this patriotic song, the album also included Billy Ray's signature song, "Achy Breaky Heart." "Achy Breaky Heart" is a popular choice on karaoke nights. Do you know it well enough to sing along?

A. No. 

5) Sandy Kane, the hero of "Some Gave All," is based on a real Vietnam vet Billy Ray Cyrus met and spoke to about his sacrifice for his country. Can you think of another song based on a real person?

A. No. But I'll go with Ode to Billy Jo or Harper Valley PTA. I don't know if they were real people, though.

6) Memorial Day is the traditional kick off of the summer season. Have you packed away your winter clothes yet?

A. I don't pack my clothes away. They are all mixed together and that's the way they stay.

7) As you answer these questions, is there a fan or an air conditioner cooling your room?

A. Not in the room. The air conditioner for the entire house (heat pump) is on, but not running. It's not hot enough outside yet for it to turn on.

8) Memorial Day is also a holiday for retailers. Ads promise great prices on everything from grills to lawn decorations to high tech gear and gadgets. Will you be shopping any sales this weekend?

A. I don't think so.

9) Random question: When is the last time you felt like a kid?

A. When I was a kid. Now, if you mean when was the last time you were in the presence of a parent, and he gave you the stink eye like you'd done something wrong even when you hadn't, like he's always done, then that was Wednesday.

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Friday, May 26, 2023

I Stand With Libraries

As of this posting, my county library has received formal reconsideration requests (requests to remove) to review 13 titles. Here are some stats:

# titles challenged that Botetourt County Library does not own: 48
# titles challenged that Botetourt County Library owns: 13
# citizens challenging titles: 3
1 citizen requested a review of 12 titles
2 citizens requested a review of 1 title
# challenged titles any of the requestors said they read/viewed: 1
# times 13 challenged titles have been checked out without complaint: 278
Total purchase cost of all Botetourt-owned copies of all 13 challenged titles: $289
Estimated time/labor cost to review these 13 titles: $11,409
# years the 13 challenged titles have been on library shelves: range from 6 months to 13 years
% 13 challenged titles added to the collection before 2020: 75%

https://www.botetourtva.gov/817/BOCO-Facts-4-U

So, we're going to spend $11,500 in taxpayer dollars to review $300 worth of books because 3 people object to different lifestyles. I hope they're proud of themselves.


Thursday, May 25, 2023

Thursday Thirteen #810

In a few weeks, I am turning 60 years old. Here are 13 pieces of advice for someone turning 60 years old:

1. Embrace your age: Turning 60 is a milestone, so embrace it and appreciate the wisdom and experiences that come with it.

2. Take care of your health: Prioritize your physical and mental well-being. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and regular health check-ups can go a long way in maintaining good health.

3. Stay socially connected: Cultivate meaningful relationships with family, friends, and the community. Social connections contribute to overall happiness and well-being.

4. Pursue your passions: Explore new hobbies, interests, or activities that bring you joy. Use this time to indulge in activities that you may not have had time for earlier in life.

5. Plan for retirement: Evaluate your financial situation and consider retirement planning. Ensure you have a solid plan in place for a comfortable and secure retirement.


6. Travel and explore: Take the opportunity to travel and explore new places. Experiencing different cultures and landscapes can be enriching and fulfilling.

7. Maintain a positive mindset: Cultivate a positive attitude towards life. Focus on gratitude, mindfulness, and finding joy in the present moment.

8. Volunteer and give back: Consider volunteering for a cause that resonates with you. Giving back to society can be immensely rewarding and provide a sense of purpose.

9. Continuously learn: Never stop learning. Engage in lifelong learning through reading, taking courses, or acquiring new skills. It keeps your mind sharp and opens up new possibilities.

10. Reflect and set goals: Take time to reflect on your past achievements and experiences. Set new goals and aspirations for the future. Having a sense of purpose can provide motivation and fulfillment.

11. Take time for self-care: Prioritize self-care and relaxation. Engage in activities that help you unwind and recharge, such as meditation, yoga, or enjoying hobbies.

12. Spend quality time with loved ones: Cherish your time with family and friends. Create meaningful memories and strengthen your relationships by spending quality time together.

13. Embrace change: Life is ever-changing, and being open to new experiences and adapting to change is important. Embrace the opportunities that come your way and remain flexible in your outlook.



*ChatGPT assisted with this list.
Artwork from free photos from Dreamstime


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Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here if you want to read other Thursday Thirteens and/or play along. I've been playing for a while, and this is my 810th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday. Or so sayth the Blogger counter, anyway.

Tuesday, May 23, 2023

Flowers

 







Monday, May 22, 2023

Why News Media Should Unite for the Greater Good

Way back when in the old days of journalism, the local media fed off of one another. I could see when the local TV station, for example, had read the weekly paper I wrote for, because they'd pick up a story I wrote and make it their own.

While I enjoyed the thrill of breaking a story and "beating the competition," I never enjoyed or endorsed the competitive nature of the media beyond that point. Once I had the "scoop," I was happy to share.

However, other reporters for the "big paper" seldom talked to me, and the TV outlets were even worse. Generally, they acted as if I was not there. Occasionally, a reporter would be friendly, and I never hesitated to offer up background or whatever another writer needed for a story if asked.

But I was seldom asked. I know journalists are supposed to work the room themselves, find their own resources, and do their own follow-up, but I have found that it never hurts to talk to a colleague to get another perspective or to have background information I may not otherwise find. Nothing says I have to use their information. It's like reading Wikipedia - a good place to start but then you go on to do the rest of the research.

Journalists generally attended multiple meetings and saw a project or whatever from various angles, more so than the average person. I appreciated their point of view and their knowledge. I wasn't trying to steal from them, or them from me. But I did want accurate and complete information to pass on to my readers. It helped to know how a project went from point A to point B.

This has never been a thing, having media work together. With democracy on the line, I would argue that now is the time for that to happen. It is time for a national narrative that ignores the dollar bills and instead promotes the will of the majority and the good of the people.

Otherwise, we're going to end up with fascism and the destruction of the Constitution, and the end of our republic and the demise of democracy.

With newspaper readership declining and opinionated "entertainment news" all over the TV, perhaps it is time for a paradigm shift, emphasizing the numerous benefits of collaboration among newspapers, TV stations, and other news media outlets. This, hopefully, would enhance journalistic integrity, accuracy, and the overall impact of news reporting.

Collaboration does not imply compromising individual identities or perspectives but rather harnessing the collective strength of the news industry to fulfill its critical role in society. It's not called The Fourth Estate for nothing.

Collaboration would foster an environment that promotes journalistic integrity. By working together on a story, news media outlets could pool resources, share information, and conduct comprehensive investigations. Such cooperation could reduce the risk of biased or incomplete reporting and enhances fact-checking processes. Moreover, by collaborating, journalists would hold one another accountable and maintain higher ethical standards. Collective scrutiny would ensure that journalists strive for accuracy and objectivity, safeguarding the public's trust in the media. If news media outlets prioritized collaboration, they would send a powerful message about their commitment to the truth and the fundamental principles of journalism. This is especially important now, when so many news outlets are underfunded and understaffed.

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Coordinated efforts among news media outlets would have the potential to amplify the impact of important stories and increase public awareness. By sharing research, sources, and perspectives, media organizations would be able to construct a more comprehensive narrative, bringing greater attention to crucial issues. This is essentially what the TV media, and some print media, did to ensure the election of #45 and the loss of Hillary Clinton in 2016. He received way more attention (for ratings) and free press than she did.

Collaborative reporting would allow for a deeper exploration of complex topics, reaching a broader audience and inspiring meaningful conversations. Additionally, when multiple news media outlets present a unified front on critical matters, public trust would be reinforced, further emphasizing the significance of the reported stories. By working together, news media could create a collective voice that is louder, more influential, and capable of effecting positive change in society. There would always be dissenters who would see such collaboration as some kind of conspiracy.

In an era where misinformation and disinformation run rampant, collaboration among news media outlets should be indispensable. By sharing resources, cross-referencing facts, and aligning narratives, media organizations could more effectively counter the spread of false information. Collaborative fact-checking initiatives might help distinguish reliable sources from unreliable ones, empowering the public to make informed decisions. Furthermore, joint efforts could expose disinformation campaigns and highlight their deceptive tactics. By presenting a united front against misinformation, news media outlets could collectively protect the integrity of the information ecosystem, fortify public trust, and prevent the erosion of democracy.

Collaboration allows news media outlets to overcome resource limitations, particularly in an era of shrinking newsrooms and financial constraints. By pooling together their expertise, skills, and equipment, media organizations could undertake ambitious investigations and in-depth reporting that might otherwise be unfeasible. Shared resources enable the efficient allocation of limited budgets and personnel, ensuring the coverage of essential stories that may not receive adequate attention otherwise. Collaboration could also facilitate knowledge exchange, fostering professional growth, and expanding the collective capacity of the news industry.

By prioritizing collaboration, news media could enhance journalistic integrity, amplify the impact of stories, combat misinformation, and overcome resource limitations. Collective efforts would send a powerful message about the commitment to truth, while fostering public awareness and trust in most arenas.  Ultimately, by working together, news media outlets could inspire positive change, promote informed citizenship, and uphold the fundamental values of journalism.

It's a shame I fear we're too far gone for this to even be considered by other media.


*ChatGPT assisted with this essay.*

Sunday, May 21, 2023

Sunday Stealing


1. When you tell a story, do you often exaggerate?

A. Not often. I'm sure I have on occasion, but it is not a conscious decision. 

2. If a friend were almost always late, would you resent it or simply allow for it?

A. I allow for it. Lots of people do things I may not like, but I can't change them. I can only change my reaction to what they do.

3. Can you be counted on to be on time?

A. Unless I have car trouble or something unforeseen happens, yes.

4. When did you last yell at someone?  Why?

A. I imagine it was my husband and probably over something silly. 

5. If you could have free, unlimited service for five years from an extremely good cook, chauffeur, housekeeper, masseuse, or personal secretary, which would you choose?

A. I can't have someone who does them all? If I must choose, I'd chose the cook.

6. Would you be willing to go to a slaughterhouse and kill a cow?  Do you eat meat?

A. Yes, and yes.

7. Do you feel ill at ease going alone to either diner or a movie?  What about going on a vacation by yourself?

A. I feel more ill at ease these days than I used to. Being old, I am generally invisible now, though. I have never gone on vacation by myself.

8. Would you like to be famous?  In what way?

A. No, I would not like to be famous. I've already experienced that on a low level by writing for the local paper, and it's not pleasant. People are quick to criticize and seldom applaud.

9. Would you rather play a game with someone more or less talented than you?

A. More talented, so they can teach me something.

10. Is there something you've dreamed of doing for a long time?  Why haven't you done it?

A. Yes, and because I am afraid.

11. If you were at a friend's house for Thanksgiving dinner and found a dead cockroach in your salad, what would you do?

A. Well, I wouldn't eat the salad. Or anything else, probably. I might feign a stomachache and go home.

12. Would you accept $10,000 to shave your head and continue your normal activities sans hat or wig without explaining the reason for your haircut?

A. Sure. Hair grows back.

13. If you were able to wake up tomorrow in the body of someone else, would you do so?  Whom would you pick?

A. Does the other person wake up in my body? If so, the answer is no as I wouldn't wish that on someone else. If the other person just sort of goes away for a while, then I suppose some young person would be nice. Less aches and pains.

14. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

A. I really don't want to go there today, sorry.

15. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

A. Some of this is timing. You wouldn't joke about death right after someone died, say, but maybe later. However, the more horrific terrorist events we've been experiencing with guns should never be joked about - Virginia Tech, Sandy Hook, Uvalde, Charleston, etc. Only sick people would joke about kids being killed. 

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Saturday, May 20, 2023

Saturday 9: Mirrors


Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.


1) Is there a mirror in the room you're in now?

A. Yes. I hung one because I read some stuff about feng shui a long time ago and it said to fix the fact that my back is to the door when I'm working, I should hang a mirror. Or something like that.
 
2) In this song, Justin Timberlake tells his lover he just can't wait till they're together. What are you eagerly looking forward to today?

A. Not much.
 
3) Justin Timberlake is known as a sharp dresser who is always on trend. What item have you recently added to your wardrobe?

A. I bought two pair of pants earlier in the week.

4) Justin was an accomplished child performer who appeared on the entertainment competition show Star Search when he was just 11. When Crazy Sam was 11, her only job was loading and unloading the dishwasher, for which she received an allowance from her dad. Did you have chores when you were a kid?

A. I washed the dishes (or loaded and unloaded the dishwasher once we got one, which wasn't until I was 10), made my bed, vacuumed the floor, dusted, fed the chickens and other birds, gathered eggs, got in firewood, fixed the fire, sometimes made dinner, helped plant the garden, weeded the garden, brought in the vegetables, helped kill chickens, occasionally fed cattle, and looked after my brother. I didn't get an allowance and had to make straight As in school. And that was long before I was 11. I was washing dishes when I was 4 years old. I stood on the phone books piled on a chair so I could reach the sink. You were a slacker, Sam!
 
5) He says he tries never to miss breakfast, even on the road, and his favorite is peanut butter banana pancakes. Given the choice, do you prefer pancakes, french toast, or waffles?

A. Pancakes.

6) When they were still in their teens, Justin Timberlake and Britney Spears were sweethearts. Obviously it's been easy for him to keep up with her successes and problems over the years. Do you wonder what one of your exes is up to?

A. My exes would have been from my teenage years, and I seldom think about them.
 
7) In 2013, when this song was popular, Pope Benedict resigned. Thinking of your working life, have you felt greater stress on your first day at a job, or your last?

A. I felt stress throughout the entire time. I'm not sure either day was a picnic.

8) Also in 2013, the NHL owners reached an agreement with the players union and avoided a strike. Have you ever belonged to a union?

A. I have. I belonged to the National Writer's Union for a while, and my husband is a member of the International Association of Firefighters.

9) Random question: When was one of the first times when you felt like an adult?

A. I have always felt like an adult, really, but I suppose after I married I truly felt like one. 

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Thursday, May 18, 2023

Thursday Thirteen

1. I object to the fact that one of the grocery chains (Kroger) is doing away with the inserts in the newspaper. Yes, I still read a hard copy of the newspaper, but they're not even going to have the ads in the digital version.

2. The grocery chain is forcing shoppers to download their app in order to (a) see what's on sale and (b) receive more for their money using "digital coupons." I consider this extremely unfair and classist. It forces older people, who may not be as tech savvy, to pay more for items because they don't know how to use the app. It also forces people to interact with the app constantly in order to get the "digital" coupon.

3. This is time consuming. My solution has been to (mostly) stop shopping at this store. The first time I picked up something to purchase and missed the small print *with digital coupon* on a price and had to pay more for it, was the last time. I am shopping elsewhere now, as much as I can. Unfortunately, in a rural area, my options are slim, and this store sometimes is the only place I can purchase specific products.

4. My husband has a flip phone and not a smart phone, so he can't use the app and its stupid digital coupons, either. He's not the only person with a flip phone, I'm sure. The last time he was in the store, he called me so I could look up the digital coupons and put them on our card from my desktop.

5. My phone is a smart phone, but it is also at least 6 years old. It has trouble with QR codes. So, if I know I must go to Kroger, then I have to sit at my desktop, log into my account, and browse through the stupid digital coupons in order to get the price. (Actually, when it does pick up the QR code, you still have to flip through and "clip" the coupon to add to your account, they don't just automatically add themselves. Why is that? Why must I spend my time scrolling through this crap?)

6. If a store can afford to sell grapes at $1.99 a pound with a digital coupon, then why don't they just sell them for $1.99 in the first place, instead of robbing other people who aren't tech savvy and forcing them to pay $2.29 or whatever the "regular" price is.

7. I find coupons to be disingenuous. As I state in #6, if the product can be sold for the lower price, then sell it for that. This corporate greed has gotten way out of hand.

8. I also dislike self-check outs. Food Lion uses real people and produces jobs (so now I go there to shop more and more). Kroger has cut people yet doesn't pay me a dime to check out my own groceries. They've turned shoppers into workers and people simply accept that this is the way it is. Walmart has done the same thing. If you're going to force me to do all the work, then at least give me 10% off of my purchase or something. Robbers. Some corporations are just robbers.

9. It reminds me of how my mother complained when she had to start pumping her own gas. I am old enough to remember when she'd pull into the gas station and a fellow would come out, tip his hat to her, put gas in the car, and wash the windshield, with no extra cost for the $0.25 gallon of gas. Then somebody figured out people could pump their own gas, and that was the end of that.

10. People wonder where the jobs have gone. This is where a lot of jobs have gone - the companies figured out how to make you do something for free that they were paying staff to do.

11. This goes for other things like sending out paper statements and bills from the electric company or the credit card company. Somebody had to stuff the envelopes and take the payments. Who does that now if it's all online? Nobody even sees it, it goes through its little computer dance and poof! Maybe there are still people who reconcile accounts behind the scenes, but most of this is done with fewer people and more technology.

12. Which is to say, it's not the immigrants who are taking jobs. It's the people who have all the money who are finding ways to make even more who are stealing jobs. The less they need people, the less they have to pay out. Who needs a janitor when you can run an iBot over the floor?

13. I don't see this changing. If technology is going to continue to take jobs away, then somebody (and in this case I suspect it falls to the government) needs to find a way to create other types of work or we're going to end up with a world full of sick and unhappy people, with just a few at the top living molly-coddled lives while the rest suffer. People need jobs, they need purpose, they need to have basic needs filled. The times may be changing, but those basics haven't. 

Frankly, I'd rather pay the $2.29 for the grapes, not have to worry about a stupid coupon, and be checked out by a real person. 

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Wednesday, May 17, 2023

Heart, Heart

Yesterday I met with the cardiologist. The appointment went about like I expected. He seemed nice enough. He said he could hear a heart murmur in the upper right ventricle, though how he could tell where it was exactly was a mystery to me.

My brother told me last night he thought I'd always had a heart murmur, but no. I don't know where he got that idea. I'm certain if that had been the case, my doctor of over 15 years would not have declared that I have a new murmur she hadn't heard before.

The doctor ordered an echocardiogram, which I expected. The appointment is six weeks away. 

I forgot, and so did my husband, apparently, that I had a stress test about 20 years ago, when I was having a lot of chest pain that turned out to be reflux. I didn't remember until we got home, and it isn't on my personal chart at this hospital conglomerate, so I'm guessing it was before everything was put on computer. The records must be hiding in some deep dark place, never to be seen again. I wonder if I should write the doctor and tell him I remembered this. (Actually, I just checked my blog, and it was February 2009, I wrote about here.) Maybe I can just tell the folks who do the echocardiogram, now that I have an approximate date.

The doctor told me at some point I'd have to make decisions about taking a statin (I do not do well on them), blood thinners, etc., etc., and I should expect to have a heart attack. This is basically what my GP has told me for years.

Weight loss may help, but I have not been able to do that. The only time I've lost weight has been when I've had active ulcers and couldn't eat. I eat Cheerios almost every morning, but I seriously doubt that has helped my lipid levels.

Getting old is no fun. It's rather cruel, actually. 

Monday, May 15, 2023

At Least That Is Over

Mother's Day

I don't recall when I last dreaded a Mother's Day so much as this one. There was no reason to dread it, particularly, but it is not my favorite holiday anyway. I suspect my upcoming 60th birthday had something to do with it.

So, I stayed off of Facebook with its syrupy photos of happy mothers and adorable children who are now old, stodgy adults trying to rebuild a 20th century that hasn't existed for 50 years, and tried to ignore other aspects of the holiday as well. I did my part by ensuring my husband's mother received her due as matriarch, and gave my stepmother flowers, but otherwise, I was over this "holiday" before it even began.

It's no secret that my mother and I had a bad relationship. I have had trouble with this celebration ever since I was a teenager. Hallmark doesn't sell "I'm sorry I was born and ruined your life," cards. At least, not around here. Not in the hardware store where the Hallmark cards are now.

It doesn't help when the bank hands out presents to you without even asking if you're a mom. I guess they assume everyone with gray hair has children. But not all of us have moms, or had good moms, and not all of us have children.

There are women like me who have no mothers and no children, making us what, irrelevant?

Book Banning

On the local front, I hear through my line of contacts that the library board meeting last week was a doozy, complete with screaming, invasion of personal space, and possibly throwing things (I heard two different versions of that so let's just say something happened). Someone should have called the Sheriff's Office and asked for a deputy. I hope they do that next month.

The issue, at this juncture, is LBGTQ+ books in the children's section of the library, along with some other books that show how babies are made that narrow minds consider pornographic. I have only checked out one - the only one I can find that's available as an audiobook - and didn't find any issues with it.

Of course, I have no children, so I suppose some might say I have no dog in this fight, but to be clear, neither does the person who is causing most of the uproar. My dog in this fight is this - if I want to read a book, then I want it to be available or I want the library to order it for me so I can read it, and not be stifled by these Christian Nationalists who think anything that doesn't portray what they approve of shouldn't be purchased.

As if they are the only people in this county who pay taxes. Plenty of other folks who don't subscribe to their cult pay taxes, and we want our books.

Matters of the Heart

Tomorrow, I go to see a cardiologist. I have developed a new heart murmur and my doctor wants me checked out. She's been very helpful, saying things like, "Your blood pressure is at stroke level," and "You don't have to worry about getting dementia, you're going to die of a heart attack long before that happens."

She is trying to ensure I follow through and go see this person, I suppose. She doesn't have to try that hard. I am old enough to die, but I'd just as soon it not happen right away.

This first visit will likely just be a howdy-do and the cardiologist will listen to my heart and then order bloodwork and maybe an ultrasound to start. Maybe he will do an EKG since I haven't had one in 10 years. That would make sense.

The doctor my GP wanted me to see is not taking new patients, so I'm seeing someone I know nothing about, except for what I found on the Internet. He studied internal medicine at Carilion - VA Tech School of Medicine in 2014-2017, then went on to do heart stuff in Louisiana. He can't have been in practice very long, but perhaps that means he's current on all the new stuff. Some of the older doctors still do things like they did 20 years ago.

I am trying to be positive about it, but I don't do "positive" very well sometimes.




Sunday, May 14, 2023

Sunday Stealing


1. What is in the back seat of your car right now?

A. A cooler with water in it rests on the floorboard. I think on the seat are a couple of umbrellas, a visor for the windshield, and a cane. (I no longer need to use a cane, but I keep one in the car just in case.)

2. When was the last time you threw up?

A. I can't remember. I think it has been in this century, though.

3. What's your favorite word or phrase?

A. Interesting. It's a great catch-all that can either mean, "that's great," or "that's really stupid," but who knows which I really mean when I say it?

4. Name 3 people who made you smile today?

A. I've only been home with my husband today. Several of the Saturday 9 bloggers made me smile. Do they count?

5. What were you doing at 8 am this morning?

A. Eating breakfast.

6. What were you doing 30 minutes ago?

A. Laundry.

7. What would constitute the perfect evening for you?

A. Reading a book with the TV turned on to something I've already seen, while holding my husband's hand occasionally.

8. Have you ever been to a strip club?

A. No.

9. What is the last thing you said aloud?

A. "Amazon says the mail has come and there's a package in the box."

10. What is the best ice cream flavor?

A. I haven't had ice cream since I was 12 years old, but I expect for me it would be chocolate. 

11. What was the last thing you had to drink?

A. Water.

12. What are you wearing right now?

A. Jeans, a T-shirt, and sneakers.

13. What was the last thing you ate?

A. Yogurt-covered pretzels.

14. Have you bought any new clothing items this week?

A. Yes. I purchased a bra a Walmart. It's the first new one I've bought in years. 

15. When was the last time you ran?

A. About two weeks ago, the alert thing my mother-in-law uses went off and I received the urgent call on my cell phone. I froze for a second, debating whether to try to call her first, then decided that if everything was fine, she'd be on the phone with the alert people or my sister-in-law, who also would have gotten the alert, and if she wasn't fine she couldn't answer the phone, so I grabbed my cell and literally ran to the car and then drove to her house as fast as I could. Fortunately, it was a false alarm. She'd accidentally hit a button. I think I was there in two minutes or less. She said it was good to know people actually responded to the thing - the alert people had called her to double check, and my sister-in-law and husband called (I called him en route), and I showed up. I was closest.

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Saturday, May 13, 2023

Saturday 9: Mama Said


Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) This week's song is about a girl who remembers wise advice she received from her mother. Tell us about someone who advised you years ago and to this day you think, "They were right!"

A. My second-grade teacher told me I'd be a writer. She was right.

2) She sings about hearing chapel bells. Can you hear church bells ringing from your home?

A. No, I cannot. Occasionally when the weather is right, I can hear a distant train.
 
3) This week's featured artists are the Shirelles, a group formed in New Jersey in 1957. They are credited for beginning the girl group genre. Name another popular girl group.

A. Heart.

4) In 1961, when this song was popular, Jacqueline Kennedy appeared on the cover of Ladies Home Journal three times. Is there a printed magazine in your home right now? If so, who is on the cover?

A. I have a copy of Birds and Blooms and it has a bullock oriole on it. I did have the most recent AARP magazine and I think Diane Keaton was on it, but I finished reading it and it went out with the recycling.

5) This song was chosen in celebration of Mother's Day. More phone calls are made on Mother's Day than any other day of the year. Who was your last phone call from?

A. My husband called to tell me he would be home late because he was getting the hay out of the hayfield.
 
6) Salons see a bump in appointments around Mother's Day every year. Partly because moms want to look good for their day, but also because hair, spa and nail services are a popular Mother's Day gift. When did you most recently go to a salon, and was it for your hair, complexion, or nails?

A. I had a haircut on Monday. 

7) Similarly, restaurants experience a spike in reservations on Mother's Day. Where did you last dine out? Was a reservation required?

A. We haven't eaten in a restaurant in quite a long time. We last had take-out from a local burger joint.
 
8) The most popular Mother's Day gift is still the greeting card. Where do you card shop: drugstore, bookstore, card shop, etc.?

A. Drugstore for cards, usually. I am not aware of any card shops still in operation around here. We used to have several Hallmark shops, but now they are located inside of Ace Hardware.

9) Sam is celebrating Mother's Day with her mother's favorite, Hershey Bars. Would you prefer classic milk chocolate, dark chocolate or chocolate with almonds?

A. Classic milk chocolate please, and thank you, Sam.

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Friday, May 12, 2023

Having a Rest