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Friday, May 16, 2025
Mary, Queen of Scots
Thursday, May 15, 2025
Thursday Thirteen
6. Did you ever use a pay phone to call for a ride home? They used to be everywhere - in the stores, on the street corners. I wonder where Superman changes clothes these days?
Wednesday, May 14, 2025
I Think It Just Means I’m Human
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Being a good person isn’t about being perfect. It’s about the choices we make every day, how we treat others, and how we handle challenges. If a person is kind, honest, and strives to do what’s right, that’s a strong sign of a decent human.
What other ways might we be good humans? How about these questions: Do you listen to others and show empathy? Do you take responsibility for your actions? Do you try to make the world around you a little better?
Hopefully, we all do that. But sometimes, we can be too hard on ourselves. Our perspectives might get skewed, or maybe they’ve been skewed by someone else. But one person’s viewpoint, including your own on a bad day, doesn’t define who you are.
For me, one of the biggest things is feeling heard. As a woman, it’s easy to feel voiceless in a patriarchal world, where male voices, especially white male voices, are often the ones that count. It’s painful when people don’t really hear us. It can make you feel invisible, like your feelings and experiences don’t matter.
But my perspective, everyone's really, is valid. All voices deserve to be heard.
Feeling unheard can be isolating and exhausting. You can do your best and still feel like a ghost in the conversation. But that reflects more on the listener’s inability to see or acknowledge what’s being said than on the speaker.
All of our experiences, our emotions, our truths matter. Whether or not someone else chooses to recognize them doesn’t make them any less real.
When someone feels unheard, it’s natural to build walls to protect the self and try to control how one is perceived. When your perspective is constantly dismissed, it can make you second-guess yourself. That can lead to habits like over-apologizing and striving for perfection. But perfection? It's an impossible standard, and no one needs to earn their worth that way.
Sometimes, all we can do is strive to create a connection. Maybe we share knowledge, experiences, and interests in a meaningful way that feels safe. It’s like extending a hand without exposing the deepest parts of yourself. We offer something valuable without the weight of vulnerability.
We all need to build a life, a voice, and a community that is ours. We get to choose who is a part of that. We get to shape our own story. Maybe the most important family is the one we create: the people who support us, who hear us, who make life feel lighter instead of heavier.
There’s resilience in that. It takes strength to move forward, even if it’s in tiny increments, every day.
Someone told me recently that when they look at me, they see someone who is thoughtful, who has endured difficult things without becoming cruel, who strives to understand herself and the world around her.
Monday, May 12, 2025
No Joy in Hacks
Spoilers for Hacks ahead. Maybe. You've been warned.
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My husband and I both loved the first three seasons of Hacks, which shows on MAX. The show is about an older female comedian Deborah Vance (played by Jean Smart) who takes on a young writer Ava Daniels (played by Hannah Einbinder), and how they work together to make Vance's career improve. Together they create a gateway to stardom.
Season 3 ended with Ava blackmailing Vance in order to get the head writer's job as Vance became the first female late night talk show host.
Season 4 has, in my opinion, been perfectly awful.
Oh, it's well acted, and I see accolades online about it, but I have not found anything funny about it. The hostility between the leads has been beyond the pale and so over the top as to be stomach churningly disgusting.
I do not find hate and bitterness funny. I find it sad.
The trampling of a relationship, even one that may be salvaged by the season's end, is nothing to laugh about. I appreciate a little tension as much as anyone, but not vile hatred.
The boss/underling dynamic is overwrought, and the supporting characters are, generally speaking, not helping anything one bit. I don't care about the agent and his co-agent woman, nor do I care about the HR lady who must keep Deborah and Ava from snapping at one another. I don't know the names of any of the other writers for the make-believe late-night show, nor do I care to know them. There has been no reason for me to care.
There have been good moments, and the acting is superb for what it is, but they have taken away what I liked about the show. I liked the relationship between Deborah and Ava, I liked that there was an older woman making friends with a younger woman, and that they both were trying to learn about each other's worlds. That was what I liked.
I don't like the constant sniping and bitchiness.
The show that just dropped offered a glimmer of hope that the last few episodes may turn things around a bit, but if the next episode isn't an improvement, I don't know that I will finish out the season.
Five Things
In solidarity with federal workers, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. I don't know if they still have to do that, but I have kept it up since it's a quick way to get something on the blog for Monday. Since I don't have a regular job, it's a fairly mundane list.
1. Took care of house and husband.
2. Took relative to two different doctor appointments.
3. Ordered Mother's Day flowers
4. Wrote several poems.
5. Paid the bills.
Sunday, May 11, 2025
Sunday Stealing
I encourage you to visit other participants in Sunday Stealing posts and leave a comment. Cheers to all us thieves who love memes, however we come by them.
Saturday, May 10, 2025
Saturday 9: Mama Liked the Roses
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Thursday, May 08, 2025
Thursday Thirteen
1. Mini Hand Squirrel – Tiny vinyl squirrel finger covers that turn your hand into a bizarre woodland creature. Find it here.
2. Rubber Chicken Purse – Make a fashion statement that says, “Yes, I am clucking fabulous.” Bonus: doubles as an impromptu comedy prop. Check it out.
3. Toilet Timer – Give your bathroom philosopher friends a subtle nudge. Sand runs out in five minutes, but existential pondering is forever. See it here.
4. Bacon Strip Bandages – Heal your wounds while making everyone question whether you’ve cooked yourself. Not edible, but undeniably hilarious. Get them here.
5. Anatomy Swimsuit – Science meets beachwear! Impress your fellow swimmers while deeply confusing lifeguards. Take a look.
6. Cat Tongue Brush – Want to bond with your cat like a real feline parent? This brush lets you groom them by “licking” them. Results may include deep regret. Find it here.
7. Urinal Shot Glasses – Because nothing makes taking a shot more appealing than miniature plumbing fixtures. Cheers? Check them out.
8. Handerpants – Underwear for your hands. Because traditional gloves were too mainstream. Fashion crime or genius invention? You decide. See them here.
9. Hot Dog Soap – Nothing says “refreshing” like rubbing a soap bar shaped like a meaty snack all over yourself. Try explaining this to house guests. Get it here.
10. Human Face Stress Balls – Squish away stress with these unsettlingly realistic face-shaped stress balls. Perfect for lighthearted therapy or creeping out co-workers. Find them here.
11. Shrek Toothpaste Cap – Every morning, the mighty Shrek emerges to bless your dental hygiene journey. Because brushing should be an ogre-sized adventure. Check it out.
12. Baguette Pillow – The dream of cuddling a loaf of bread is finally a reality! Perfect for the carb enthusiast who refuses to sleep in anything less than full French bakery luxury. See it here.
13. Throw Throw Burrito – A dodgeball card game where soft burritos become projectiles. Finally, a reason to pelt your loved ones with food without starting a family feud. Get it here.
Wednesday, May 07, 2025
Joan of Arc on May 7, 1429
I recently started watching a 5-part documentary series called Warrior Women on Amazon Prime. It is narrated by Lucy Lawless (who played Xena: Warrior Princess on the show of the same name). Her first story was about Joan of Arc. I've always been fascinated by this young woman, who somehow managed to lead armies into battle only to end up burned at the stake.AI Image
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Imagine a city teetering on the edge of defeat, surrounded by enemies, its people losing hope. Enter Joan of Arc—a teenage peasant with an unshakable belief in her divine mission, clad in armor, leading an army into battle with unwavering conviction. What happened on May 7, 1429, was nothing less than extraordinary.
The Siege of Orléans: A Leader Like No Other
By the time Joan arrived at Orléans, the English siege had lasted over seven months. The city was starving, morale was crumbling, and surrender seemed inevitable. But Joan—just 17 years old, fiercely determined, and radiating an almost supernatural charisma—believed she was sent by God to drive the English out of France.
Though many doubted her, she refused to be dismissed. She convinced Charles VII, the hesitant French king, to let her lead an army—a decision that would change everything. This was not just about military strategy. This was about hope.
The Storming of Les Tourelles: Joan’s Defining Moment
On May 7, 1429, Joan led a daring assault on the English stronghold of Les Tourelles, a fortress guarding the entrance to Orléans. With her banner held high, she rallied troops like no other leader could. Her presence on the battlefield was electrifying, not just because she fought, but because she inspired.
As the battle raged, Joan was struck by an arrow, falling to the ground. Anyone else might have retreated, but Joan was not anyone else. She insisted on returning to the fight, despite the injury, charging forward with renewed determination. Her soldiers—previously disheartened—matched her energy, overwhelming the English forces.
By nightfall, the French claimed victory. The next day, the English abandoned their siege. Joan had not only won a battle—she had transformed the war.
Why This Day Mattered
Joan’s triumph at Orléans was not just a military success—it was a psychological victory for France. The tide of the Hundred Years’ War began to shift. Over the next few months, Joan continued to lead armies, paving the way for Charles VII’s coronation.
But her rise was meteoric—and dangerous. Her unwavering faith and unorthodox leadership made her both revered and feared. In 1431, she was captured and burned at the stake as a heretic. Yet even in death, she remained resolute, refusing to renounce her visions.
Centuries later, she was canonized as a saint.
Joan of Arc was not just a warrior—she was a visionary, a leader, and a woman who defied every expectation. Her sheer conviction, courage, and refusal to accept defeat made May 7, 1429, a day that changed history.
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Tuesday, May 06, 2025
More on the Courthouse Demolition
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| What's left of the structure as of Sunday. |
The Botetourt County Courthouse demolition continues. The county plans to replace this building with a $30 million structure that will have two circuit court courtrooms and plenty of space for whatever else is needed, along with accessibility and safety features.
Anyway, that was the plan last time I saw it. Given the current administration's weird fixation on things that makes life a little easier for some folks, I can only assume that the locality will move forward with what was approved, even if accessibility features might be "woke" because apparently handicapped people don't need to use the courtroom or something.
This is what the new structure is supposed to look like:
This is what the old structure looked like (without the steeple):
I wrote about this a few weeks ago here, when the front was still in place. It is gone now. Soon this will be just a memory.
Also, if you're interested in seeing the construction as it happens, it can be viewed at fincastlecourthousecam.com. There's a live cam showing the process.
Monday, May 05, 2025
Governmental Neglect
A Critical Look at Systemic Neglect
Since January, the current administration has enacted sweeping budget cuts that disproportionately affect healthcare, food assistance, and other essential social programs. While these measures are often framed as "cost-saving" initiatives, their consequences raise ethical concerns about governance and the treatment of marginalized populations, particularly low-income and disabled folks.
The Impact of Healthcare Cuts
One of the most significant policy shifts has been the reduction in funding for the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS). The administration has eliminated thousands of jobs within the agency, including positions at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Food and Drug Administration (FDA). These cuts have led to the termination of health-tracking programs that monitor disease trends, environmental health risks, and public health emergencies. Without these programs, policymakers and healthcare providers lack critical data to address health disparities. Already the Covid-19 vaccinations for fall are at risk. How many will the newest strain kill?
Food Assistance and Economic Strain
The administration has also targeted food assistance programs, reducing funding for initiatives that support low-income families. These cuts disproportionately affect disabled individuals and those living in poverty, exacerbating food insecurity and economic instability. The justification for these reductions often centers on eliminating "wasteful spending," yet the long-term consequences may lead to increased healthcare costs and social unrest. I daresay the spending isn't wasteful to the mother trying to feed her children. Isn't the pro-life crowd in charge now?
A Systemic Pattern?
Some critics argue that these policy decisions reflect a broader ideological stance—one that prioritizes economic efficiency over human welfare. By systematically reducing support for vulnerable populations, the administration risks reinforcing social hierarchies that favor the elite while neglecting those deemed "unnecessary" or "unwanted." This approach raises ethical questions about governance and the role of public institutions in safeguarding citizens' well-being.
I would go so far as to say that the government is practicing a weird form of eugenics (trying to breed desirable qualities into people), as a type of "cleansing" of the kind of people that the oligarchy (or bro billionaires) find repugnant and unacceptable. After all, if they're dead, they can't breed. The government wants women to have more children, but I have the impression it's only the "right kind" of women they want to have those kids.
Conclusion
The current administration's approach to budget cuts is ill-advised, unwarranted, and unsound. I would much rather see a million dollars spent knowing there will be some loss to fraud than to end assistance entirely. The elimination of essential health and food assistance programs disproportionately affects marginalized communities, raising questions about the ethical implications of governance. As these policies unfold, it is crucial to examine their long-term impact and advocate for solutions that prioritize human dignity over economic expediency.
For further details on these policy changes, you can explore sources such as The Hill, Federal News Network, and The Conversation. Also check out HHS.gov for an outline on the official announcement regarding the transformation of HHS, including workforce reductions and policy shifts and HHS Fact Sheet, which details the restructuring plan, including budget cuts and consolidation of divisions.
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Five Things
Five things I did last week -
1. Went to the grocery store.
2. Went to downtown Roanoke.
3. Visited the local farmers' market.
4. Saw my doctor.
5. Had the heat pump/air conditioner checked and serviced.
Sunday, May 04, 2025
Sunday Stealing
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Saturday, May 03, 2025
Saturday 9: Georgia on My Mind
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Thursday, May 01, 2025
Thursday Thirteen
Beltane is an ancient Celtic festival celebrated on May 1, marking the transition from spring to summer. Traditionally, it was a fire festival, with large bonfires lit to honor the sun and encourage fertility, growth, and protection for the coming season. In early Irish customs, cattle were driven between two fires as a ritual to safeguard them from disease before they were sent to summer pastures.
The festival is deeply connected to nature and renewal, symbolizing the union of masculine and feminine energies, often represented by the Green Man and the May Queen. People would dance around the Maypole, weave floral crowns, and engage in joyous celebrations to welcome abundance and prosperity. Beltane was also believed to be a time when the veil between the human and supernatural worlds was thin, allowing fairies and spirits to roam freely.
Modern Pagan and Wiccan communities continue to celebrate Beltane with bonfires, feasts, and rituals that honor passion, creativity, and the life-giving forces of nature. It remains a vibrant and meaningful holiday for those who embrace the rhythms of the earth and the cycles of renewal.
Here are other things than have happened on May 1:
1. 1006 – A supernova is observed by Chinese and Egyptian astronomers in the constellation Lupus.
2. 1308 – Albert I, King of Germany, is assassinated by his nephew John of Swabia.
3. 1328 – The Treaty of Edinburgh-Northampton ends the Wars of Scottish Independence, recognizing Scotland as an independent state.
4. 1753 – Carl Linnaeus publishes Species Plantarum, marking the formal start of plant taxonomy.
5. 1924 – Iodized salt is first sold in the United States to combat iodine deficiency.
6. 1931 – The Empire State Building is officially dedicated in New York City.
7. 1941 – Citizen Kane, often considered the greatest film ever made, premieres in New York City.
8. 1961 – The first major airplane hijacking in the U.S. occurs, forcing a flight to detour to Cuba.
9. 1971 – Amtrak begins service in the United States.
10. 1991 – Baseball player Rickey Henderson steals his 939th base, breaking the MLB record.
11. 1999 – The body of British mountaineer George Mallory is discovered on Mount Everest, 75 years after his disappearance.
12. 2004 – The European Union expands to include 10 new member states.
13. 2011 – Pope John Paul II is beatified in Vatican City.
Wednesday, April 30, 2025
Parts of a Septic System
Tuesday, April 29, 2025
A Poem
Time here doesn't pass,
it unravels.
I followed the birds,
thinking they might remember
where home was,
but they only circled
and screamed.
but I don't remember
coming through it.
Was I meant to leave
or meant to arrive?
wire slack,
duty long abandoned.
The trees lean away from me,
their branches like warning hands.
a smudge of fire
pressed through ash.
like something I once knew.
A fence.
A hill.
A silence so thick
it feels like breathing dust.
Names slip.
Faces blur.
Even my own shadow
has stopped trying to follow.
something waits—
a fragment of warmth,
a sound I almost know,
humming in the dark like memory.
You once said hope
was a steady light,
but I’ve learned
it flickers
like a match in a storm—
sometimes lost,
sometimes hiding,
never quite gone.
If I keep walking,
maybe I’ll find it.
Or maybe I’ll become it—
the thing that stays behind,
after a voice stops singing,
as the birds rise
into a sky that no longer cares
if I was ever here.








