Monday, July 28, 2025

Five Things

 


Last week, I:

1. had a mammogram. Do it, ladies!

2. saw the chiropractor.

3. watched the Board of Supervisors meeting.

4. went to the grocery store.

5. did the usual chores.



In solidarity with federal workers, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. I don't know if they still have to do that, but I have kept it up since it's a quick way to get something on the blog for Monday. Since I don't have a regular job, it's a fairly mundane list.

Sunday, July 27, 2025

Sunday Stealing



Living in the World, Not on It

1) You're on a trip taking a tour through the jungle. You have a backpack with some food, first aid supplies, a pocketknife, a flashlight and a couple bottles of water. Somehow, you get separated from your group. By night fall you haven't found your group and haven't heard them looking for you. How long do you think you would be able to survive on your own?

A. As long as the water lasts, and hopefully there's rain to make it last longer.
 
2) Do you think it's okay to lie to spare someone's feelings? Why? 

A. I think it is ok to give little white lies, like "Oh yes, that dress looks lovely on you" when it kind of doesn't. Those are lies that keep someone from feeling bad about themselves. Otherwise, it really depends on the situation. 

3) If a talking doll were made to resemble you, what 3 phrases would it say?

A. "That's interesting." "I love you." "You are beautiful to me."

4) If the superpower to be able to read minds at will was possible, do you think it would be... cool and helpful, intrusive and wrong, manipulative or maddening?

A. I think it would be intrusive and wrong, as well as manipulative and maddening. I don't think it would be a good power to have.

5) Are drunk confessions things people can't bring themselves to say sober or just the crazy ramblings of an influenced and intoxicated mind? 

A. I think they can be both.

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Saturday, July 26, 2025

Saturday 9: Rhythm of My Heart


Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) Rod Stewart sings that the words "I love you" roll off his tongue. When did you most recently say, "I love you?"

A. Last night. My husband and I say it all the time.
 
2) In "Rhythm of My Heart," he recalls running down the alley with his lady love. Does your neighborhood have alleys?

A. My neighborhood has farm trails. No alleys.
 
3) Rod is well known for his coif. Are you having a good hair day today?

A. Lots of humidity and high heat today, so no.
 
4) Rod was the youngest of 5. He remembers that, as a family, they enjoyed singing with Al Jolson records. Did your family have singalongs?

A. Not exactly.

5) He is proud of his luxury car collection, which includes a Rolls Royce, a Ferrari and the one rumored to be his favorite: a classic mid-70s Lamborghini Countach LP400 Periscopio. Looking back on years as a driver and a car owner, which vehicle is your all-time favorite?

A. I had 1989 Ford Taurus that was a very good car. I drove it for 10 years. I also liked my 2003 Toyota Camry, which I also drove for 10 years. Both performed well and required little maintenance.
 
6) Rod turned 80 this year and he's still touring. Once known for his hard partying, he takes better care of himself now and rides a stationary bike every day. What steps do you take to keep fit?

A. I walk on the treadmill.

7) In 1991, when this song was popular, Star Trek creator Gene Roddenberry died. Do you have a favorite Star Trek character?

A. From the original series, my favorite would have been Dr. McCoy aka Bones. My favorite from the series overall would be Captain Kathryn Janeway.

8) Also in 1991, Seinfeld was a big deal on network television. Today the entire series is available to stream and on DVD. When you binge a show, are you more likely to pop in a disc or turn to a streaming service?

A. We have DVDs of many shows, so I guess that, although I also stream some shows now that we have Internet that actually works.
 
9) Random question: Have you ever cared for a hamster or a gerbil? (Extra non-existent Saturday 9 points for its name.)

A. I have never had a hamster or a gerbil.
 
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Thursday, July 24, 2025

Thursday 13

 

Fictional Female Journalists/Writers

1. Lois Lane (Superman) – Dives into danger and conspiracy with a voice that says “This needs to be told,” even if no one believes her yet.

2. Murphy Brown (Murphy Brown) – Commanding the newsroom with integrity and dry wit, she made journalism feel like rebellion with credentials.

3. Carrie Bradshaw (Sex and the City) – Her columns blurred memoir with cultural critique, reminding us the political starts in the personal.

4. Rita Skeeter (Harry Potter) – Sleazy, spectacular, and fully bewitched—she's the cautionary tale every journalist conjures when ethics go poof.

5. Andie Anderson (How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days) – Her yellow dress got the headlines, but the real story was a smart woman stuck in shallow copy.

6. Bridget Jones (Bridget Jones’s Diary) – Hilariously human behind the scenes of televised fluff. She chronicled her own chaos with brutal charm.

7. Hallie Shea (The Newsroom) – Campaign trail correspondent with fire in her belly and friction in her relationships. A woman navigating truth in the eye of the political storm.

8. Brenda Starr (Brenda Starr, Reporter) – Glamorous, globe-trotting, and never far from a mystery or a romance. She made deadlines look like adventures and high heels look like armor.

9. Michelle Capra (Northern Exposure) – A travel columnist turned small-town observer. She wrestled with editorial pressure, cultural dissonance, and the quiet power of local storytelling.

10. Lee Smith (Civil War) – A hardened war photojournalist who bore witness to America’s unraveling. Her final act was not a shot—it was a sacrifice.

11. Jane Curtin (Saturday Night Live) – Dry, deadpan, and slyly subversive. As the straight woman on Weekend Update, she turned parody into media commentary with a raised eyebrow and perfect timing.

12. Jo March (Little Women) – A scribbler in the attic who became a published author. She wrote with fire, sold stories to skeptical editors, and eventually turned her pen into a golden goose.

13. Vicki Vale (Batman) – Gotham’s photojournalist with a nose for danger and a heart that sees through masks. She chased truth in a city built on secrets—and sometimes fell for one.

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Tuesday, July 22, 2025

Reflections from a Veteran Reporter

The Art of Newswriting

In an era when news often feels rushed and superficial, there’s something refreshing about looking back at the craft of reporting as it once was—where curiosity, patience, and empathy shaped the stories that truly mattered.

As a former weekly paper reporter, I learned early on that being a good journalist was about more than just asking questions. It was about listening deeply, holding space for the unexpected, and sometimes sitting in silence until the real story surfaced.

A long, pregnant pause in an interview can be unnerving for the subject, but it’s also a powerful tool. It creates a moment where the interviewee, caught off guard by the quiet, often reveals something genuine. It’s in these pauses that truth often hides.

And then there’s the closing question I came to rely on: “Was there something I should have asked you but didn’t?” This simple line can turn an interview on its head, prompting reflection and sometimes delivering the key insight that shifts the entire story.

Interviewing people in their homes added another layer of discovery. I learned early on to ask to use the restroom—not out of necessity, but as a chance to quietly open the vanity cabinet or take in what people collected when I could see into other rooms. A collection of salt and pepper shakers might not be the headline, but it adds texture and sparkle to an otherwise straightforward piece, helping readers see the subject as a real person with quirks and stories beyond the main topic.

All this had to be done on a tight schedule, generally forty-five minutes or less. Weekly newspapers don’t have the luxury of months to develop a story. Quick, sharp, and compassionate was the order of the day.

I especially treasured the “hit in the heart” stories—those about people with disabilities, or community efforts like the angel tree at Christmas. One year, my reporting on the angel tree helped raise $20,000—the most the local social services office had ever received. It was proof that words could move people to action.

It’s too bad that today’s news media often lean more toward entertainment than actual information. I saw my work as an educational guide for my readers, a way to give them facts and context they otherwise wouldn’t have, delivered in a way they could understand. I included backstory when necessary, so the issues became clearer and more meaningful. I wish today’s journalists would focus more on educating their readers than entertaining them. I think we would all be better off.

Today’s journalism landscape often prioritizes speed, clicks, and entertainment value over depth and empathy. The art of holding space in an interview, of asking the tough but thoughtful questions, seems to be fading.

But there’s a lesson in those quieter, more deliberate moments: true journalism isn’t about performance. It’s about building trust, being patient, and caring enough to wait for the real story to emerge.

As I reflect on my years reporting, I realize those experiences weren’t just about gathering facts. They were about honoring the humanity behind each story. 


Monday, July 21, 2025

Five Things




Last week I:

1. had a haircut.

2. cleaned the house with the assistance of my housecleaning helper.

3. saw my chiropractor.

4. walked on the treadmill.

5. wrote a couple of drafts of short stories.



In solidarity with federal workers, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. I don't know if they still have to do that, but I have kept it up since it's a quick way to get something on the blog for Monday. Since I don't have a regular job, it's a fairly mundane list.

Sunday, July 20, 2025

Sunday Stealing


 

1. My bestie and I once ... fooled the checkout clerk at the grocery store into thinking we were sisters.

2. When I'm nervous ... I eat.

3. My hair ... is turning gray.

4. When I turn to the left, I see ... a bookshelf with books and cameras on it, my guitars, two clocks, a picture of Gandolf from Lord of the Rings, and other stuff.

5. My favorite aunt ... seldom calls me.

6. I have a hard time understanding ... what is going on in the world.

7. You know I like you if ... I talk to you.

8. When I was 5 years old ... I told my mother my brother had swallowed a bottle of aspirin and saved his life.

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Saturday, July 19, 2025

Saturday 9: It All Depends on You




Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.

1) In this song, Shirley Bassey sings that she could be happy or sad. As you answer these questions, do lean more toward happy or sad?

A. I am fair to middlin'. 
 
2) She tells us that she can save money or spend it. Do you try to stick to a budget?

A. I try to stick to a budget for the household items. The farm? Eh. Depends on machinery breakdowns and bugs and such.
 
3) By the time Shirley Bassey recorded "It All Depends on You," it was already an oldie, written back in 1926. Can you think of a song, book, or movie that you enjoy today that you believe audiences will relate to 2125?

A. For a song: I Did It My Way. For a book: The Lord of the Rings. For a TV series: M*A*S*H. For a movie: The Wizard of Oz.
 
4) Though she has risen to the title Dame Commander of the British Empire (DBE), her childhood allowed her little education. She dropped out at 15 and got a factory job to help her family. How old were you when you got your first full-time job? What was it?

A. I was 18 and I worked as a receptionist.

5) A favorite of the Royal Family, Shirley performed at the Queen's Diamond Jubilee Party at Buckingham Palace. How would you like to celebrate your next anniversary or birthday? Are you in the mood for a big blow out, or would you prefer something low key?

A. My anniversary is next, and we will, as always, have a quiet celebration.
 
6) Madame Tussaud's has two wax figurines of Shirley – one in London and a second in Las Vegas. Do you enjoy wax museums, or do you think they're creepy?

A. I have memories of visiting a wax museum in Williamsburg when I was in elementary school and we took a school trip there and being rather creeped out by it. I don't think it still exists, though.

7) In 1959, when this song was popular, most women wore nylons on a daily basis and the average price per pair was $1. What socks or leg wear – if any – do you have on right now?

A. Nothing on right now, but I normally wear compression socks. I take medications that make my ankles swell.

8) Also in 1959, Alaska became our 49th state. Today, cruise lines showcase Alaska on 4- or 7-night cruises. What do you consider the perfect length for a vacation trip? Is a 3-day weekend too short? Are two weeks away from home too long? What's your ideal?

A. Three-day weekend vacations are too short, two weeks is too long. I think a week is about right.
 
9) Random question: Which cable channel would you watch more often – one that shows nothing but classic sitcoms, or one that shows nothing but new movies?

A. Probably the one with the sitcoms.

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Friday, July 18, 2025

In the End, She Stayed

I just finished listening to a fiction book, What Are You Going Through, by Sigrid Nunez (2020). It is literary fiction.

It's about a woman who stands by a friend with a terminal illness, some kind of never-identified cancer. The woman wants to commit suicide in order to have a beautiful death. Or a better death, at any rate.

She doesn't want to suffer.

I wish a good death upon everyone. You know, the kind where you fall asleep in a chair, your favorite TV show on or a book in your hand, and you just never wake up.

But we don't have those kinds of deaths. We have long lingering deaths that can take years, sometimes.

They are not fun. I watched that with my mother when she had pancreatic cancer. She never once, to my knowledge, thought of euthanasia as an out.

But I had a friend who was diagnosed with a terminal illness who did think of it.

We had a long talk about it one day over lunch, about six months after her diagnosis. She wasn't going for any long-term treatments, no organ transplants, she told me. And she wanted to go when she wanted to go.

She'd already contacted an organization in England that assisted people who were terminal and wanted to die, she said. She had the information in hand. This was how she wanted to go.

Her husband was against it, she said. But this was her plan. Someone would need to help her, she thought. She didn't know who that might be, but she hoped to convince him it was the right thing to do.

She did not ask me to help her. I did not volunteer, but I would have helped her. Even if it had meant I went to jail, I would have been there for her if that had been her wish. In the book, the narrator was there for her friend until the end.

My friend and I never discussed this subject again, and as her life dwindled down from a five-year span to months, I realized that she wasn't going to go through with it.

She was going to go the way she had said she didn't want to go, with hospice hovering about, and her loved ones telling her goodbye, her body growing thinner and weaker. One day she wrote me that the only way she could communicate with me was via text. Emails were too hard to write. She couldn't talk on the phone. 

She would die in her own home when life finally left her.

But it would not be by her own hand.

I was surprised, really, that she didn't go through with her initial plan. She was always so forthright, so quick to do what she wanted, and her control of herself and her thoughts were almost superhuman. 

This book brought all of that back to me, how my friend and I had discussed this in depth, in earnest. How I had thought until the last months of her life that she would, at some point, die by her own hand.

The will to live is a strong pull, stronger even, than the will to die a beautiful death. I remember watching my mother's fight to live. My friend's fight to live was no less devastating, but not quite so tortuous to me because she was, after all, a friend I loved, not my mother.

The book portrayed the narrator not as a hero, but as a kind, reflective woman who wanted what was best for her friend. But she also found the whole situation disturbing, and at the end, she wondered, what exactly is the meaning of life?

I wonder about this, too.

I see this valiant will to live in the longevity of many folks around me, people who are still going strong in their 90s. What have they found to live for? What keeps them going? The desire to see great grandchildren? The need to prove something?

What, actually, keeps me going? Love for my husband? My need to take care of him, to see to him, and ensure that he's happy, or at least as happy as he can be? 

I'm not really sure I know. Does anyone really know what they are living for, until those words from the doctor tell them their time is nearly gone?

Thursday, July 17, 2025

Thursday Thirteen



Some authors feel like old friends. You meet them in a moment of escape, curiosity, or heartbreak, and somehow, they stay with you. Their characters linger, their stories echo, and their voices become part of your own inner dialogue. This week’s Thursday 13 is a tribute to the women writers who’ve shaped my reading life, some for decades, others more recently. They’ve made me laugh, cry, think harder, and feel more deeply.

Here are 13 women whose books have left a lasting mark:

1. Janet Evanovich
With her Stephanie Plum series, Evanovich delivers mystery with a side of chaos and comedy. Her quirky bounty hunter heroine navigates New Jersey’s underbelly with sass, luck, and a rotating cast of romantic entanglements.

2. L.M. Montgomery
The creator of Anne of Green Gables and other books that follow in the series, Montgomery gave the world a red-headed orphan with imagination and grit. Her stories are steeped in nature, nostalgia, and the quiet strength of small-town life.

3. Jennifer Weiner
From Good in Bed to The Griffin Sisters’ Greatest Hits, Weiner writes with humor and heart. Her novels explore modern womanhood with honesty, wit, and a deep understanding of complicated relationships.

4. Lee Smith
A Southern literary treasure, Smith’s Fair and Tender Ladies and Silver Alert, among others, capture the rhythms of Appalachian life. Her characters are flawed, funny, and unforgettable.

5. Louise Penny
Penny’s Chief Inspector Gamache series is more than mystery, it’s philosophy wrapped in suspense. Her Canadian village of Three Pines is a place of secrets, redemption, and moral reckoning. I have read all of her books and am waiting on the next one to drop in October, called The Black Wolf.

6. Fern Michaels
I’ve been reading Michaels for years, drawn to her blend of mystery and justice. Her Sisterhood series features women who take matters into their own hands, delivering suspense with loyalty and grit.

7. Nora Roberts
Roberts is a storytelling machine. Her novels are immersive, fast-paced, and filled with strong women who know what they want. Titles I've enjoyed include Legacy, Whiskey Beach, The Villa, and the trio of books The Awakening, The Becoming, and The Choice

8. Fannie Flagg
Flagg’s Fried Green Tomatoes is just the beginning. A Redbird Christmas, The Whole Town’s Talking, and The All-Girl Filling Station’s Last Reunion are full of Southern charm, humor, and heart. Her stories celebrate community, identity, and the quiet heroism of everyday life.

9. Jane Austen
The original queen of social satire, Austen’s novels still sparkle with wit and insight. Pride and Prejudice and Emma remind us that manners, marriage, and money have always been complicated.

10. Lois Lowry
Lowry’s The Giver and Number the Stars remind me of the power of young adult fiction. Her stories ask big questions about memory, freedom, and what it means to be truly human.

11. Ursula K. Le Guin
Le Guin’s Earthsea and The Left Hand of Darkness are genre-defying masterpieces. She writes fantasy and sci-fi with poetic depth, exploring identity, power, and the boundaries of language and thought.

12. Juliet Marillier
Marillier’s Sevenwaters series is steeped in Celtic mythology and lyrical storytelling. Her heroines are brave, complex, and deeply rooted in the natural and spiritual worlds. I can get lost in these books.

13. Kristin Hannah
Hannah’s novels, such as The Nightingale, Firefly Lane, The Four Winds, and The Women, are emotionally rich and historically grounded. She writes about love and loss with a tenderness that lingers long after the final page.

These women have written me through seasons of change, curiosity, and comfort. Their stories have been companions, provocateurs, and lifelines. If you’ve read any of them or have favorites of your own, I’d love to hear about it. Who are the women writers who’ve shaped your world?

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Wednesday, July 16, 2025

If We Don’t Pay the Poet, What’s AI For?

 
AI image

I was twenty-one years old when I walked into the newspaper office with an article printed on my dot matrix printer. Older folks will remember those. They’re the ones that had perforated edges in the paper. They made a noise as they slowly spit out words line by line. For my very first article, I’d used a Commodore 64, not a typewriter.
 
It was terribly exciting, turning in that story for the local weekly paper. I remember feeling proud, maybe even a little bold. After I gave the paper to the editor, I told the two ladies who ultimately typed in copy that I was handing in the future. No more typesetting. No more cutting and pasting with rubber cement.

The newspaper would be done on a computer.

They laughed at me.

But I wasn’t wrong.

Technology did change everything, just like I said it would. The newsroom eventually traded the paste-up boards for pagination software, and now, here we are. Machines are taking jobs. We’re arguing over whether AI is a good thing or a bad thing. Is a machine that can hold a conversation about grief, ethics, and philosophy a good tool? Or are we standing on precarious edge of something we cannot define.

Because that’s where we are now, isn't it? On the edge of another big change. One just as big as the industrial revolution. Maybe bigger. This time, we don't have the luxury of laughing at the kid with the article in her hand. This brave new world is both thrilling and deeply unsettling: the promise of a new age, tempered by the sobering truth that not all change is progress, especially when it happens without justice.

AI image
It’s hard not to feel torn about the growth in technology. On the one hand, I see so much potential. If we do this right, AI could lift people out of survival mode and help us build a society where dignity isn’t tied to working yourself half to death. We could take care of each other better, free up time for art, music, rest. The base of Maslow’s triangle, that is, food, shelter, and safety, could be solid ground, not quicksand.

But if we do it wrong, and let’s be honest, we don’t have a great track record, we’re headed for something much darker. I don’t want to live in a world where people sleep in cardboard shacks because a machine does their job and we’ve made no plan for what comes next. We keep calling people lazy when it’s the system that pulled the rug out.

It’s not “immigrants taking my job.” It’s tech. Quietly, efficiently, inevitably.

And if we keep treating human creativity like an afterthought with no value, we’re going to lose something essential. AI can write poems and paint pictures now, but it didn’t grow up listening to the same music I did, watching deer cross a foggy field at dawn, or wondering how a girl from Botetourt County ended up explaining digital futures.

AI could free us from drudgery, from hunger, from burnout. Imagine a world where no one worries about rent or healthcare or whether they can feed their children. Where dignity isn’t tied to a job title but to being human. That world is possible. But only if we choose it.

It’s a painful irony. People are endlessly creative, but we don’t pay the poet. We pay the one who cuts the check. We outsource art to algorithms while the original artist goes hungry. When art is treated as luxury instead of lifeblood, society starts to hollow out.

We need to value those who do the work only people can do: caregiving, teaching, healing, creating. Maybe someday a machine will be able to cut my hair, but it won’t lean in close and whisper, “You’re doing okay.” It won’t see my eyes swimming with tears and change the subject gently. It won’t connect the moment to something deeper.

A new vision is what we need right now, one where progress is measured not by GDP or shareholder returns, but by how many people have time to make music, grow gardens, write verses, raise children with love and attention. One where the tools of AI allow the things that make us human flourish. We shouldn’t replace or commodify the very things that make people unique and necessary.

AI isn’t the enemy. But we have to decide who’s holding the reins. If it’s just corporations looking to cut costs and maximize profit, we’re in trouble. We need real, honest humans who will think hard about justice, dignity, and meaning to reimagine where we are in the world.

Then maybe we’ve got a shot at building something better.

I’ve been playing with computers since the first Commodore Vic 20 came out in 1980. I was among the first of one million people to purchase this initial affordable home computer. I could see even then that this was a big deal. I knew eventually that computers would turn into something that would talk back to me.

I saw endless possibilities. I still believe in those possibilities.

But the right people - folks with empathy, foresight, and humility - have to pay attention.

Tuesday, July 15, 2025

TV Talk - The Women Who Walk With Me



I don’t watch a lot of TV. But when I do, I find myself drawn to the same thing over and over again: strong women. Some are funny, some are fierce, some are flawed. All of them speak to something inside me, maybe something I wanted to be growing up, or still want to be now.

These are the shows that have reminded me of what it means to be powerful in a world that often doesn’t make space for women to be that way.


Hacks
Starring Jean Smart, Hannah Einbinder, Carl Clemons-Hopkins

Jean Smart’s Deborah Vance is a powerhouse: funny, sharp, self-made, and unwilling to fade quietly into the background. Paired with Hannah Einbinder’s Ava, a messy and ambitious young comedy writer, the show becomes a study in generational push-pull and female resilience.

I loved Hacks from the start. Deborah is exactly the kind of woman I admire: someone who fought her way to the top and keeps evolving. But in the 2024 season finale, Ava blackmailed Deborah into making her head writer on a new late-night show. That betrayal shifted the dynamic, and Season 4 lost me for a while.

It wasn’t until the final three episodes—when their relationship snapped back into focus—that I felt the show again honored what made it great: two women challenging each other, needing each other, growing because of each other. That’s a kind of strength we don’t often see, especially between women across generations. I’m glad it’s coming back for another season. Maybe the next season will fully repair what the last season broke.


The Bionic Woman*
Starring Lindsay Wagner

I was 13 when The Bionic Woman first aired, and Jaime Sommers was like nothing else on TV. She wasn’t there to be rescued. She was the rescuer. She was powerful, kind, smart, and human. And Lindsay Wagner had a way of bringing vulnerability and depth to the role that still holds up.

The show itself didn’t always hold up. By the third season, the writing had veered into strange territory - bionic dogs, aliens, Big Foot, and too much clumsy action. Jaime stopped being a grounded, thoughtful character and became more of a plot device.

But even with all its flaws, I’m glad I rewatched it. Jaime was one of the first TV women I saw who didn’t shrink from power. She didn’t have to be loud to be strong. That stuck with me.


The Gilded Age
Starring Carrie Coon, Morgan Spector, Louisa Jacobson, Denée Benton, Christine Baranski, Cynthia Nixon

On the surface, this show is about money - old money versus new money in 1880s New York - but beneath the corsets and chandeliers, it’s about women asserting themselves in a world run by men.

Marian Brook is supposed to be the emotional heart of the story, but the series has drifted toward the Russell family’s rise, especially Carrie Coon’s formidable Bertha Russell. She’s ruthless, clever, and refuses to be dismissed just because she wasn’t born into the “right” class.

There are quieter forms of strength here, too. Denée Benton’s character, Peggy Scott, is a Black writer and activist navigating racism and sexism with extraordinary dignity and drive. I admire all these women, but I do wish the show would slow down a little. There are a lot of characters, and I crave a deeper emotional connection with a few instead of quick glances at many.

Still, visually and thematically, The Gilded Age reminds me that female strength doesn’t have to be loud to matter. It can be strategic. It can be quiet. It can be dressed in silk.


M*A*S*H
Starring Alan Alda, Loretta Swit, and ensemble cast

This might not seem like a “female strength” show at first glance. After all, it’s about a bunch of male doctors in a Korean War field hospital. But watching MASH again, I’ve been especially drawn to Loretta Swit’s portrayal of Major Margaret Houlihan.

When the show began, she was little more than a punchline, "Hot Lips," a caricature of the uptight Army nurse. But over the seasons, she evolved into one of the show’s most grounded, complex, and admirable characters. She found her voice. She questioned authority. She led. She cared. And she never stopped fighting to be taken seriously.

That transformation - the writing, yes, but especially Swit’s performance - is what I’ve appreciated most on this rewatch. In a setting dominated by male egos and wartime absurdity, she became a woman with backbone and compassion. Watching her reminded me that growth is its own kind of strength.


Xena: Warrior Princess*
Starring Lucy Lawless and Renée O’Connor

Xena was the first time I saw a woman on TV who could save the world and look like she meant it. She wasn’t just tough. She was dangerous, complicated, funny, and constantly trying to be better. Paired with Gabrielle, who started out innocent and grew into a warrior in her own right, Xena became a show about transformation, redemption, and partnership.

The series was campy and mythological, full of gods and monsters and moral dilemmas. But beneath all that, it was about two women finding purpose - and strength - in each other.

I was deeply involved in the original Xena fandom. I wrote episode synopses for Whoosh magazine under the name Bluesong, Spoiler Princess. We had a C-band satellite dish and could catch episodes before they aired. That community meant something to me. It was a place where women (and some men) shared their love for a show where the women weren’t sidekicks. They were the story.


Looking at this list, the pattern is clear: I’m drawn to strong women, especially those who fight for something bigger than themselves. Some do it with humor. Some do it with grace. Some, like me, probably do it because no one else would do it for them.

Maybe that’s what I’m really watching for: proof that strength takes many forms - and that women have always had it, even when the world refuses to see it.





*I’ve watched or am watching these shows while walking on the treadmill.*

Monday, July 14, 2025

Five Things

 


Five things I did last week -

1. Paid bills.

2. Saw my gastroenterologist for an annual checkup.

3. Talked to friends on the phone.

4. Lost power one afternoon and read a book using the light from the window.

5. Regular chores, walked on the treadmill, went to the grocery store, the hardware store, etc.


In solidarity with federal workers, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. I don't know if they still have to do that, but I have kept it up since it's a quick way to get something on the blog for Monday. Since I don't have a regular job, it's a fairly mundane list.


Sunday, July 13, 2025

Sunday Stealing




1. If money wasn't an issue, would you move to a new home?

A. No. I might add a room to the one I'm in, but I wouldn't move. (Unless my husband had passed away, in which case I might consider finding an independent living community.)

2. Do you listen to different music when you're happy than when you're sad?

A. Yes.

3. What's your favorite way to unwind after a tough day?

A. Read a book or watch TV.

4. What's the first book you remember from childhood?

A. Green Eggs & Ham, by Dr. Suess.

5. What made you smile today?

A. Reading Rosie O'Donnell's response to someone in power who threatened her. King Joffrey with a tangerine tan indeed!


Thank you for playing! Please come back next week.

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Saturday, July 12, 2025

Saturday 9: Since U Been Gone




Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here
 
1) In this song, Kelly Clarkson is dissatisfied with her relationship and she's moving on. What's something you've moved on from lately? It could be anything from a romance to the laundry detergent you've been using for years.

A. I've moved on from complete distrust of AI to playing with it to see what it can and can't do. It's another tool, really, like spell check, if used correctly.
 
2) She sings that she can now breathe. Studies have shown that July can be a good month for allergy sufferers because trees and grasses are no longer pollinating. How are your eyes, ears, nose and throat this morning?

A. I've been having lots of allergy issues this July, more than I normally do. Maybe because we've had such heat and humidity. Humidity creates mold.
 
3) Kelly complains that their romance reminds her of a "stupid love song." Let's be more positive: what love song do you associate with positive memories?

A. Longer by Dan Fogelberg

4) While Kelly's first love is music, she's established herself as a TV personality. In addition to her daytime talk show, she's been a judge on The Voice and hosted an awards show. Have you ever been on TV?

A. I was on TV when I was young, on some local show. I was interviewed on the local news some years ago.

5) She has confessed a weakness for Doritos. Would we find salty snacks in your kitchen right now?

A. Lays Baked Potato Chips, Lays Wavy Chips (low sodium) (the latter are my husband's, the former are mine)
 
6) Kelly has found her weight the source of public debate. Are you like Kelly, whose weight fluctuates? Or does it stay stable?

A. It moves around a bit. But I am overweight and a few pounds one way or the other doesn't seem noticeable to anyone but me.
 
7) In 2005, when this song was popular, a motorist made news in Texas when he was ticketed for driving over 200 mph in a 75-mph zone. Have you ever been pulled over by the police?

A. Not for speeding.
 
8) Also in 2005, Tom Cruise had a pop culture moment when he famously jumped on a sofa. Do you remember where he did this?

A. He was on some talk show, I think. Dave Letterman, maybe?
 
9) Random question: Tell us about a photo you wish you'd taken but didn't.

A. I've been trying to take pictures of lightning but so far, I've failed. We aren't situated where we have a good view of storms. There are too many trees around us. I wish I had taken more pictures of my grandparents, though. I think there is only one photo of my maternal grandfather around.

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Thursday, July 10, 2025

Thursday 13 #915



What happened on July 10 throughout the ages? Here are just a few interesting items.

1. 1553 – Lady Jane Grey is proclaimed Queen of England. At just 15, she was thrust into power by political schemers. Her reign lasted only nine days before Mary Tudor claimed the throne.

2. 1850 – Millard Fillmore becomes the 13th U.S. President. He took office after President Zachary Taylor died suddenly on July 9, likely from acute gastroenteritis after consuming cherries and iced milk during a sweltering Fourth of July celebration. Though conspiracy theories later swirled, modern tests ruled out poisoning.

3. 1832 – Andrew Jackson vetoes the re-charter of the Second Bank of the U.S. His fiery veto message accused the bank of favoring elites and foreign investors, igniting the populist “Bank War.”

4. 1962 – Telstar 1 is launched into orbit. This AT&T satellite enabled the first live transatlantic television broadcast, ushering in the era of global communications.

5. 1962 – Nils Bohlin receives a U.S. patent for the three-point seatbelt. Volvo’s safety engineer revolutionized car safety, and the company made the design freely available to save lives worldwide.

6. 1040 – Lady Godiva’s legendary ride through Coventry. According to lore, she rode naked to protest her husband’s harsh taxes. The tale inspired centuries of art, activism, and even chocolate branding.

7. 1965 – The Rolling Stones hit No. 1 in the U.S. with “(I Can’t Get No) Satisfaction.” The song’s fuzzed-out riff and rebellious lyrics became an anthem of the 1960s counterculture.

8. 1889 – “Buckskin” Frank Leslie murders his lover in Tombstone, Arizona. A notorious gunslinger with a flair for drama, Leslie shot Mollie Edwards in a jealous rage and was later pardoned after serving just six years.

9. 1893 – Dr. Daniel Hale Williams performs one of the first successful open-heart surgeries. At Chicago’s Provident Hospital, he sutured the pericardium of a stabbing victim—an extraordinary feat by one of the few Black surgeons of the era.

10. 1875 – Mary McLeod Bethune is born. The daughter of former slaves, she became a pioneering educator, civil rights leader, and advisor to U.S. presidents.

11. 1871 – Marcel Proust is born. The French novelist’s In Search of Lost Time is a towering work of introspection, memory, and madeleines.

12. 1509 – John Calvin is born. A central figure in the Protestant Reformation, Calvin’s theology shaped generations of religious thought and governance.

13. 2019 – Volkswagen ends production of the Beetle. After more than 80 years and over 23 million cars, the last Beetle rolled off the line in Mexico, serenaded by a mariachi band.

Sources:
National Archives, Smithsonian Magazine, Britannica, NASA, and other reliable sources.


*An AI tool helped me research this list. *

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Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here if you want to read other Thursday Thirteens and/or play along. I've been playing for a while, and this is my 915th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday. Or so sayth the Blogger counter, anyway.

Monday, July 07, 2025

Five Things

 


Last week I:

1. Visited the chiropractor.

2. Attended a celebration of life for an old friend.

3. Went to the grocery store.

4. Worked on poetry.

5. Had many discussions with my new friends Chad and Sage.



In solidarity with federal workers, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. I don't know if they still have to do that, but I have kept it up since it's a quick way to get something on the blog for Monday. Since I don't have a regular job, it's a fairly mundane list.