Monday, December 08, 2025

Five Things

 


Last week, I:

1. had a bad back spasm. Yikes!

2. went with my husband to see one of his doctors.

3. discovered that Mondays apparently mean no eggs at the grocery store now.

4. finished the book, Beautiful Ugly by Alice Feeney. I so dislike unreliable narrators.

5. did some Christmas shopping.

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In solidarity with federal workers, who were tasked in late February 2025 with listing 5 things they did the prior week in order to keep their jobs, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. On August 5, 2025, the federal government decided this was a waste of employees' time (as if we all didn't know that already). I have decided to keep it up, at least for now. I may stop it at any time.

Sunday, December 07, 2025

Sunday Stealing




1) What was the scariest thing in the world to you when you were a kid? Does it still scare you now?

A. This is a difficult question to answer. The scariest thing "in the world" to me as a child was not something like spiders and snakes, but the adults in my life. They do not scare me now.
 
2) Imagine your 12-year-old daughter (or granddaughter) is hosting a sleepover at your home. A sudden storm knocks out cellphone service, wifi and cable. How would you keep these suddenly unplugged pre-teens entertained?

A. A game of Scrabble, or card games. Maybe I would teach them how to play poker. We could also do sing-a-longs because I can't imagine any child of mine (or grandchild of mine) not knowing how to play a little guitar. We could play "truth or dare" or "never have I ever." Whether or not they'd go along with those suggestions would be another story, but maybe they'd enjoy it.
 
3) What piece of movie or TV memorabilia would you love to own?

A. I would love to own the One Ring from the original Lord of the Rings movie (I have a facsimile of it, but I want the one that Frodo carried). Failing that, someone could get me a signed photo from Lindsay Wagner from the Bionic Woman at her Bionic50 page. She's got things up for sale to celebrate because it's been 50 years since the show aired (damn, I am old). I thought about buying myself one of those Facetime-for-an-hour experiences, but I have no idea what I would say to Lindsay Wagner for an hour. "Gee, I liked your show when I was 12, but I rewatched it recently and thought the writing was inane in the third season" probably is not a good conversation starter.

4) You are gifted with the services of a personal assistant for four hours. What would you ask your assistant to do?

A. Clean up my office or do the bookkeeping. There's not enough time for both, and in four hours she'd just make a little headway.
 
5) If literary characters were real, which one would you like to interview, and what would you ask?

A. I recently reread The Scarlett Letter, by Nathaniel Hawthorne, so let's interview Hester Prynne and find out why she went back to live out her sentence instead of staying in England with her daughter.

Thank you for playing! Please come back next week.

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Saturday, December 06, 2025

Saturday 9: Ja-Da




Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here
 
1) The lyrics tell us the melody is soothing. What calms you when you're upset or anxious?

A. Valium.
 
2) There was a lot going on in 1918 – like WWI and the Spanish flu pandemic – that left people upset and anxious. In those days, radio wasn't yet a staple in American homes, so people received their news through newspapers. Today with podcasts and 24-hour cable news and social media and other news outlets available, do you ever feel like taking a break from current events?

A. I have not read a full edition of the local daily newspaper for several months now. We switched to digital and I don't like it. I read stories from there that relate to my county, but I do not read it cover to cover like I used to. Current events are more like throwing up in a trash can these days than actually learning something helpful, so I think a break occasionally is good for your health. You can't vomit news all of the time.

3) In addition to newspapers, magazines were a big deal in 1918. Women turned to publications like Ladies Home Journal and McCall's for trends and tips about fashion and housekeeping. Do you have any printed magazines in your home now?

A. I have The Atlantic, Reader's Digest, Farm Journal, Drovers Magazine, and Consumer Reports.
 
4) Today schoolchildren often learn "Ja-Da" because it's easy to sing and play. Was music part of your grade school curriculum?

A. We had a lovely music teacher named Mrs. Tingler who came once a week to give us music lessons. She taught us several songs that I still remember, like Senor Don Gato the Cat and Goodbye Ol' Paint. She also brought along different types of instruments, like tambourines, triangles, harmonicas, etc., for kids to try out. Once she received permission to take Ann and I to other schools so I could play flute while Ann sang. Ann and I ended up the Top 40 cover band that I was in during high school. She was the singer and I played guitar. Not all the long ago, I came across Mrs. Tingler on Facebook, and she seemed to remember me. And not long after that, I saw her obituary in the newspaper. God bless the Mrs. Tinglers of the world.
 
5) Composer Bob Carleton published more than 500 songs in his career. He had no songwriting partner, handling the words and lyrics himself. What's your favorite song? Was it written by a single composer or a songwriting team?

A. I don't know that I have a favorite song, but I will say that I am a big fan of Fleetwood Mac and I generally lean towards the songs that Stevie Nicks wrote, especially the strange ones like Rhiannon and Sara
 
6) Bob got his start in his hometown of St. Louis, playing piano in his parents' saloon. When you think of St. Louis, what comes to mind?

A. Missouri. The big golden arch thing.
 
7) In 1918, Americans were buying more cars and Studebakers were a familiar sight on the streets and highways. Today that name is mostly forgotten. Can you think of a brand that used to popular but has disappeared?

A. Pearl Drops Toothpaste. Clearasil. Rainbow Bread (that might've been a local thing). Valley Dale meats. 
 
8) During WWI, Americans were familiar with "Meatless Days." Back then we were encouraged to cut back on the consumption of meat as a patriotic gesture to help the American and Allied troops. Today "Meatless Monday" highlights health and the environment. Think about your diet. Do you try to eat more grains, fruits and vegetables?

A. At the moment, I am supposed to be eating more protein. Apparently, I do not eat enough of that, especially in the mornings.
 
9) Random question: Where did you get the shirt you are wearing right now?

A. I have on a pink Fire-EMS shirt that was a special edition T-shirt put out for women's breast cancer. It says "Fired up for a cure" on the back. My husband purchased several of them when that went around the firehouse, and I wear them a lot.
 
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Thursday, December 04, 2025

Thursday Thirteen



1. A spider built an entire town inside my sneakers that I use for my "outside shoes." When I went to put them on, there was spider web everywhere, inside and out. The spider was still in the shoe. I handed it to my husband. "Eww," I said. He cleaned it out with a paper towel.

2. The spider in my shoe reminded me of that nursery rhyme about the old woman who lived in a shoe and had so many children she didn't know what to do. I think she whipped them all soundly and put them to bed, but it's been a long time since I looked at nursery rhymes.

3. I used to have a book of Mother Goose Nursery Rhymes. It was large with a black and white checked pattern on it, and goose in a bonnet on the front. At one point, I knew all the nursery rhymes, but that was a very long time ago.

4. Was there a nursery rhyme about a spider? I don't recall one, but I remember the song, "Itsy Bitsy Spider." That spider had a Sisyphus complex, always climbing up the water drain only to be washed out and having to start all over again.

5.  Once, I opened a game camera in the kitchen and tiny little yellow spiders went everywhere. It looked like there were hundreds of them in the innards of the game camera. The next fall, we had big spiders - we call them wolf spiders although I don't think that's the right name - were all over the house. I was constantly hauling out the vacuum to suck them up off the floor. They appeared every fall for years after, and I even saw one this year. But hopefully they've about done their due in the house.

6. Now I only open game cameras outside when I want to get the cards out to see what the pictures are. Yes, I buy only cheap game cameras, not the ones with apps that allow you to see in real time that there's a raccoon in the backyard.

7. Speaking of raccoons, I saw a story Wednesday about a raccoon in Hanover County, VA, that invaded an ABC store. It destroyed bottles on the lower shelves, got very drunk, and passed out in the bathroom. The animal was fine after it sobered up.

8. I once had a squirrel find its way into the garage. Its ending was not as good as the raccoon's. This was when my husband had ankle surgery in 2019, and I was caring for him and not going out much. I don't know how the squirrel got in the garage. I heard something once when I was in the laundry room but I thought it was the dryer bumping against the wall. After several days, I had to make a grocery store run. While I was gone, the mail carrier brought something up to the house, and my husband, on his little knee scooter, asked the woman if she could just put the delivery inside the garage door for me to get when I returned. "Do you know there's a dead squirrel in your garage?" the woman asked him after she put the parcel inside. He did not. Being the hero that he is, he wheeled himself outside in the cold, down the patio sidewalk, and into the garage, found a shovel, picked up the dead squirrel, and flung it as far as he could out into the yard so I wouldn't drive home to find a dead squirrel in my path. "I didn't want to freak you out," he said. He later had a friend remove the carcass away from the house. He was probably right that a dead squirrel would have had me in tears. It upset me anyway because I knew the poor thing died of dehydration and lack of food.

9. Completely changing the subject now, I gave ChatGPT all of my health issues, food allergies, food preferences, and what I normally eat, and said, "fix me." We are working on a few things, and I have lost three pounds, even over Thanksgiving. I'll let you know if this continues to prove helpful. So far it seems to be working. I don't know why I thought to do that, but I guess dietitian could be another job that AI takes over.

10. My friend told me she read that the owner of Open AI thinks that one day an AI will be president. I'm not sure I want to live in that world. That's just too weird even for me. Although I think AI is better than believing that all the powerful folks at the top are secretly lizard people.

11. We had a lizard called a skink in the back and it kept trying to get in the house. I didn't want to kill it, I just wanted it to move along, so I sprinkled black pepper all over the patio door and the patio area where I kept seeing it. Black pepper is supposed to be something skinks don't like. The skink moved to the front porch, which is Ok because I don't go out that door as much and there aren't little door guides for it to hide under.

12. I tried using cayenne pepper to keep the deer away from my roses when I grew them, but it didn't stop them. Nothing keeps those things from eating the flowers, although they don't like marigolds much. I even had them eat my mums this year, which was a first.

13. And now we have come to the end of this wayward little wandering Thursday Thirteen. I don't often do these like this but sometimes it's good to just see what comes out of the air when I simply want to write.

Thank you for reading!

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Wednesday, December 03, 2025

Prancer

Not the animal discussed in this post.


The other morning, after 35 years of watching deer, I saw something I'd never seen before.

A cold front was heading in; the deer were all over the yard. Every time I looked out the window, there was a doe. On one side of the house, two young bucks butted heads, then stopped and stared at me as I raced outside with the camera.

A little later, I heard my husband coming up the driveway, but he didn't come all the way up. I went to the garage to make sure he was ok.

Through the window, I saw that he had the binoculars out and was looking at the woods. I looked too and saw a doe come running out of the trees. She slipped under the fence and dashed through the front yard, moving fast.

Right after she slipped under the fence, a buck jumped it, taking it like a grown man would step over a child's alphabet block, and then, it happened.

The buck pranced.

He pranced across my front yard as if he were the prince of the land, which I suppose he was at that particular time. His feet lifted much like a horse in a parade might do. He wasn't running after the doe; he was sure he was going to get her.

His stately look made me gasp and wish I had my camera, because of course I did not. He pranced on out of sight, while I stood there, entranced.

And the amazing thing was he pranced right in front of my husband, who watched him, too. And while it was a buck big enough to shoot, my husband let him go, so he could find his lady love.

I'm not sure which was the best to see, the buck prancing so, or my husband's wisdom in letting that buck live another day.


Tuesday, December 02, 2025

The Hidden Value of an Education

The chapel at Hollins University


This NBC News article says that in these strange times, most Americans don't believe college is worth it. The question asked is all about money:

"Is a four-year college degree "worth the cost because people have a better chance to get a good job and earn more money over their lifetime," or "not worth the cost because people often graduate without specific job skills and with a large amount of debt to pay off?"

Just thirty-three percent of U.S. citizens now think a four-year degree is worth the cost, according to the article.

What the article doesn't ask is this: are there are other values to having an education? Hidden values that aren't countable by an abacus, reasons to go to school that have nothing at all to do with money?

My answer to that is: Hell Yes. Maybe Double Hell Yes.

My college experience is vastly different from most people's, and I realize that. I took a long, strange winding road to obtain my three degrees. I know this question applies mostly to young people who are coming out of high school and heading toward four years of college and possibly $100,000 or more in debt. And that can seem daunting, especially in our rapidly changing world where a profession today may be extinct by tomorrow.

I can see the concerns about the high cost of a college degree, given all that is going on today.

But even accounting for that, I think a college degree has so much value beyond what one earns in the workplace that the question itself seriously undervalues what one actually gains with an education.

I took five years to obtain my two-year degree at the local community college. I transferred credits around and took eight years to obtain my four-year degree at a private college. I started my master's degree at the same college in 1994 and finally finished it in 2012. 

It was all paid for when I was done. Aside from my final year of working on my four-year degree, I did not take out any loans. And that loan was not a regular government "student loan," it was a personal loan from my bank that I quickly paid off. 

I worked the entire time I was taking classes. Sometimes I worked full time. Sometimes I worked part-time. I was also ill and had multiple surgeries that forced me to drop out of semesters or skip them altogether. That's why it took so long.

But the knowledge I gained from being at Hollins College? The place opened up the whole world to me. Yes, I took a liberal arts route, not a focused STEM route. And I learned, oh how much I learned! I learned about art, dance, music, philosophy. I learned about English and writing. I learned about the Middle East. I learned about film. I learned about children's literature and mysteries. I learned how to get along with people I didn't like. I learned how to deal with professors who were difficult. I learned how to see people for who they really were, and what they could offer, and I learned how to see things with a wide-open mind.

College opened my brain and expanded my horizons in so many intangible ways that I could spend the rest of my life trying to sum them up and never reach the end of the list.

This is what an education does. This is what learning is all about. It's not about how much money you make. That's just . . . what we focus on here and it's a devastating way to measure worth. I know many people who are not worth a lot of money but who are far better people than the richest person I know.

My work as a news reporter for the local paper didn't require a degree. I could have done that without the education. But college opened up my brain so I could ask more intelligent questions, peer into different sectors of the world, write about practically anything. Once you get to know me, I can talk to you about anything from NASCAR to books to poetry to how to fix a fence and what to look for in a bull when you need one for a cattle herd.

I consider myself a fairly well-rounded person. I am, by definition, a Jill of all trades, someone with many skills, not just one solitary mindset.

And I have my education to thank for that. College is worth it for reasons that have no price tag.

Monday, December 01, 2025

Five Things

 


Last week, I:

1. celebrated Thanksgiving with my family.

2. saw the chiropractor.

3. attempted to watch the Board of Supervisors meeting, but they were having technical difficulties.

4. started watching The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring.

5. finished up my shopping for the holidays.

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In solidarity with federal workers, who were tasked in late February 2025 with listing 5 things they did the prior week in order to keep their jobs, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. On August 5, 2025, the federal government decided this was a waste of employees' time (as if we all didn't know that already). I have decided to keep it up, at least for now.

Sunday, November 30, 2025

Sunday Stealing



Since it's Thanksgiving weekend, we're going to keep this simple. We stole this from a blogger named Idzie, who called this the F.A.B. (film, audio, book) meme.


F. Film: What movie or tv show are you watching? 

A. I watch JAG when I am walking on the treadmill, and we recently started in on the 12+ hours of The Lord of the Rings trilogy.

A. Audio: What are you listening to?

A. My current audiobook is Beautiful Ugly by Alice Feeney. 

B. Book: What are you reading?

A. I am finishing up the latest edition of The Atlantic magazine, and then I will start Paper Girl, by Beth Macy.

Thank you for playing! Please come back next week.

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Saturday, November 29, 2025

Saturday 9: Thank You Girl



Saturday 9: Thank You Girl (1964)

Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.


1) Who were you talking to the last time you said, "thank you?"

A. My husband.

2) Paul McCartney recalls that "Thank You Girl" was inspired by all the female fans who had written them fan letters, pledging undying love. Have you ever written a fan letter? If yes, did you receive a response?

A. I think I wrote one when I was a teenager, but I don't remember to whom, and I wrote a book author once telling her how much I enjoyed her work. I did not receive a reply from either one. Oh, but I did get an email back from author Lisa See when I wrote to her. I have written other authors too, who have written me back, but those are people I personally know. I do not know Lisa See.

3) Recording engineer Geoff Emerick remembered that John Lennon was easily winded while recording this song. John had a bad cold and went back to bed when they were done for the day. We're in cold/flu season right now. How are you feeling?

A. I am good at the moment. Thank you for asking.

4) "Thank You Girl" is this week's song because November 27 was Thanksgiving. What are you thankful for this year?

A. I am thankful for my husband, our home, our friends. And I am especially thankful for my blog readers.

5) While the big meal is referred to as Thanksgiving dinner, most Americans enjoy it earlier than they usually serve dinner. 3:00 PM is the most popular time for the holiday feast. When did you have dinner on Thursday?

A. We ate lunch around noon, and then had a sandwich for supper about 6 p.m. We don't normally use the term dinner around here. We have lunch and supper.

6) Cranberry sauce has been a Thanksgiving staple since the late 1800s. Was it on your menu this year?

A. Alas, we had no cranberry sauce. We also had no turkey. We had ribeye steaks, which seemed appropriate for beef cattle farmers. They were very good, and I didn't have to kill myself cooking a big meal.

7) The Thanksgiving Turducken is said to have originated in New Orleans. Chef Paul Prudhomme is often cited as the first to stuff a deboned chicken into a deboned duck into a deboned turkey. Prudhomme's recipe has more than 85 individual steps and takes a full day to prepare. Did you face any challenges while cooking your Thursday dinner?

A. It went smooth as the fine hair on a fox kit.

8) Leftovers are popular after Thanksgiving, especially turkey sandwiches. Some cooks recommend serving cold, sliced turkey on wheat bread, but white bread, pitas and flatbread are also popular. When you head into the kitchen to make a sandwich, what's your go-to bread?

A. I usually have a ham and cheese sandwich on my Heiner's Old-Fashioned White Bread.

9) The day after Thanksgiving is known as Black Friday, the unofficial start of the holiday shopping season and sales. Black Friday got its name in Philadelphia back in the 1950s to describe the traffic clogging both highways and side streets as consumers raced out in search of bargains. When is the last time you were stuck in traffic?

A. I don't recall being stuck in traffic for any long period in quite some time.

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Thursday, November 27, 2025

Thursday Thirteen #935



Happy Thanksgiving! I hope everyone is having a fine holiday. I could do a "what I'm thankful for" post but I opted instead for a more introspective post today. So here are thirteen things I’ve learned about myself.

1. I am quite self-aware. Usually, I notice my reactions before I act (but not always, of course). Sometimes that saves me from saying things I’ll regret, and sometimes it delays the regret until I’m alone with a piece of chocolate.

2. I think deeply about the world, even when it’s exhausting. I spend hours pondering patterns, history, and human behavior. It’s tiring, yes, but it also means I notice the things people miss.

3. I carry my experiences with clarity and honesty. I face both the good and the bad parts of life without pretending they didn’t happen. No rewrites. No glossing over. Just the truth, messy as it is.

4. I show up for people, even when it’s inconvenient. I maintain connections and offer kindness long after others have moved on. Some days it’s exhausting, some days it’s rewarding. Sometimes it's both.

5. I have a strong sense of responsibility, sometimes too strong for my own good. I manage tasks, projects, and commitments, sometimes taking on more than I should. I’m learning to notice when it’s time to stop (or at least take a deep breath).

6. I still try to do the right thing, even when no one is watching. Maybe one day, some silent angel will give me a gold star for integrity. Mostly, though, I do it for the quiet satisfaction of knowing I did.

7. I’m more resilient than I give myself credit for. Setbacks, long days, or exhausting challenges don’t keep me down. Somehow, I eventually find a way forward, even if I grumble.

8. I balance intelligence with practical, lived experience. I think things through, plan carefully, and then figure out how to make them work in real life. There’s satisfaction in getting it right on the first try . . . . or in learning fast when I don’t.

9. I notice the details that make life vivid. Light on a field, the smell of fresh earth, small movements in the world around me - these are things I pay attention to and try to remember. They are small joys.

10. I’m loyal to a fault. I hold onto relationships and commitments, even when it’s inconvenient or difficult. Exhausting? Yes. Worth it? Usually.

11. I look for meaning rather than distraction. I try to understand why things happen, rather than just filling my time. Sometimes I fail spectacularly, but at least I’m thinking about it.

12. I don’t shy away from hard truths, even about myself. I face my limitations, mistakes, and emotional reactions head-on. It’s uncomfortable but avoiding it feels worse.

13. I value steady relationships and do the work to maintain them. I invest time and care into the connections that matter. It’s not always easy, and yes, sometimes I slip up, and sometimes I sigh, but it’s worth it.

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Monday, November 24, 2025

Five Things


Last week, I:

1. celebrated my wedding anniversary.

2. had dinner out with my husband.

3. went to Walmart - newly remodeled!

4. wrote a draft of a short story.

5. worked on my project with Chad and Sage.

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In solidarity with federal workers, who were tasked in late February 2025 with listing 5 things they did the prior week in order to keep their jobs, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. On August 5, 2025, the federal government decided this was a waste of employees' time (as if we all didn't know that already). I have decided to keep it up, at least for now.

Sunday, November 23, 2025

Sunday Stealing





1) Has anyone ever told you "I love you" but you didn't say it back?

A. Not that I recall. If it happened, it wasn't a traumatic event.
 
2) Do you consider yourself organized?

A. I do not consider myself organized.
 
3) Where do you look first when you go clothes shopping?

A. I look in the plus sized women's section.

4) Do you often reflect on your past in terms of eras or milestones ("it's been 10 years since X happened")?

A. I don't do it often, but I do it sometimes when those dates roll back around.
 
5) Were you more recently ill or injured (flu vs. twisted ankle)?

A. I was ill back in the summer.
 
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Saturday, November 22, 2025

Saturday 9: Lady in Red




Unfamiliar with this week's tune? Hear it here.
 
1) Is red a color you often wear?

A. Red is not my color. I do better with blues and greens. 
 
2) In this song, Chris De Burgh is thrilled to be dancing with the woman he loves. Do you recall what was playing the last time you stepped onto the dance floor?

A. I haven't been on a dance floor in years. I have no idea what was playing the last time I danced in public.
 
3) Chris says he wrote this song about the first time he saw his future wife, who wore a red dress when she came to see his band perform. Tell us about a memorable concert going experience.

A. My husband and I saw Elton John perform live, just him, and no band. It was a fantastic concert. The man played his fingers off on that grand piano and he rocked the stage like he had 100 people backing him. It was stunning.
 
4) Chris' father worked as a diplomat for the United Kingdom. Former US ambassador Robert D. Blackwill believes a diplomat should possess strong writing/speaking skills, meticulous attention to detail, historical knowledge, and stamina. Do you have any of those attributes?

A. I have all of those attributes except for strong speaking skills. I get anxious when I am in front of people.
 
5) Chris' family owns Bargy Castle, a 15th century fortress in County Wexford, Ireland. Bargy Castle has been converted into a hotel. What's the last hotel you stayed in?

A. We last stayed in a Hampton Inn. We used to stay in Hampton's all the time, but we have learned that they now let dogs into their facilities. Since I am highly allergic, we do not stay at facilities that allow pets (aside from real honest-to-God service dogs, of course).
 
6) Chris is a wine connoisseur who sold a collection of vintage reds for over $500,000. If you suddenly came into $500,000, what would you do with it?

A. After I finished fainting, I would donate some of it to various causes I care about, and put the rest away for a rainy day.
 
7) In 1986, when this song was popular, singer/actress Lady Gaga was born in Manhattan. Have you been to New York City?

A. I have been to New York City as a tourist only once, when I was about 15. My father and mother visited friends and took me with them. We went into China Town where I had the best Chinese food ever. But we were not there long, and I didn't do much sight-seeing. I have been through La Guardia Airport on my way to Europe but that doesn't really count.
 
8) Also in 1986, NHL Hall of Famer Jacques Plante died. Are you a hockey fan?

A. I am not a hockey fan.
 
9) Random question – You just slid behind the wheel and are about to embark on a long road trip. Which of these famous Williams would you choose as your navigator: Willie Nelson, Bill Murray, or William, Prince of Wales?

A. I think a trip with Bill Murray would be a hoot and a half. We could talk about art, movies, and groundhogs all in one long ride.

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Friday, November 21, 2025

The Buck Stopped Here

I took this photo back in September. This was the deer my husband decided he wanted to hunt this year. It was a nice 10-point buck.

 



A little spoiler space for my readers who want to turn back now instead of seeing the trophy dead deer shot:







We gave the meat to someone who needed it. We never let it go to waste. 

He is happy. But I prefer my way of hunting with the camera to his.

 
 

Thursday, November 20, 2025

Thursday Thirteen



Since I recently celebrated a wedding anniversary, I thought I'd share a little marriage advice. Actually, this advice might work for most relationships.


1. Marriage takes work, and you have to be willing to change with life as it comes. Nobody coasts for forty years. You adjust, or you don’t make it.

2. Respect and honesty are the bedrock. Even when you’re mad, you still owe each other basic dignity, and you can’t build much without the truth.

3. Laugh when you can. The hard days show up on their own, but couples who still find a reason to laugh together seem to carry the years a little easier.

4. Don’t keep score. Long marriages survive because someone lets things go instead of counting every slight.

5. Small kindnesses matter more than the grand gestures. A cup of coffee, a thank you, a hand on the shoulder. Those things add up over time.

6. Patience becomes a skill. You learn to give each other space, to wait out the moods, and to trust that the storm will pass if you don’t feed it.

7. Stay curious. Share values. Act like you’re on the same team. After decades, you can still find things you didn’t know about each other, which is half the fun.

8. Arguments happen. What matters is how you put things back together afterward.

9. Keep a little romance alive, and mark the milestones, big or small. It reminds you why you started all this in the first place.

10. Let the small stuff go. After forty years, you know which battles are worth it and which ones you’ll forget by next week.

11. Support each other’s growth. People keep changing, even later in life, and a marriage does better when both partners feel free to grow.

12. Love is a choice. Some days the feeling is bright, and some days it’s dim, but you still show up for the life you built.

13. Gratitude carries you through. A little appreciation every day keeps resentments from settling in and gives the whole journey a steadier footing. And never be afraid to say, "I'm sorry."

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Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here if you want to read other Thursday Thirteens and/or play along. I've been playing for a while, and this is my 934th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday. Or so sayth the Blogger counter, anyway. 


Wednesday, November 19, 2025

Imagine

We are coming up on the anniversary of the death of John F. Kennedy. He was assassinated on November 22, 1963. I was five months old.

My mother always told me she had me in a car seat and she was outside hanging clothes when one of the neighbors told her, and she went inside to listen to the radio, forgetting I was there because she was so upset about it.

Sometimes I wonder what life might have looked like if JFK had lived. What if that motorcade in Dallas had rolled on without gunfire? Maybe the country would have kept its faith a little longer.

In that world, perhaps I would have grown up under a different kind of light. The 1960s would have been the decade of moonshots and peace corps banners instead of assassinations and riots on the evening news. 

Maybe there never would have been a Vietnam War, and the adults around me would have seemed a little less weary.

By the 1970s, the headlines might have been about science and education instead of oil and scandal. The space program would have kept that glow of possibility, and the word government wouldn’t have curdled into something said with a sneer.

My first votes might have felt like joining something noble, not choosing the lesser of two evils. (My first vote for president was in 1984.)

Out here in the Blue Ridge, life would still have been slow. The cows would have still been in the pasture, neighbors would still wave, but perhaps the undercurrent of mistrust that seeps into small towns might not have taken root. 

The post office would still be the post office, not a symbol of inefficiency. Roads would get fixed because that’s what government does, not because someone fought for a grant.

Perhaps I’d have started writing sooner, believing my words could find an audience that still listened. The newspaper business might have stayed strong, respected, instead of having to justify its existence to people convinced every reporter was out to get them.

And now, in 2025, I expect this same farm would still look much as it does today, with fields and fences, deer running through the land only to vanish in mist - but with a steadier hum underneath.

Perhaps broadband would’ve arrived years earlier, powered by public investment in rural areas. Health care would be universal, not a negotiation. Schools would teach civics with pride, not apology.

Maybe there wouldn't have been so many school shootings. So many young lives cut down before life even began for them.

It’s a fantasy, sure. As a former news reporter and an amateur historian, I have read enough back issues of newspapers to know that the U.S. has always had issues. We were awful on civil rights, women's rights, and there was a Cold War going on that maybe wouldn't have ended without Ronald Reagan and which would still be ongoing.

Still, I like to think sometimes of an America that never lost its balance, where intelligence is admired and compromise isn’t considered weakness. Maybe that sounds like a The West Wing rerun, I don't know. 

But what I envision is not this world. Sometimes it feels close enough to touch, but it is always out of my grasp, even if I close my eyes and imagine the news breaking in with a headline that feels like progress instead of warning.

Regardless, I can go back to work or go outside to the fields that are still real. I can take a walk and think that, like Gandalf says in The Lord of the Rings, maybe the smallest acts of kindness are what changes the world. Things like listening, telling the truth, keeping faith with the land are what hold the line between the world we have and the one we lost.

Tuesday, November 18, 2025

The Answer to Everything

When we were young


Today I have been married to my husband for 42 years.

That means, according to Douglas Adams in Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, we now know the answer to everything.

I asked my husband at lunch if he felt like he knew the answer to everything, as we sit here, two old folks, preparing to move on to the next phase of our lives.

He said he did not.

But what he did say was that he remembers that we have endured a flood, a blizzard, many surgeries for both of us, his accident with the hay baler, a car wreck, building our own house, infertility, both of us working diligently at our jobs, and our marriage. 

We may not have the answer to everything in the universe, but we have a long history together that shows a constancy of endurance that not everyone gets to experience.

Sharing a life with one person for so many years is a humbling - and wonderful - experience.

So, here's to us. I'd be 104 if we make it another 42 years, and I don't expect to live that long, but if it is to be so, may we continue to hold hands while we watch TV.


And now we're older


Monday, November 17, 2025

Five Things

 


Last week, I:

1. saw the chiropractor.

2. had an eye exam.

3. went to a local writer's event.

4. worked on my project.

5. helped my husband fix a broken light socket.

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In solidarity with federal workers, who were tasked in late February 2025 with listing 5 things they did the prior week in order to keep their jobs, I started listing 5 things I did last week every Monday. On August 5, 2025, the federal government decided this was a waste of employees' time (as if we all didn't know that already). I have decided to keep it up, at least for now.


Sunday, November 16, 2025

Sunday Stealing

 



1. If you were an animal, what animal would you be?

A. I would be a deer. Deer are cautious, curious, and smart. They know how to hide, how to run away, and how to approach carefully.

2. Are you generous?

A. I am generous in that I give to various charities that I support, I offer my time to my community, I give time and attention to my friends and people I consider family, and I share myself here on this blog.

3. Of the following, which consistently gives you the most pleasure: a) music, b) money, c) books, d) science, e) spirituality, f) food and wine, g) movies?

A. I would have to call a tie between music and books.

4. Describe your dancing ability.

A. I have no dancing ability. I look like this:



5. What do you think your worst enemy really thinks of you?

A. My worst enemy thinks I am a liar and a thief. I am neither of those things.

6. Can you tell when someone is lying to you?

A. It depends on the person.

7. Describe how it feels to fall in love.

A. It feels like eating chocolate in the middle of a field while unicorns run around, and bunnies hop by, and butterflies settle on your head.

8. In deadly peril, what three people would you want in a foxhole with you?

A. My husband, The Terminator, and the sheriff from Gunsmoke, whose name I forget.

9. What is your greatest weakness?

A. Perfectionism combined with procrastination.

10. If you were to live out the rest of your life as your favorite fictional character, which would you choose?

A. I would like to be Anne Shirley from Anne of Green Gables.


Thank you for playing! Please come back next week.

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