Saturday, June 15, 2013

A Day in the Life of a Rose

Thursday morning I noticed that one of my roses was readying to open. The sky, too, was going to open up later in the day. I decided to take pictures of the rose until the rains came.

First thing in the morning.


Just a little later.


Blooming out mid-morning.


Reaching for the sun.


Full bloom a little after noon.


Around 4 p.m., after the wind and rain.


This morning (Saturday). The rose had tinged pink.

Friday, June 14, 2013

Congratulations, Nephew!

My handsome nephew, Trey, graduated from James River High School in Buchanan Wednesday night!

He will be attending Roanoke College this fall. He plans to major in Health and Human Behavior or something like that. I'm not 100 percent certain I have that correct.

Here are some shots of the graduation ceremony:

The proud father, my brother, watching the ceremony.

My niece, Zoe, and my nephew, Corey, happy for their brother!

Trey is in the second row, peeking around a fellow graduate.

The school superintendent has his say.

My nephew Trey receiving acclaim for scholarships and awards!

An overview of the gym were the ceremonies were held.

At the end, the graduates let loose with silly string!

Boy did they make a mess.
 

Here is a video my husband took of the moment when Trey received his diploma:



Congratulations, Trey!

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Thursday Thirteen

Thirteen things that make me smile . . .


1.

Butterflies

2.

History

3.

Books


4.

Small towns

5.

My life with my husband



6.

Wildlife outside my door

7.

Parades

8.

Interesting landscapes

9.

Fried green tomatoes!


10.

Fresh veggies

11.

Fireworks!

12.

Birthdays!

13.

Flowers


Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here. I've been playing for a while and this is my 298th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday.

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

Books by Richard Paul Evans

A Winter Dream
By Richard Paul Evans
Copyright
Read by Fred Berman
Approximately 6 hours


Lost December
By Richard Paul Evans
Copyright 2011
Read by John Dossett
Approximately 6 hours

Richard Paul Evans is nothing if not formulaic. These two books are almost interchangeable in plot, though they are based on two different Biblical premises. The first, A Winter Dream, is a rewriting of the tale of Joseph and the Coat of Many Colors. The second, Lost December, is a rewriting of the prodigal son.

In both books, the young up-and-coming son leaves home, runs into trouble, finds himself again, and returns home. The only difference is that in A Winter Dream, Joseph is forced to leave home, and in Lost December, Luke leaves home by his own choice.

In each book, the short chapters begin with a line from the protagonist's diary. He also does this in his series The Walk.

Since I listened to these back-to-back, it was not hard for me to see the similarities in these books.

However, Evans writes well and tells a good story. His main character is always interesting, even if these two fellows were nearly interchangeable. He always has a happy and satisfying ending, even if you have to wonder if things like that really happen (and you know they usually don't).

Evans gives us hope in his stories. That, I think, is why he is such a successful author. He helps the readers think that maybe, just maybe, all that is wrong in their lives will somehow turn out all right in the end.

If you are a feminist, you might find these stories lacking. Women are not generally front and center in these books, and do not come off well. In both books there is a girlfriend who deserts the boy and destroys his faith in humanity, and another woman who is sweet and kind and worthy of him. Women also tend to hold traditional jobs in Evans' stories - they are secretaries and waitresses.

Even though there are some things about Evans's books I don't like, I have to give him a solid rating of 3.5 - 4 when I review him, simply because the stories are solid and well written. They also make me feel something, usually, and that means a lot.




Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Sunday, June 09, 2013

Sunday Questions

This is from Sunday Stealing


The Weird Question Meme, Part One


Q. Do you wear slippers?

A. Yes. Well, I call them slippers but they are actually moccasins.
 
Q. How many pictures are in your living room?

A. You know, I have to go look. Hang on a minute . . . this is what is on my walls in that room: two pictures (one of Hollins University done by P Buckley Moss and another of a rustic scene), a duo of dulcimers, and a shadow box of firefighter memorabilia which also hangs with the iconic photo of the firefighters raising the US flag in New York after the attack on the World Trade Center.

Q. Do you ever watch Brady Bunch reruns?

A. Not very often, no. I can't recall the last time I did.
 
Q. Are you allergic to anything?

A. Shellfish, citrus fruit (oranges and grapefruit in particular), grasses, trees (oak, pine, etc), flowers (all of them that bloom), animal dander, black pepper, etc.
 
Q. When was the last time you called in sick?

A. I'm self-employed. I never call in anything, I just do what I want.

Q. Have you ever been in a car accident?

A. Yes. One year I was in three of them, none of them my fault. The scariest was when I was rear-ended on the interstate, simply because of the location.  I was on an overpass and there was nowhere to go. The worst was when I nearly totalled my Taurus in the mid-1990s. That one was sort of my fault, but the judge did not convict me for it because there were extenuating circumstances.
 
Q. What is your favorite snack food?

A. I like chocolate. And potato chips.

Q. Have you ever seen a tornado?

A. When I was in high school, I was with the band and we were in Bristol, TN for a competition. While we were eating in a diner, a tornado came through. We couldn't actually see it but the winds were so bad that we all got up and moved away from the windows. Afterward, we took the bus to the competition site and could see the tornado's path down the side of a small mountain. It tore an outdoor movie theater right in half.

Q. If you won a million dollars, what would you buy first?

A. A new car. I plan to replace my Camry with a Camry, but if I had more funds I might go for an Avalon or a Cadillac. I'd have to drive the cars first to see how I liked them, though.
 
Q. What time is it right now?

A.  It is the right time to make time for all time.
 
Q. Do you think it's cool for men to wear flip-flops?

A. I can't say that I've ever really thought about it.

Q. How many pairs of shoes do you own?

A. More than 10 and less than 50. I am not going to go count them.
 
Q. Do you think you are a hypochondriac?

A. Probably. Most people worry about having something at some time or another.
 
Q. Do you own a dictionary?

A. I own several dictionaries, and a couple of thesauruses.
 
Q. Where was the last place you went on vacation?

A. Myrtle Beach, South Carolina.
 
Q. Do you talk about your friends behind their back?

A. I try not to.
  
Q. Are you actually fat but in complete denial about it?

A. No. I am fat and fully aware of it.
 
Q. What color is your mouse pad?

A. Yellow.
 
Q. Does your kitchen have a theme?

A. Does stainless steel count as a theme? If not, then no.

Saturday, June 08, 2013

It's My Party!

I have waited 50 years for this day. It's my big, big day. I am officially a half-century old. I understand 50 is the new 40. Let's hope, eh?

Here's a look at Anita through the years . . .


Age 3 with baby brother

Age 5, Kindergarten
Age 13, End of School year, 7th Grade

Age 9 or 10, Christmas


Age 16, playing guitar
in a rock band
Age 14 or 15, high school band

Age 20, not yet married



Age 20, my wedding day, with my parents
and my brother


Age 20, my wedding day, with my
handsome and special husband


Mid 40s

Mid to Late 40s




Age 47 with handsome husband

Age 48, at my 30th high school reunion


Age 48



Age 48 (2012), receiving master's
degree from Hollins University




Age 49 years, 364 days. I
took this yesterday.


Happy Birthday to me!

Friday, June 07, 2013

A Day in Court

Yesterday my husband and I dressed up in our Sunday best and visited the General District Court.

He had been called to serve as an expert witness in a case that involved a landlord and a tenant. My husband had installed a septic system on the property (that's one of his three jobs, installing septic systems). 

The tenant was claiming they did not have to pay rent because the problems with the septic system (and other things) had gone on a long time before it was fixed. The landlord wanted my husband to tell how and when he had repaired the old septic system.

I decided to go along to watch because we have a little house that we rent out, and I wanted to see how things went in the case. Also, I used to cover the courts when I was writing for the newspaper and I always enjoyed the cases, unless they were about rape or child abuse.

General District Court is where the lesser items come before the court, including most issues involving rental property. This is also where speeding tickets, etc., first are heard before a judge. If the issue is appealed, it goes to a higher court, called the Circuit Court. That's in the bigger courthouse in Fincastle.

Security in the courtroom has tightened since I was last there. You have to walk through a metal detector, and you must leave your cellphone in your vehicle. You can't take an umbrella in with you, either. It was pouring rain so we both had umbrellas, and had to leave them in the front.

It had been years since I attended a court hearing in General District Court. One of the things that bothered me was that the deputies politely grilled every person entering to ascertain if they had legitimate business there. I was dismayed at this, for seeing how the country's laws work is important and should not be something to be challenged. You used to be able to do that without worry.  Personally, I think everyone should go spend a day in the courtroom to see how the law works.

I guess you can go watch because I did, but it is not comfortable being asked why you are there.

Anyway, we took a seat in the courtroom. After a while, the judge came in. We all stood while he was seated. Immediately the lawyers asked that the witnesses be removed from the courtroom, so my husband was sworn in and then he had to leave.

I stayed so I could hear what was going on.

I learned a lot by visiting. I learned about the importance of the lease and the initial inspection, and how necessary it is to keep promises, especially those in writing. Emails, I discovered, are admissible evidence. Being careful what you put in an email is very necessary these days. The same goes for recoverable text messages. It is no longer just hearsay - it's what you did say. And that gives it more weight.

Had the issue merely been one of an unlawful detainer, which is what a landlord files to reclaim possession of a leased property when the rent's not been paid, the case would have been over very quickly. The tenants had not paid the rent and under the law there is no legitimate reason for not paying.

However, the tenants had countersued claiming the property was uninhabitable and they asked the landlord for money, I think. At least that was my impression from the things said in the courtroom. The law has a remedy for tenants if they think things are wrong with the property; they can petition the court and make payments to the court in place of paying the landlord until the issues are resolved. But they can't just not pay. The tenants did not make such a petition.

Anyway, my husband was an expert witness for the landlord in her defense against the tenants.

Unfortunately, I had another appointment late in the day and the hearing went on so long that I had to leave before I heard my husband testify. He said the lawyers asked him about the septic installation, why the old one failed (he had no idea, they could fail for 1,000 reasons), and when he installed the replacement septic system. Once he gave his evidence, the judge told him he could leave.

I looked the case up online last night and the landlord won her unlawful detainer case. She was awarded back rent and interest. The tenant's countersuit was dismissed, which I take to mean they lost.

The thing I like about court is that it deals mostly in facts. They are contested facts, I suppose, and someone must decide who is right and who is wrong. But in many instances you can present things that reveal the truth - receipts,for example, for payment for work done. Or no receipt for nonpayment. That's a pretty incontrovertible fact.

I enjoyed covering court when I was writing for the paper, but no one covers court cases anymore unless they are sensational. I think this is a great failure on the part of the newspapers, and a total injustice to democracy.

Without news about what goes on in the courts, justice is not open and transparent. Certain political sides are able to make things seem worse (or better) than they are because the news is quashed.

I think this hurts the rule of law and the court system, because people don't see how it works. They don't see how the law functions for the mundane things. The workings of the law has to be visible and on display in order to be effective.

It is my opinion that the lack of news coverage has given unwarranted credence to one side of the political fence, the side that doesn't like courts or the law because it does deal in facts. That particular political side does not deal with facts, it relies on emotion and opinion.

We are slowly undermining what is left of our democracy in favor of flashy toys and soundbites. The loss of the media in the day-to-day issues that really matter is just a symptom of our demise. I am 100 percent certain we will regret it all one day.

Thursday, June 06, 2013

Thursday Thirteen - Life Lessons

Well, I'm not 50 - yet. It's a few days away but I will have hit that hard number by the time next week's TT rolls around.

So what have I learned in 49 years and 363 days of hard living?


1. Age is not just a state of mind. It's also a state of body, and some of us age more quickly than others.

2. People in general are so self-centered that nobody cares what you do so long as it doesn't draw their attention.

3. Love is a many splintered thing.

4. No one can live up to their title or stereotype. Parents, teachers, lawyers, brothers, sisters, husbands, wives, daughters, sons, good guys, bad guys, everybody else, and especially presidents and politicians will never be what you think they should be when you hear those descriptive words or see them on paper. They will always disappoint you.

5. It is impossible to keep the toilet clean for longer than a few hours.

6. Trust, but verify. I learned this as a journalist and I'm not sure what happened to that important mantra, since today the news consists of opinion and not facts. When I was a young reporter the theory was you needed three sources to be sure of a fact. That doesn't seem to be the case in the mainstream media anymore. But this also matters in everyday life.

7. Some stuff lasts a lot longer than you think it will, and other things do not last as long as they should. In the end it is all stuff and unimportant.

8. Education is one of the few things you will take with you when you die, so get plenty of it.

9. Life is not online. Get off of it and live. It's a nice place to visit sometimes but it ain't worth staying there. And Facebook sucks.

10. Bad days are a state of mind, but getting into a new state can sometimes take a really long time.

11. Tai chi can lower your blood pressure but you have to do it regularly. Exercise is a good thing and should be an important part of your self-care.

12. The reflection of yourself in the mirror only reveals the truth if you open your eyes.

13. Of course the tree makes a sound in the forest when it falls and no one is there to listen. Of course it does.



Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here. I've been playing for a while and this is my 297th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday.

Wednesday, June 05, 2013

Happy Birthday to My Bro

Today is my brother's birthday!


He is three years younger than I am. The above photo is of him with a big fish he caught at the pond in Salem.
 
 
This is my brother at my wedding. That was 30 years ago.
 
 
This is my brother last week doing the "dad's dance" at his daughter's recital.

Our birthday's are close together. Mine is coming up soon.
 
Happy Birthday! You're just getting older. Ha!

Tuesday, June 04, 2013

A Thing of Beauty


This is an orange-red rose that my friend gave me about a dozen years ago. It always blooms right around my birthday.

I have always considered this rose a fulfillment of a promise my mother made me just before she died. She said that if there was an afterlife, she would send me something orange. It was our secret. The following year my friend gave me this rose for my birthday, and it bloomed out orange. It has grown a little darker in color over the years but it retains its orangy beginnings.