The Answers Are Within You
by Debbie Ford
Read by the author
Copyright 2003
Approximately 6 hours
In this book, Debbie Ford, whom I had never heard of before, writes about how we create our own story - the story of our life - which is not necessarily the reality of who we are.
As a writer, I found this idea very appealing, for it means I can change my tomorrows. Of course there are many random events that affect a person - nobody asks for a car crash or a major illness - but even so, our ideas of who we are can change and we can grow.
This audiobook offers up many meditations and questions that could help someone find triggering events that made them think certain things about themselves. For instance, some long-ago action by a parent or teacher might have given a person low self-esteem. Ford's theory is the self-esteem comes from the story you tell yourself and then believe: the teacher says I am bad, therefore I am bad, for example.
Rewriting your story takes work. She focuses on this rewriting by asking you what you gained from your story. Did thinking you were a bad person strengthen you in some way? Did it make you a better friend or coworker? Have you gone out of your way to be what you think is "good" and what kind of strengths has that brought to your life?
From there, she advocates seeking out your "secret" - the real you, the one hidden by the story we all create about ourselves. This would be the divine you, the one you really want to open up and share with the world.
I thought there were good ideas in this book. I was listening to it in the car so I wasn't able to stop and do the meditations or journaling aspects. I also listened to it over the course of many weeks and I suspect working on this daily would be beneficial.
Ford passed away in 2013, a fact I was not aware of until I began writing this blog post. I was looking to see what else she has written. Her website offers some free meditations and prayers, as well as online courses and training in various related things.
Definitely an interesting listen if you're interested in self-growth.
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
Tuesday, June 17, 2014
Why Isn't This Fraud?
Having a medical condition that has forced me to delve into the recesses of the health care system has left me perplexed.
I have to wonder why the insurance companies, hospitals, medical device providers, and pharmaceutical companies, aren't all being charged with massive fraud.
"Free market" I guess is the answer, but if so, it is a sucky one and one that I do not accept. Because what is going on in the system in this country is, to be perfectly frank, wrong.
I am going to give you two examples from my own recent history.
In September, I received a CT Scan at one of the local hospitals. My insurance was billed $10,582.80 by the hospital for the procedure (this did not include ER or other tests, this was the CT scan only). The insurance company "allowed" $3,472.13, and that is what they paid as I had already met my out-of-pocket deductibles. (For my readers outside of the US, that is a cap the insurance companies place on policies. Once you pay X amount out of your pocket, then the insurance pays 100 percent of its allowable costs. It's very confusing.)
In April I had another CT scan at an affiliated satellite location with the same hospital. The charge for that scan was $7,949.00. The insurance company "allowed" $2,276.48, and I had to pay 20 percent of that "allowable" cost because I had not yet met my out-of-pocket deductible for this year.
When I go to my insurance company's website and look at their "estimate the costs" link for procedures, the cost for a CT scan of the abdomen with and without contrast (which is what I had), is less than $1,000. Good thing I wasn't depending on that to be right, huh?
How is this possible, you ask? Here's my understanding of it. The hospital "contracts" with the insurance companies and they make agreements about what is acceptable. You and I have no say in this matter. Neither does the government, except with government-paid policies (Medicare/Medicaid).
Obviously the hospital can afford to do a CT Scan for $2,276, the lowest price my insurance company "allowed," and not $10,582, the highest price the health care facility billed.
Read the comments on this website about the costs of CT Scans. One commenter claims to have been charged $252,000 for a CT Scan! Public bilking, anyone?
Here's the second example:
My doctor prescribed a TENS unit to help me with pain and so that I am not taking so many pain killers. A TENS unit sends electrical shocks into your muscles to trick your brain into thinking the spasms and pain aren't there. It helps.
The bill for the TENS was $795.00. The insurance company "allowed" $185, and I will have to pay 20 percent of that amount. The rest of the cost vanishes into thin air.
Last week I received a notice from the TENS unit company that it was time to get new electrodes (little pads that attach to your skin so that the electric current can go into your body). My insurance supposedly will pay 80 percent of the "allowable cost" for these supplies. This is my first time ordering them.
However, because of the "contract" with the company, and what may or may not be allowed, no one can tell me what my cost will be. I will be paying 20 percent of whatever the insurance company allows, as I understand it.
So I could be paying $2 or $200.
The company that sells the electrodes told me over the phone that they could sell them to me at the "out of pocket" cost (i.e., the cost without going through insurance), for $21.60 a pack. A pack, by the way, should last me 10 days. That is a lot of money.
What do you bet they charge the insurance company about three times that amount? And then the insurance company "allows" so much - but will it be less than $21.60 or more? I don't know.
So I asked my physical therapist today if they sell the electrodes by the pack. Why sure they do! For $9 a pack.
Will my 20 percent share on my insurance be more or less than $9 a pack? I don't know.
How am I supposed to make any kind of an informed decision about purchasing these items? How do you work that kind of thing into your budget when you don't know the amounts?
Tell me, somebody please, how all of this - this making up amounts and back-door dealing - isn't one great big fraud being perpetuated upon the American public. We Americans think we have the greatest health care system in the world when it really ranks 38th, right under the health care of Costa Rica and just slightly better than that of Slovenia! Slovenia, for Christ's sake. We are not number one. That would be France. Yes, France.
Health care should be regulated. Free market my ass. F--k capitalism and the so-called Free Market. This is nothing but a rape of the sick, who generally are too ill to fight and advocate for themselves. The greedy shysters in the industry know they can easily take sick people's savings, cars, homes, and lives. What a distasteful and immoral system we have, one that allows such devils to prey upon the weak. Blood sucking leeches, every last one of them, and they all should be behind bars serving time in jail.
This is why we need real health care reform, one with regulations, checks and balances, and oversight that keeps people who are ill from having to grow even sicker trying to figure out how to keep food on the table and the lights on.
Unfortunately, fraud is legal in US health care, where only dollar bills count and people are just so much chum in the ocean filled with sharks.
I have to wonder why the insurance companies, hospitals, medical device providers, and pharmaceutical companies, aren't all being charged with massive fraud.
"Free market" I guess is the answer, but if so, it is a sucky one and one that I do not accept. Because what is going on in the system in this country is, to be perfectly frank, wrong.
I am going to give you two examples from my own recent history.
In September, I received a CT Scan at one of the local hospitals. My insurance was billed $10,582.80 by the hospital for the procedure (this did not include ER or other tests, this was the CT scan only). The insurance company "allowed" $3,472.13, and that is what they paid as I had already met my out-of-pocket deductibles. (For my readers outside of the US, that is a cap the insurance companies place on policies. Once you pay X amount out of your pocket, then the insurance pays 100 percent of its allowable costs. It's very confusing.)
In April I had another CT scan at an affiliated satellite location with the same hospital. The charge for that scan was $7,949.00. The insurance company "allowed" $2,276.48, and I had to pay 20 percent of that "allowable" cost because I had not yet met my out-of-pocket deductible for this year.
When I go to my insurance company's website and look at their "estimate the costs" link for procedures, the cost for a CT scan of the abdomen with and without contrast (which is what I had), is less than $1,000. Good thing I wasn't depending on that to be right, huh?
How is this possible, you ask? Here's my understanding of it. The hospital "contracts" with the insurance companies and they make agreements about what is acceptable. You and I have no say in this matter. Neither does the government, except with government-paid policies (Medicare/Medicaid).
Obviously the hospital can afford to do a CT Scan for $2,276, the lowest price my insurance company "allowed," and not $10,582, the highest price the health care facility billed.
Read the comments on this website about the costs of CT Scans. One commenter claims to have been charged $252,000 for a CT Scan! Public bilking, anyone?
Here's the second example:
My doctor prescribed a TENS unit to help me with pain and so that I am not taking so many pain killers. A TENS unit sends electrical shocks into your muscles to trick your brain into thinking the spasms and pain aren't there. It helps.
The bill for the TENS was $795.00. The insurance company "allowed" $185, and I will have to pay 20 percent of that amount. The rest of the cost vanishes into thin air.
Last week I received a notice from the TENS unit company that it was time to get new electrodes (little pads that attach to your skin so that the electric current can go into your body). My insurance supposedly will pay 80 percent of the "allowable cost" for these supplies. This is my first time ordering them.
However, because of the "contract" with the company, and what may or may not be allowed, no one can tell me what my cost will be. I will be paying 20 percent of whatever the insurance company allows, as I understand it.
So I could be paying $2 or $200.
The company that sells the electrodes told me over the phone that they could sell them to me at the "out of pocket" cost (i.e., the cost without going through insurance), for $21.60 a pack. A pack, by the way, should last me 10 days. That is a lot of money.
What do you bet they charge the insurance company about three times that amount? And then the insurance company "allows" so much - but will it be less than $21.60 or more? I don't know.
So I asked my physical therapist today if they sell the electrodes by the pack. Why sure they do! For $9 a pack.
Will my 20 percent share on my insurance be more or less than $9 a pack? I don't know.
How am I supposed to make any kind of an informed decision about purchasing these items? How do you work that kind of thing into your budget when you don't know the amounts?
Tell me, somebody please, how all of this - this making up amounts and back-door dealing - isn't one great big fraud being perpetuated upon the American public. We Americans think we have the greatest health care system in the world when it really ranks 38th, right under the health care of Costa Rica and just slightly better than that of Slovenia! Slovenia, for Christ's sake. We are not number one. That would be France. Yes, France.
Health care should be regulated. Free market my ass. F--k capitalism and the so-called Free Market. This is nothing but a rape of the sick, who generally are too ill to fight and advocate for themselves. The greedy shysters in the industry know they can easily take sick people's savings, cars, homes, and lives. What a distasteful and immoral system we have, one that allows such devils to prey upon the weak. Blood sucking leeches, every last one of them, and they all should be behind bars serving time in jail.
This is why we need real health care reform, one with regulations, checks and balances, and oversight that keeps people who are ill from having to grow even sicker trying to figure out how to keep food on the table and the lights on.
Unfortunately, fraud is legal in US health care, where only dollar bills count and people are just so much chum in the ocean filled with sharks.
Monday, June 16, 2014
Trapping Stink Bugs
Stink bugs, an invasive species, began showing up in our area a couple of years ago. They hid in the curtains, behind picture frames, and in places you'd never think to look. They don't like temperatures below 70 degrees.
They come out and crawl on the walls and fly around the lights. Sometimes you are in the middle of doing something and you look down and there's a stink bug. They seem to materialize out of thin air.
This is how I capture stink bugs.
You need a plastic bottle and a pair of scissors.
Cut the bottle several inches from the top; along the label line often works well.
I use my handy kitchen scissors for this. I suppose you could also use a pocket knife or something.
Once you have the bottle cut, you invert the top (take the lid off the bottle) and place it down in the bottle to create a funnel.
Then you go around the room and collect stink bugs. I usually tap them into the bottle with a pencil (using the eraser end so as not to damage the walls). They can't climb back out because the inverted funnel creates a barrier they can't cross when they climb up the sides of the bottle.
You can also stick a little water and Dawn in the bottom. That will kill the bugs. I'm told Pinesol also works well for this, and does a better job of covering up any stinky stink bug odor, too, but I haven't tried it.
Recently we discovered this stuff and sprayed it around all the doors and windows. I have seen fewer stink bugs indoors since we did that, so it seems to work to keep them at bay.
They aren't gone; I found a lot of them outside over the weekend. They were in my roses, my forsythia, and the garden. Stinky little beasts.
Anyway, if you haven't yet figured out how to deal with stink bugs in your house, maybe this will help.
*No one paid me to endorse a product or talk about stink bugs in this entry.*
Sunday, June 15, 2014
The Made-Up Jobs
From Sunday Stealing
90, Part 2
30. Do you read your horoscope?
A. I do, but I don't live my life by it.
31. Where was the last place you bought something?
A. The supermarket. I bought groceries for dinner but since I have decided today to go on a cooking strike I guess that meat will simply sit there.
32. How do you feel about your hair right now?
A. I'm glad it's on my head.
33. Do you bite your nails?
A. Yes. I have since I was a very young child.
34. Do you have any expensive jewelry?
A. Honestly, yes or no questions are not good meme questions. They should be opened-ended, such as "What kind of expensive jewelry do you have, if any?" Not that I would answer that particular question. I don't want to be robbed.
35. Have you ever been told you speak fast?
A. I'm from the south. No one down here speaks fast unless they have come from somewhere else.
36. Is your laugh usually hearty?
A. It's a laugh. Ha ha. I have no idea if it's hearty or not.
37. How fast have you driven a car?
A. Well, don't tell anybody, but I once hit 120 on the back roads of Botetourt. It was a very long time ago, though, and now I am a good girl and (almost always) drive the speed limit.
38. Have you ever smoked?
A. I tried cigarettes in high school but could not tolerate them. I have asthma so that is probably a good thing.
39. What was your favorite subject in school?
A. English.
40. Do you have cell phone provider loyalty?
A. I suppose so, since I have been with my provider since about 2001.
41. What type of boy or girl do you usually fall for?
A. Um. I've been married for 30 years. The guy I "fell for" is a ol' plow boy who works hard and doesn't see much beyond tomorrow. He's also very kind, big-hearted, and intelligent. I'm not sure what "type" that makes him.
42. Do you have any hidden talents?
A. If they're hidden, how would I know?
43. Favorite song?
A. Don't really have one. I like stuff from the 1970s, including the dreaded disco. I favor southern rock and I like the Eagles, Linda Ronstadt, Anne Murray, Melissa Etheridge, and early Sheryl Crow. I don't listen to country music, hip hop, heavy metal, punk, or alternative music. I like classical sometimes when I'm in the mood, and I like album soundtracks from movies like Lord of the Rings.
44. Do you like to sing at all?
A. I do like to sing, yes. Sometimes I belt it out until I am hoarse.
45. Dream job?
A. One that would give me enough money to live just a bit above "comfortable" and, since I am now having health issues, I would like to be able to afford someone to come in and clean occasionally.
46. Where does most of your family live?
A. Some live nearby,some are on the other side of the country.
47. Are you an only child or do you have siblings?
A. I have a brother. He is a brat still, even though we are both old people.
48. Would you consider yourself to be spoiled?
A. No, but I imagine some might.
49. What was the first thing you thought when you woke up?
A. That I would be alone again today.
50. Do you drink?
A. Water. You know if you don't, you dehydrate and die. So I think most everyone capable of answering this question would answer "yes" in some fashion.
51. Know any other languages?
A. Yo hablo muy poco espaniol.
52. Ever write a coded message?
A. I had a friend in high school who insisted on writing in code; it drove me crazy.
53. Have you ever been in someone else's wedding?
A. Yes.
54. Do you have any children?
A. No.
55. Did you take a nap today?
A. Not yet.
56. Who has the same birthday as you?
A. I have an uncle who is a year younger than I who was born on my birthday. According to Biography.com, I share this date with Barbara Bush, Nancy Sinatra, Gabrielle Giffords, Frank Lloyd Wright, Joan Rivers, and a bunch of other people whose names I don't recognize.
57. Ever met anyone famous before?
A. Yes. I used to write for newspapers and I have met many so-called famous people, mostly politicians. I have met every Virginia governor since Doug Wilder up through Bob McDonnell. That includes both of our current senators (Mark Warner & Tim Kaine). I have not met the current governor, Terry McAuliffe. I also know several state delegates and senators and most of the local news media folk. Also, I met Dolly Parton a really long time ago.
58. Do you want to be famous one day?
A. I'm already about as famous as I want to be.
59. Any pet peeves?
A. People who talk on their cell phone instead of paying attention to the people who are right in front of them. Sales clerks who ignore the customers at the register in favor of those on the phone. Discourtesy in general.
60. Are you multitasking right now?
A. The washer and dryer are both working hard, and the radio is playing, so I suppose so.
90, Part 2
30. Do you read your horoscope?
A. I do, but I don't live my life by it.
31. Where was the last place you bought something?
A. The supermarket. I bought groceries for dinner but since I have decided today to go on a cooking strike I guess that meat will simply sit there.
32. How do you feel about your hair right now?
A. I'm glad it's on my head.
33. Do you bite your nails?
A. Yes. I have since I was a very young child.
34. Do you have any expensive jewelry?
A. Honestly, yes or no questions are not good meme questions. They should be opened-ended, such as "What kind of expensive jewelry do you have, if any?" Not that I would answer that particular question. I don't want to be robbed.
35. Have you ever been told you speak fast?
A. I'm from the south. No one down here speaks fast unless they have come from somewhere else.
36. Is your laugh usually hearty?
A. It's a laugh. Ha ha. I have no idea if it's hearty or not.
37. How fast have you driven a car?
A. Well, don't tell anybody, but I once hit 120 on the back roads of Botetourt. It was a very long time ago, though, and now I am a good girl and (almost always) drive the speed limit.
38. Have you ever smoked?
A. I tried cigarettes in high school but could not tolerate them. I have asthma so that is probably a good thing.
39. What was your favorite subject in school?
A. English.
40. Do you have cell phone provider loyalty?
A. I suppose so, since I have been with my provider since about 2001.
41. What type of boy or girl do you usually fall for?
A. Um. I've been married for 30 years. The guy I "fell for" is a ol' plow boy who works hard and doesn't see much beyond tomorrow. He's also very kind, big-hearted, and intelligent. I'm not sure what "type" that makes him.
42. Do you have any hidden talents?
A. If they're hidden, how would I know?
43. Favorite song?
A. Don't really have one. I like stuff from the 1970s, including the dreaded disco. I favor southern rock and I like the Eagles, Linda Ronstadt, Anne Murray, Melissa Etheridge, and early Sheryl Crow. I don't listen to country music, hip hop, heavy metal, punk, or alternative music. I like classical sometimes when I'm in the mood, and I like album soundtracks from movies like Lord of the Rings.
44. Do you like to sing at all?
A. I do like to sing, yes. Sometimes I belt it out until I am hoarse.
45. Dream job?
A. One that would give me enough money to live just a bit above "comfortable" and, since I am now having health issues, I would like to be able to afford someone to come in and clean occasionally.
46. Where does most of your family live?
A. Some live nearby,some are on the other side of the country.
47. Are you an only child or do you have siblings?
A. I have a brother. He is a brat still, even though we are both old people.
48. Would you consider yourself to be spoiled?
A. No, but I imagine some might.
49. What was the first thing you thought when you woke up?
A. That I would be alone again today.
50. Do you drink?
A. Water. You know if you don't, you dehydrate and die. So I think most everyone capable of answering this question would answer "yes" in some fashion.
51. Know any other languages?
A. Yo hablo muy poco espaniol.
52. Ever write a coded message?
A. I had a friend in high school who insisted on writing in code; it drove me crazy.
53. Have you ever been in someone else's wedding?
A. Yes.
54. Do you have any children?
A. No.
55. Did you take a nap today?
A. Not yet.
56. Who has the same birthday as you?
A. I have an uncle who is a year younger than I who was born on my birthday. According to Biography.com, I share this date with Barbara Bush, Nancy Sinatra, Gabrielle Giffords, Frank Lloyd Wright, Joan Rivers, and a bunch of other people whose names I don't recognize.
57. Ever met anyone famous before?
A. Yes. I used to write for newspapers and I have met many so-called famous people, mostly politicians. I have met every Virginia governor since Doug Wilder up through Bob McDonnell. That includes both of our current senators (Mark Warner & Tim Kaine). I have not met the current governor, Terry McAuliffe. I also know several state delegates and senators and most of the local news media folk. Also, I met Dolly Parton a really long time ago.
58. Do you want to be famous one day?
A. I'm already about as famous as I want to be.
59. Any pet peeves?
A. People who talk on their cell phone instead of paying attention to the people who are right in front of them. Sales clerks who ignore the customers at the register in favor of those on the phone. Discourtesy in general.
60. Are you multitasking right now?
A. The washer and dryer are both working hard, and the radio is playing, so I suppose so.
Saturday, June 14, 2014
I Am A Nerd
Saturday 9: Oh! My Papa (1954)
1) Eddie Fisher starred in a popular 1950s TV show, which was sponsored by Coca Cola. Do you have a favorite soft drink?
A. I drink A&W Root Beer from time to time, though last year's diagnosis of ulcers has kept me from having a taste in a long while. Mostly I drink water, though, and a cup of tea or two every day.
A. Debbie Reynolds was the first wife, and Elizabeth Taylor the second, or maybe I have that backwards.Trivia: Debbie Reynolds eventually married Richard Hamlett, a real estate developer, and they lived in Roanoke, VA (which is the city closest to where I live) for a short time in the 1980s. My friend Lee delivered balloons and singing telegrams and she delivered one to Reynolds. You can see a picture of her with the movie star here if you scroll through her picture collage near the bottom of the page.
A. I am a nerd. Of course I am a fantasy and a sci-fi fan. May the Force be with you, Schrodinger's Cat. I'm glad to be with you, Samwise Gamgee, here at the end of all things.
4) Since the father of the author of these questions (that would be Sam the Great Meme Writer) is particular about his footwear and likes "a good pair of Cole Haan loafers," her Father's Day present to him is a DSW gift card. If we were to give you a gift card to any store or restaurant, which would you choose?
1) Eddie Fisher starred in a popular 1950s TV show, which was sponsored by Coca Cola. Do you have a favorite soft drink?
A. I drink A&W Root Beer from time to time, though last year's diagnosis of ulcers has kept me from having a taste in a long while. Mostly I drink water, though, and a cup of tea or two every day.
2) Fisher was notorious for leaving his famous first wife for his very famous second wife. Can you name either of the women involved in this Hollywood scandal?
A. Debbie Reynolds was the first wife, and Elizabeth Taylor the second, or maybe I have that backwards.Trivia: Debbie Reynolds eventually married Richard Hamlett, a real estate developer, and they lived in Roanoke, VA (which is the city closest to where I live) for a short time in the 1980s. My friend Lee delivered balloons and singing telegrams and she delivered one to Reynolds. You can see a picture of her with the movie star here if you scroll through her picture collage near the bottom of the page.
3) His oldest daughter, Carrie Fisher, is best known as Princess Leia from Star Wars. Are you a sci-fi fan?
A. I am a nerd. Of course I am a fantasy and a sci-fi fan. May the Force be with you, Schrodinger's Cat. I'm glad to be with you, Samwise Gamgee, here at the end of all things.
4) Since the father of the author of these questions (that would be Sam the Great Meme Writer) is particular about his footwear and likes "a good pair of Cole Haan loafers," her Father's Day present to him is a DSW gift card. If we were to give you a gift card to any store or restaurant, which would you choose?
A. Any book store will do.
5) Sam's father hates it when she swears. When is the last time your cursed?
5) Sam's father hates it when she swears. When is the last time your cursed?
A. Today. I curse a lot. My parents always did and I was raised with it. I can make a sailor blush, truly. I try not to use this colorful language but it slips on out.
6) Sam's father is a voracious reader. So much so that the local librarian knows him on sight and by name. How often do you visit your neighborhood library?
6) Sam's father is a voracious reader. So much so that the local librarian knows him on sight and by name. How often do you visit your neighborhood library?
A. About once every two weeks, sometimes more often. I know the library number by heart and the local librarians all know me by name. I also used to serve on my local library board. Big fan of libraries here.
7) "A good used car is a better investment than a new car." That's what Sam's dad tells her when she's in the market for wheels. Share some other words of financial wisdom with us.
A. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
8) Every car her father has ever owned had a pro-union bumper sticker. Do you have any bumper stickers on your vehicle?
8) Every car her father has ever owned had a pro-union bumper sticker. Do you have any bumper stickers on your vehicle?
A. No, but I do have a college alumnae doohickey around the license plate. I am also pro-union, even though Virginia has been a "right to work" state for as long as I can remember, effectively neutering unions and being a part of the demise of our way of life as we know it. (Virginia laws regarding unions started in 1947 and were revised in the 1970s.) "Right to work" is actually slang for "right to fire."
9) To celebrate Father's Day, Sam is giving away her father's favorite candy: LifeSavers. Would you prefer a roll of Wild Cherry, Butter Rum, Winter Green or Peppermint?
9) To celebrate Father's Day, Sam is giving away her father's favorite candy: LifeSavers. Would you prefer a roll of Wild Cherry, Butter Rum, Winter Green or Peppermint?
A. Wild cherry, which to be perfectly honest with you, I have been looking for but cannot find in the Roanoke area. Do they even make those any more?
Friday, June 13, 2014
The Fret Mill
The Fret Mill is a music store located in downtown Roanoke. It was the only reason a friend and I were in downtown a while back; we wanted to pick up guitar strings.
I hadn't been in the store in years (because I really don't like downtown Roanoke, not that I am repeating myself). But a very long time ago, like about 25 years or so, I took guitar lessons there. I went on my lunch hour when I worked at one of the area's biggest law firms.
The fellow who taught me guitar died young but he was a legend in the finger-picking circles during his time. He won all kinds of awards. His name was Buster Jones. I only took lessons from him for a single summer; he was an interesting guy. And he could make that guitar sing, let me tell you. But I don't think he really had the patience to teach.
The Fret Mill I went into recently was a shadow of its former self. The store was about half the size it once was, and it was carrying name-brand guitars that I did not recognize. I have a great little classical Takamine guitar that I bought there so long ago.
I suppose as computers take over, and kids think Guitar Hero is how one plays a guitar, the music stores will go the way of book stores eventually. You'll buy your instrument over the Internet and hope it sounds good when UPS drops it off. That is if anyone still plays at all.
You can't get the feel of an instrument until you hold it your hands. I would hate to see the stores go away.
The Fret Mill still offered a nice selection of books, strings, and other music essentials. It was nice to revisit the store, in spite of the changes.
Thursday, June 12, 2014
Thursday Thirteen
Thirteen places I'd like to be . . .
1. Down by the river
2. In someone's heart
3. On a mountain top
4. By the ocean
5. In the forest
6. Driving fast in my new car
7. In the barnyard
8. Nowhere
9. On someone's mind
10. On another planet
11. High up in a tree house
12. Buried deep in a book
13. Inside a cave
Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here. I've been playing for a while and this is my 348th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday.
2. In someone's heart
3. On a mountain top
4. By the ocean
5. In the forest
6. Driving fast in my new car
7. In the barnyard
8. Nowhere
9. On someone's mind
10. On another planet
11. High up in a tree house
12. Buried deep in a book
13. Inside a cave
Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here. I've been playing for a while and this is my 348th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday.
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
The Roanoke City Market Building
In late May, I went downtown for a brief visit. I don't like downtown Roanoke and go there infrequently. This was my first trip to the city's center in years.
My friend and I went to the City Market Building to eat lunch. The building was renovated in 2011 at a cost of $7.9 million.
Somebody needs to ask for their money back.
This exterior sidewalk art was the nicest and coolest thing about the redesign.
Inside, the open space was, well, big. It was also depressing, uninspiring, and dark. The City Market Building back in the late 1980s (and I suppose up until the renovation) was a strange-looking place, with lots of neon signs, but it at least had character and visual interest.
This has no character. This is like a big warehouse with eateries in it.
It is not a place I would want to spend much time. Actually, I doubt I ever go back in there again if I can help it.
What a shame the city spent so much money to accomplish so little. As I understand it, the firm that renovated the building was not from the area; I hope they aren't using this building as one of their prize projects in their portfolio.
The Roanoke City Market district area is the oldest continuous farmer's market in Virginia. It began in 1882 and this building played a big role in that history.
While I am glad they didn't tear down the historic structure, I think the city residents got a raw deal in this redesign. The whole thing was poorly done from the get-go, what with the building being closed for a long time so that the small restaurants that had been there for years had to close or relocate.
We were down there at mid-day and the place should have been so crowded you could hardly walk, but as the pictures show that was not the case.
Except for the interesting exterior sidewalk art, I give this project a big fail.
Dan Smith over on his blog posted about the Market Building's kiosk in May 2012, which was removed. He called the newly designed Market Building "a building without life" and I have to agree. Somebody please go in there and save this space!
My friend and I went to the City Market Building to eat lunch. The building was renovated in 2011 at a cost of $7.9 million.
Somebody needs to ask for their money back.
This exterior sidewalk art was the nicest and coolest thing about the redesign.
Inside, the open space was, well, big. It was also depressing, uninspiring, and dark. The City Market Building back in the late 1980s (and I suppose up until the renovation) was a strange-looking place, with lots of neon signs, but it at least had character and visual interest.
This has no character. This is like a big warehouse with eateries in it.
It is not a place I would want to spend much time. Actually, I doubt I ever go back in there again if I can help it.
What a shame the city spent so much money to accomplish so little. As I understand it, the firm that renovated the building was not from the area; I hope they aren't using this building as one of their prize projects in their portfolio.
The Roanoke City Market district area is the oldest continuous farmer's market in Virginia. It began in 1882 and this building played a big role in that history.
While I am glad they didn't tear down the historic structure, I think the city residents got a raw deal in this redesign. The whole thing was poorly done from the get-go, what with the building being closed for a long time so that the small restaurants that had been there for years had to close or relocate.
We were down there at mid-day and the place should have been so crowded you could hardly walk, but as the pictures show that was not the case.
Except for the interesting exterior sidewalk art, I give this project a big fail.
Dan Smith over on his blog posted about the Market Building's kiosk in May 2012, which was removed. He called the newly designed Market Building "a building without life" and I have to agree. Somebody please go in there and save this space!
Monday, June 09, 2014
Medicine Applicator For Your Back
Sometimes when you are alone, you need things done that require a second person. I have a husband but he's a busy guy and our schedules don't always work out so that he can help me.
Applying something like Ben Gay or a similar product to the muscles of your mid-back qualifies as one of those. The same goes with suntan lotion. How do you get it back there without contorting yourself up into a pretzel?
My solution to this issue was to purchase a hardy back scrubber and make it into something I could use as an applicator.
You will need a back cleaner brush, preferably one with stout bristles, some tape (I used some surgical tape I had here, but duct tape would do), a pair of scissors, and a covering. I am using a surgical wound pad here, but I have also used facial cleaner pads with good results.
Cover the bristles with your pad.
Tape all the way around so that the pad is firmly in place.
Apply the medication (or suntan lotion).
I usually rub the medication into the pad a little bit, and then reach the back scrubber over my shoulder and place the medication where I want.
Incidentally, I like BioFreeze, which is only sold at places like physical therapy and chiropractic businesses and not in general stores, but you could use this for any product you need to apply in a hard-to-reach area.
So there you have it. A self-applicator.
*No one paid me to mention any product. This is just a helpful hint.*
Applying something like Ben Gay or a similar product to the muscles of your mid-back qualifies as one of those. The same goes with suntan lotion. How do you get it back there without contorting yourself up into a pretzel?
My solution to this issue was to purchase a hardy back scrubber and make it into something I could use as an applicator.
You will need a back cleaner brush, preferably one with stout bristles, some tape (I used some surgical tape I had here, but duct tape would do), a pair of scissors, and a covering. I am using a surgical wound pad here, but I have also used facial cleaner pads with good results.
Cover the bristles with your pad.
Tape all the way around so that the pad is firmly in place.
Apply the medication (or suntan lotion).
I usually rub the medication into the pad a little bit, and then reach the back scrubber over my shoulder and place the medication where I want.
Incidentally, I like BioFreeze, which is only sold at places like physical therapy and chiropractic businesses and not in general stores, but you could use this for any product you need to apply in a hard-to-reach area.
So there you have it. A self-applicator.
*No one paid me to mention any product. This is just a helpful hint.*
Sunday, June 08, 2014
Today's My Birthday!
Today, Dear Reader, is my birthday! I am 51 years old as of 3:04 a.m. this morning. My head still thinks I'm 16. My body, on the other hand, thinks I'm 151. I am looking for the magic potions for that dilemma.
From Sunday Stealing
90, Part I (that sounds ominous, doesn't it?)
1. What was the highlight of your week last week?
2. Whose car were you in last?
A. Mine. My brand new 2014 Toyota Camry that I purchased in April.
3. When is the next time you will kiss someone?
A. Whenever I next see my most excellent spouse. Preferably after he's had a shower, though.
4. What color shirt are you wearing?
A. Gray.
5. How long is your hair?
A. Shoulder length.
6. Are you good looking?
A. Not especially. I am not beautiful by any means. When I was young I think I might have been called a "handsome" woman, whatever that means. But now I'm just me.
7. Last movie you watched?
A. The last one at the theater was The Hobbit II: Desolation of Smog.
8. Who were you with?
A. My most excellent spouse.
9. Last thing you ate?
A. A boiled egg.
10. Last thing you drank?
A. Water.
11. When was the last time you had your heart broken?
A. I don't know. Does hearing from a doctor that you might be disabled for the rest of your life count as a broken heart? If so, then back in April.
12. Who came over last?
A. My friend Teresa (see the woman in the cow costume, above), who picked me up and drove me to physical therapy.
13. Are you happy right now?
A. I can't complain. It's my birthday! And my husband is taking me to dinner so I don't have to cook.
14. What did you say last?
A. I told my husband to be careful as he headed out the door to the hay field.
15. Where is your phone?
A. The landline is on my desk. My cell is in my car. I don't have good reception in the house so I don't use it inside.
16. What color are your eyes?
A. Hazel.
17. Are you left-handed?
A. No.
18. Spell your name without vowels:
A. No. What a silly command. I absolutely refuse on the grounds that today is my birthday and I can do whatever I darned well please.
19. Do you have any pets?
A. Twelve cows a calving! Eleven raccoons jumping! Ten coyotes howling. Nine foxes dancing! Eight crows a cawing! Seven turkeys gobbling! Six geese a-laying! Five big blue jays! Four deer with fawns, three groundhogs in holes, two nesting finches, and a big bear down in the hay field!
20. Favorite vacation?
A. We have equally enjoyed Williamsburg, Monticello, and Myrtle Beach.
21. What do you dislike currently?
A. I dislike not knowing what is wrong with me. Mystery illnesses are no fun. When you fall outside of what the medical profession professes to know, you land in limbo land.
22. What are you listening to?
A. The ticking of a clock and the clicking of my computer keyboard keys.
23. If you could have one thing right now what would it be?
A. Good health.
24. What is your favorite scent?
A. I prefer everything unscented because I am allergic to most of the world, but I must say it is hard to beat the smell of chocolate chip cookies baking in the oven.
25. Who makes you happiest?
A. You have to make your own happiness. Nobody can do it for you.
26. What were you doing at midnight last night?
A. I was asleep.
27. When is your birthday?
A. TODAY! TODAY! TODAY!
28. Who has the same phone as you?
A. Um. I don't understand this question. Nor do I care to understand it.
29. Last time you went swimming in a pool?
A. It's been years.
From Sunday Stealing
90, Part I (that sounds ominous, doesn't it?)
1. What was the highlight of your week last week?
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| Udderly insane! |
A. That would be a tie. On Monday, which was my husband's birthday, my friend dressed up in a cow costume and we took him a John Deere birthday cake to his place of employment. Since that is a firehouse, you can image the looks we received. On Friday, another dear friend took me to lunch for my birthday.
2. Whose car were you in last?
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| Hi Gorgeous! |
3. When is the next time you will kiss someone?
A. Whenever I next see my most excellent spouse. Preferably after he's had a shower, though.
4. What color shirt are you wearing?
A. Gray.
5. How long is your hair?
A. Shoulder length.
6. Are you good looking?
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| The only picture of myself in which I've thought I might pass as "pretty." My wedding day, almost 31 years ago. |
A. Not especially. I am not beautiful by any means. When I was young I think I might have been called a "handsome" woman, whatever that means. But now I'm just me.
7. Last movie you watched?
A. The last one at the theater was The Hobbit II: Desolation of Smog.
8. Who were you with?
A. My most excellent spouse.
9. Last thing you ate?
A. A boiled egg.
10. Last thing you drank?
A. Water.
11. When was the last time you had your heart broken?
A. I don't know. Does hearing from a doctor that you might be disabled for the rest of your life count as a broken heart? If so, then back in April.
12. Who came over last?
A. My friend Teresa (see the woman in the cow costume, above), who picked me up and drove me to physical therapy.
13. Are you happy right now?
A. I can't complain. It's my birthday! And my husband is taking me to dinner so I don't have to cook.
14. What did you say last?
A. I told my husband to be careful as he headed out the door to the hay field.
15. Where is your phone?
A. The landline is on my desk. My cell is in my car. I don't have good reception in the house so I don't use it inside.
16. What color are your eyes?
A. Hazel.
17. Are you left-handed?
A. No.
18. Spell your name without vowels:
A. No. What a silly command. I absolutely refuse on the grounds that today is my birthday and I can do whatever I darned well please.
19. Do you have any pets?
A. Twelve cows a calving! Eleven raccoons jumping! Ten coyotes howling. Nine foxes dancing! Eight crows a cawing! Seven turkeys gobbling! Six geese a-laying! Five big blue jays! Four deer with fawns, three groundhogs in holes, two nesting finches, and a big bear down in the hay field!20. Favorite vacation?
A. We have equally enjoyed Williamsburg, Monticello, and Myrtle Beach.
21. What do you dislike currently?
A. I dislike not knowing what is wrong with me. Mystery illnesses are no fun. When you fall outside of what the medical profession professes to know, you land in limbo land.
22. What are you listening to?
A. The ticking of a clock and the clicking of my computer keyboard keys.
23. If you could have one thing right now what would it be?
A. Good health.
24. What is your favorite scent?
A. I prefer everything unscented because I am allergic to most of the world, but I must say it is hard to beat the smell of chocolate chip cookies baking in the oven.
25. Who makes you happiest?
A. You have to make your own happiness. Nobody can do it for you.
26. What were you doing at midnight last night?
A. I was asleep.
27. When is your birthday?
A. TODAY! TODAY! TODAY!
28. Who has the same phone as you?
A. Um. I don't understand this question. Nor do I care to understand it.
29. Last time you went swimming in a pool?
A. It's been years.
Saturday, June 07, 2014
Saturday 9 - Walk This Way
Saturday 9: Walk This Way
(recommended by In the Company of Me)
1) This song is about a young man who takes advantage of his "big chance at a high school dance." Share a memory from your high school years.
A. I used to play in a rock band when I was in high school, but we didn't perform this song - we did a lot of disco. That was the hot music at the time on the dance scene and we played dance halls which did not want rock and roll. We were a pretty good band for a bunch of kids.
2) Lead singer Steven Tyler is the son of a working mother (mom Susan was a secretary). Did your mother work outside the home?
A. She did. She worked as a secretary at a company in Salem, Virginia. It was a 40 minute drive for her each way to get to work. When we came home from school, which was usually around 4 p.m. or so, we had to call her and let her know all was fine. If we didn't call, she would call us, and we had a pre-arranged signal in case a stranger ever came into our home while we were there without an adult (which was a lot of the time; I was a latchkey child). If I answered the phone and called her by a name different than "Mom" she would know something was wrong.
3) Onstage, Tyler takes colorful scarves from around his neck and drapes them over the microphone. Do you accessorize your outfits with scarves and belts? Or do you prefer to keep things simple?
A. I keep things simple. A single small chain and my wedding band is about it, though I confess I have a secret passion for hats.
4) Tyler confessed to having a massive crush on Jennifer Lopez, his fellow judge on American Idol. Do you think a coworker has ever had a crush on you?
A. Not that I was aware of, no.
5) Aerosmith lead guitarist Joe Perry says seeing The Beatles on The Ed Sullivan Show in 1964 inspired him to go into music. How did you end up in your chosen profession?
A. I have always loved the written word as long as I can remember. My writing abilities were encouraged by nearly every teacher I ever had. My ambition was not to write news stories, though. I wanted to write a series like Nancy Drew, at least when I was younger.
6) Perry's hobby, breeding horses, is very lucrative. What are your hobbies?
A. Playing guitar, reading, gardening, journaling, computer games.
7) Aerosmith performed before their biggest-ever TV audience when they played the Super Bowl halftime show in 2001. Are you a football fan? If so, do you prefer college football or the NFL? What teams do you root for?
A. I am not a football fan. I root for the University of Virginia team (Go Wahoos!) during the college season, mostly because around here everyone roots for Virginia Tech (Boo Hokies!). I have never followed the crowd. My alma mater's college football team, by the way, has never lost a game, ever. That's because it is an all-female university at the undergrad level and they don't have a team! Gotcha, didn't I!
8) Now that we're into summer, the days are longer. When is the last time you watched the sun set?
A. I love to take photos and the sun sets right in my front door, so I watch it go down almost every evening.
9) What time did you go to sleep last night?
A. We went to bed around 10 p.m. I did not sleep well.
(recommended by In the Company of Me)
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| CountryDew rockin' out 35 years ago. |
A. I used to play in a rock band when I was in high school, but we didn't perform this song - we did a lot of disco. That was the hot music at the time on the dance scene and we played dance halls which did not want rock and roll. We were a pretty good band for a bunch of kids.
2) Lead singer Steven Tyler is the son of a working mother (mom Susan was a secretary). Did your mother work outside the home?
A. She did. She worked as a secretary at a company in Salem, Virginia. It was a 40 minute drive for her each way to get to work. When we came home from school, which was usually around 4 p.m. or so, we had to call her and let her know all was fine. If we didn't call, she would call us, and we had a pre-arranged signal in case a stranger ever came into our home while we were there without an adult (which was a lot of the time; I was a latchkey child). If I answered the phone and called her by a name different than "Mom" she would know something was wrong.
3) Onstage, Tyler takes colorful scarves from around his neck and drapes them over the microphone. Do you accessorize your outfits with scarves and belts? Or do you prefer to keep things simple?
A. I keep things simple. A single small chain and my wedding band is about it, though I confess I have a secret passion for hats.
4) Tyler confessed to having a massive crush on Jennifer Lopez, his fellow judge on American Idol. Do you think a coworker has ever had a crush on you?
A. Not that I was aware of, no.
5) Aerosmith lead guitarist Joe Perry says seeing The Beatles on The Ed Sullivan Show in 1964 inspired him to go into music. How did you end up in your chosen profession?
A. I have always loved the written word as long as I can remember. My writing abilities were encouraged by nearly every teacher I ever had. My ambition was not to write news stories, though. I wanted to write a series like Nancy Drew, at least when I was younger.
6) Perry's hobby, breeding horses, is very lucrative. What are your hobbies?
A. Playing guitar, reading, gardening, journaling, computer games.
7) Aerosmith performed before their biggest-ever TV audience when they played the Super Bowl halftime show in 2001. Are you a football fan? If so, do you prefer college football or the NFL? What teams do you root for?
A. I am not a football fan. I root for the University of Virginia team (Go Wahoos!) during the college season, mostly because around here everyone roots for Virginia Tech (Boo Hokies!). I have never followed the crowd. My alma mater's college football team, by the way, has never lost a game, ever. That's because it is an all-female university at the undergrad level and they don't have a team! Gotcha, didn't I!
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| June 19, 2010 sunset |
A. I love to take photos and the sun sets right in my front door, so I watch it go down almost every evening.
9) What time did you go to sleep last night?
A. We went to bed around 10 p.m. I did not sleep well.
Friday, June 06, 2014
Thursday, June 05, 2014
Three on Thursday
Three on Thursday
1. What is an irrational fear you have?
A. That I will end up sleeping in a box under an overpass.
2. What is the chore that is the worst for you?
A. I am not fond of cleaning toilets, but at the moment, because of a health issue, I can do that more easily than I can run the vacuum.
3. Are you a sports person/fan? (Feel free to share the teams you cheer for! Go Team Go!)
A. Not really. My husband watches NASCAR so I sometimes see that when I sit with him. I like to watch the Olympics when they are on, but I do not keep up with who is doing what.
1. What is an irrational fear you have?
A. That I will end up sleeping in a box under an overpass.
2. What is the chore that is the worst for you?
A. I am not fond of cleaning toilets, but at the moment, because of a health issue, I can do that more easily than I can run the vacuum.
3. Are you a sports person/fan? (Feel free to share the teams you cheer for! Go Team Go!)
A. Not really. My husband watches NASCAR so I sometimes see that when I sit with him. I like to watch the Olympics when they are on, but I do not keep up with who is doing what.
Thursday Thirteen
Thirteen photos from 2014 so far -
Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here. I've been playing for a while and this is my 347th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday.
Thursday Thirteen is played by lots of people; there is a list here. I've been playing for a while and this is my 347th time to do a list of 13 on a Thursday.
Wednesday, June 04, 2014
Bird on a Roof
I came home from physical therapy Monday to find this bird on the roof of my house. I had no idea what it was. The consensus on Facebook is that it is a pigeon. We don't have pigeons like this around here normally; we have small brown birds that we call pigeons, but this was rather big and had lots of interesting markings.
It also seemed rather tame. After a while it flew away, but then I later found it (or another like it) in my driveway down near my mailbox. It would not move so I attempted to shoe it off, and it went under the car. Finally it went to the side and watched me drive by.
City bird lost in the country? Carrier pigeon with a private message for me? I have no idea.
Tuesday, June 03, 2014
Happy 55th
Yesterday was my most excellent spouse's 55th birthday.
He had to work. We went to dinner Sunday night to celebrate, but birthday celebrations should last many days. I like to take the whole month, myself.
Anyway, I wanted to see him at the firehouse on his birthday, so after my physical therapy, I dropped in on him.
Actually, a COW and I dropped in on him.
This is my friend Teresa, who has very kindly been taking me to physical therapy on the days when I've not felt well enough to drive.
She also likes to, um, dress up as a cow. She does this at the elementary school for reading programs. Yesterday she did it for my husband. It was her idea.
The firefighters were highly amused.
My most excellent spouse turned a little red around the ears, but I don't think I embarrassed him *too* much.
My most excellent spouse and his new friend, the cow.
I had ordered him a special John Deere cake, complete with tractor.
Now how many 55 year old guys get that kind of treatment on their birthday, eh?
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