Thursday Thirteen

1. Deer like Cheerios. I learned this at 7 a.m. as I watched a doe successfully fight off several other deer while she stood over the stale Cheerios I had tossed out for the birds. Once the other deer had given up, she ate like they were the best thing she'd ever tasted.

2. Deer fight by nipping at one another with their teeth and by flailing their hooves. Bucks charge with their antlers only during mating season.

3. I think my totem might be the deer. Deer are very curious animals, always watching, looking and occasionally investigating that which puzzles them. They have been known to look in the windows of my house.

4. If deer is my animal totem, then this means I should maintain my innocence and gentleness and be open-hearted with others, according to animaltotem.com.



5. The deer around here are called white-tailed deer, otherwise known as Odocoileus virginianus or the Virginia deer.

6. While deer are lovely to look at and fun to watch, they do a lot of damage to the hay fields. Herds of deer can decimate an alfalfa field almost overnight. They also are hard on fences; if they find a weak spot they will go through the fence instead of jumping it, and eventually the wires will come loose from the posts because of the deer's constant movement and tugging.

7. A herd of deer apparently have one doe as look-out. She will always spot me. If I have not startled her, but am like a shadow against the house, she will move toward me, slowly. She will stamp a front hoof to get my attention. She will move a step or two closer, watching to see if I move. She will snort at me, stamp some more, and then bolt, her white tail waving an alert to the oblivious grazing herd, who will then run off as well.

8. Sometimes when I sit outside and play the guitar, the deer will come out to listen.

9. The male deer, called a buck or a stag, has horns that are initially covered in a velvet skin. About this time of year the buck sheds this skin by rubbing his horns against trees or other hard objects. The action leaves the horns looking bloody and shredded.

10. Bucks also fight one another for their territory, but only during mating season. It is a rather noiseless event (which I have actually seen and filmed, though it was some years ago) aside from the sound of the horns clashing. They charge at each other, heads down, and crash together. They do this until one gives up and leaves the area.

11. At other times, bucks run together. I usually see four or more at a time.

12. Does are more solitary, unless they have fawns. Then they seem to move together in pairs. I have always thought that was so they would have a babysitter.

13. A herd of deer, then, is really a meeting of smaller groups of deer or single deer, all of whom have decided that our pasture field is the best place for a meal.



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10 Years Ago Today

Ten years ago today my mother passed away. She died at the age of 56 from pancreatic cancer.

She was diagnosed in July 1999 following a bout with jaundice. She had been complaining of stomach pains since March, but visits to the doctor had been fruitless.

In August 1999, she had a pancreaticoduodenectomy, also known as a Whipple surgery. This is one of, if not the most, extensive surgery a person can have. Essentially they go in and take out all of your innards, remove the cancer, and put everything back.

My mother lived almost a year following the surgery.

Mom married in October at the age of 18 and I was born the following June. She was an office worker at a custom metal precision fabricating shop in Salem until she retired in the mid-1990s.

She could sew and do things with crafts that I still envy to this day. She was a great decorator and had a good eye for color and depth. She liked flowers, particularly iris, and she liked to garden except for when it became more like work than fun. She canned food, made pickles and killed chickens - the things a farmer's wife did.

I do not think she particularly liked living on the farm, but that is where my father wanted to be and so she was there. It was a long drive from Fincastle to Salem every day and she would leave at 7 a.m. and return at 6 p.m.: a long day by any standard. As she grew older the drive wore on her, particularly in bad weather.

She went back to college in her 30s, taking accounting and other classes, but did not finish her degree. Aerobics took up two of her evenings; she was dedicated to going out to the high school to get her exercise.

My father had a Top-40 band and she went with him on weekends to watch the group play. Later she sometimes joined him on stage for a few songs. In particular I remember hearing my parents sing together.

She liked to sing when she worked and after I learned to play guitar she encouraged me to continue to play even when others were not as helpful.

Mom was religious but not so that you would know it. We did not attend church but there were times I would catch her praying. In 1975 she was praying aloud as she drove like a crazed woman toward Roanoke Memorial. My father had backed a tractor over my brother. She begged God to keep her son alive. He did.

She loved Myrtle Beach and enjoyed vacationing there. After she retired she spent a great deal of time at North Myrtle, where she made friends and seemed to enjoy having the kids gone. After my nephew was born, she doted on him and was a loving grandmother. She did not live to see her granddaughter.

Fifty-six is very young. She still had things to do.

It's been a decade now. I hope she is at peace.

My mother.

Why Write?

Over the years I have read many treatises about writing, how to write, and why people write. Some of the best such books on my shelf include The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron, Writing Down the Bones, by Natalie Goldberg, On Becoming a Novelist, by John Gardner, and On Writing Well, by William Zinsser.

Missing from my shelves because I loaned them out and the books were never returned are Dorothea Brande's Becoming a Writer and Brenda Ueland's If You Want to Write: A Book about Art, Independence and Spirit. These are my favorites and I suppose I will have to buy them again. Maybe I will do that today.

Over the years I have held many conversations with myself in my head as to why I write. I seldom write these down because I could never say so eloquently that which the writers above have already put forth. Ultimately writers write for as many reasons as there are writers, though. Each person has a unique reason for needing to put words to paper (or pixels to screen, as the case may be).

Writing once was the domain of only the very gifted and the creative and everyone else found it agonizingly painful. The Internet seems to have changed this, taking writing from the domain of the talented and placing it squarely in the realm of the casual. When something is reduced from the sacred calligraphy of a Shakespeare play to the insipid and uninspiring level of a tweet or a text message, obviously the medium has been reduced to a water-down nothingness that makes it as common as toilet tissue and perhaps as well-used.

And yet there are still talented folks out there writing their hearts out, lads and lasses who find their desire to express themselves so intense that their heads, if not their hearts, would ache if they could not spend time crafting fine sentences and telling tale tells. Myriad books and websites appeal to these folks, telling them that they too can "be a writer" and have all that such a title affords.

I'm not sure anymore what "be a writer" means anymore. Does it mean to sit at the computer and write keyword articles that are, let's be honest, nothing more than crap? Is that being a writer? Does it mean toiling over a long work that will never sell unless you self-publish so that your auntie can buy it? Does it mean journaling every day in a notebook that no one will see until your life force has fled your aged body? Does it mean working for a newspaper and hustling to meet a deadline? Does it mean being an eccentric soul, hunkered down and living a solitary life, struggling always with words? What does it mean?

"One has to be just a little crazy to write a great novel," writes Gardner (56). "... if one is lucky the lightning strikes, and the madness at the core of the fictional idea for a moment glows on the page" (61). Is all of this Internet writing a symptom of sanity, then, while those who slave away in a darkened room, seldom seeing the light of the moon, are a little less than normal?

Goldberg says that, "people often begin writing from a poverty mentality. They are empty and they run to teachers and classes to learn about writing. We learn by doing it. That simple" (30). So are we all writers, then, all of us bloggers, all of those keyword writers and website builders and texters and tweeters? And if we all are writers, what then is so special about writing, and why do people still seek it out as if it is some Holy Grail to covet and honor?

"You must become one with the details in love or hate; they become an extension of your body . . . Caress them, touch them tenderly. Care about what is around you." (Goldberg 45). Is this, then the difference? Passion? Is that what makes someone a writer?

So why do I write? Is it to have written?

Writing is something I have always done; it seems so much a part of me that I could not let it go even if I wanted. Even now, when I am in a really serious drought with my writing, when there are days I wonder where the words are, I still write almost daily here in my blog. Is this writing? At this juncture I know longer know.

Passion is key; that I do know. Passion and a kind of eagerness to see where the story will lead, to what end. Passion is flow and harmony and yet at the same time jagged like a blood-soaked knife, and just as painful.

It is the end and the beginning, this writing. Alpha, Omega, Amen.

The Sunday Paper

I began reading the newspaper when I was about six years old. Spending an hour or more on the Sunday Roanoke Times has been a tradition for me for 40 years.

When I was 13 years old, my father taught me how to drive an old Jeep so that I could go up and down our very long driveway. It kept us from having to climb the hill in winter weather and gave us a few more minutes to dress in the mornings.

It also meant I could get up and go retrieve the Sunday paper.

When I began to do this, I reveled in the joy of an untouched Sunday newspaper. Is there anything else so pristine, so full of promise, as an unopened paper? It is fat with possibility; the ads crisp and waiting to reveal their surprises of treasures one may have if the price is right.

It wasn't long, though, before my father realized he was now reading the newspaper after his daughter. This would never do. Apparently he too liked the clean, unwrinkled pages. Or maybe he just liked to be first.

Whatever the reason, he told me not to read the paper until after he had finished it. He paid for it, he was reading it first, was the way he put it.

But try as I might, if I rose before he did, I could not help myself. I would drive the Jeep down and retrieve the paper. And I would read it in spite of the lecture I would receive when he climbed from bed and found that I had opened it up. For no matter how careful I was, I could not put the paper back the way I found it.

Sometimes I would come back up the hill with the newspaper on the seat beside me to find him standing outside in his robe, his hand outstretched, waiting on me to hand him the newspaper. That Jeep was noisy sometimes.

At the time it seemed a game, but it was really a contest of wills. He was exerting his authority and control. I was a teenager who was not going to be controlled. Not even when it came to the newspaper.

I think of this sometimes on Sunday mornings. My husband now fetches the newspaper and he generally has it apart before he comes back in the door with it. The days when I read a clean, crisp, totally untouched Sunday paper are relatively few and far between (they happen only on the Sundays he works, which is about six times a year).

But I treasure those days when the newspaper is all mine. Oh man, do I. Because I have the newspaper in front of me, smooth and untouched, its pages folded and its advertisements still in place, the sections orderly and not thrown askew. It is a simple thing, the untouched news. A simple and unique joy.

Ha Ha

I make my friends laugh.

My humor is dry, irreverent, and intelligent (if I do say so myself). I'm not talking slapstick here. I'm talking commentary on life that makes my friends howl. "You crack me up," they say, wiping tears.

Often I am surprised by the response because I was not trying to be funny. And apparently some of it is in the delivery, because it wouldn't look amusing if I wrote it down. I never attempt to write humor because I don't think I can. I mean, do you read this blog to laugh?

Thursday Thirteen

Suddenly you have arrived on Jupiter. List the things you couldn't live without.

1. My husband. I imagine Jupiter is a pretty lonely place and I would like some company. He's also a good hunter (might need to track down some aliens or maybe Jupiter turtles for soup) and then there is the keeping warm at night aspect. That's pretty important on a big planet.

2. My computer. I am addicted to the blasted thing and spend way too much time staring at the screen. And of course the one I had with me would have an Internet connection (?!?) and video games, music, e-books, etc.

3. Chocolate. I think Jupiter has heavy gravity, if I remember correctly, so getting a little fatter probably isn't going to matter much. Maybe I need some kind of gravity suit?

4. Oxygen. This should be a given and I at first assumed that I would have this with me, but then thought perhaps I ought to add this very necessary  element.

5. Water. This goes along with number 4. I probably should have listed these things first but they did not occur to me in that order. Water is necessary for life and bathing and squirting through your teeth.

6. Food. This should be in the form of edible stuff that would be around until vegetable seeds grew, provided one can garden on Jupiter. We'll pretend you can.

7. Clothing. Hopefully one would have an idea about temperatures on Jupiter prior to rocket launch and would be dressed appropriately. Since Jupiter is so far from the sun, I would guess that it might be cold there. But maybe not.

8. My toothbrush. This is a necessity as far as I am concerned, particularly if my husband is going to be around. And he needs to have his toothbrush, too!

9. An electricity generator. How else am I going to power up the computer?

10. A camera. I think one would get lots of great pictures of Jupiter's moons. Who knows, maybe Saturn's rings put on quite a show from the big planet. Should make for some good photos, anyway.

11. A watch. I always have to know what time it is, although time on Jupiter obviously would be quite different from time on earth. I would have to have the Waltham Jupiter Standard Time edition.

12. A bed. My back could never survive sleeping on rocks or ground or molten lava or whatever might be on Jupiter. So I definitely want a good bed with a sturdy mattress. And blankets and sheets for it.

13. A house. Or a shed. Anything with a roof. It doesn't have to be fancy but if rains on Jupiter or the wind blows or the sun shines brightly, I want something over my head. It would probably have to be made of pretty sturdy stuff and likely wouldn't look pretty but I am quite okay with that.


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About Writing: Job Burn Out

Burn out is a problem that anyone can experience in any activity. It is generally associated with work.

Even freelance writers experience a little burn out now and then.

Burn out usually means stress, and a lot of it. Maybe it's from staying up until 2 a.m. to finish an article. Maybe you've spent 10 to many hours on the telephone with an editor. Maybe you've sent out 100 query letters in 10 days. And maybe these activities have left you feeling frustrated, unhappy, and unfulfilled.

Maybe you feel overworked and undervalued. That can easily happen if you're working 40 hour weeks and making very little headway in the financial department.

Whatever the cause, symptoms generally include a little depression, disillusionment, and internal strain. It can also manifest physically with aches, pains, colds, or other problems.

Burn out isn't just stress - it's beyond stress to a point where the person feels empty, unmotivated, and beyond caring. It is an emptiness that comes from feeling used up.

And when you're burned out, any problem suddenly becomes a big problem. Burn out can create a vicious cycle because the sufferer loses motivation and has no hope of moving forward or making a change. The person feels trapped.

A writer suffering from burn out might find herself spending more time staring out the window or playing video games than writing. She might find start hating deadlines, particularly for projects that hold little appeal. "What is the point?" she might think.

She might find herself becoming more irritable with colleagues, friends, and family. Instead of welcoming an inquiry from an editor or a new job, she might be irritated by it. If a writer starts resenting the people who help pay the bills, suspect a little burn out.

Another sign of writer burn out is avoidance. Have you been cleaning instead of writing? Rearranging the bookshelves (first alphabetically and then by subject)? Is any excuse not to write a good one? You better check for burn out.

What Now?

So you think burn out might be the issue. What to do?

A change of scenery might be the answer. Perhaps you need to haul the laptop to the library or the coffee shop and get away from the home office for a while. Maybe you need a bigger change, though, like a vacation (particularly if you haven't had one in a while).

Try to find a balance. Maybe, like me, your writing is your life 24/7. If that is the case, perhaps you need some down time (I find this difficult when I see every event, every person, and everything I read as either a learning experience or a potential article. If you do this, too, you may need a little attitude adjustment.). Go out with your friends. See a movie (and don't analyze the plot, for heaven's sake!).

Other things that might help:

• Meditation or other relaxation. This is especially helpful at the start of the day. Instead of hopping out of bed and going straight to work, spend time in prayer, writing in a journal, doing stretches, or reading something inspirational.
• Be healthy. Exercise, eat right, and take Geritol. Long walks are highly recommended.
• Get some sleep. Insomnia can be a big problem for heavy thinkers. Try visualization exercises when your eyes won't shut. Imagine something peaceful, and then think about particular body parts and imagine them relaxing.
• Learn to say no. You don't have to accept every writing assignment.
• Step away from it all. When you're taking that long walk, leave the technology behind. You can't experience all the bounty that reality has to offer if someone is blabbing in your ear on your cellphone. If you must have it for safety reasons, leave it in its case by your side. Unhook from technology and rejoin the world.
• Be creative. Yeah, yeah, writing is creative, you're all about being creative. Try a different type of creativity. Play a musical instrument, paint, crochet, or find some other project (preferably one that doesn't involve words).
• Learn to manage your stress. This is a big one and learning this can take a while. The above tips will help with stress, but so will things like balancing your schedule, stepping back from commitments, cutting back on over-time (even 15 minutes can make a difference), taking regular breaks (stand up and stretch every hour; it really helps), prioritizing your work, breaking big projects into smaller segments, and delegating responsibility when you can (honey, can you do the laundry tonight?).

Job burn out can be serious, and even home-based workers need to recognize the symptoms. Just because you get paid to write in your PJs doesn't mean it's all peanut butter and bananas, you know.

In Velvet

My Fair Lady

Saturday night I took my mother-in-law to see Attic Production's presentation of the musical, My Fair Lady.

Attic Productions is our local theater troupe. While mostly amateurs, they generally put on great shows and while the acting may not be on par with Broadway, it is superb in my opinion.

Louisa Britt, a 16-year-old rising junior at Cave Spring High School in Roanoke, played the role of Eliza Doolittle, a young Cockney lass who decides to take elocution lessons from Professor Henry Higgins in order to rise up in her station in life.

Britt has one of the best singing voices I have ever heard. She did a fantastic job. The other actors and singers, some of whom are friends, also did very well. I was quite proud of them for putting on such a splendid production.

My mother-in-law, still recovering from the loss her husband last month, enjoyed the evening out and I was glad to have given her a respite. We had a good time.

I hope that everyone supports their local arts groups. This kind of activity is important because it fosters thinking and imagination, gives folks something to do, and helps to create community. Our society is performing a great disservice to one another and to our heirs as we dismantle the arts because in the minds of some it has no value. Seeing a production like Attic's My Fair Lady has immensely more value than a trip to Walmart, that's for sure.

So support an artist. Buy a picture, see a play, pick up a book. You'll be glad you did!

High School Reunion Blues

Last night I met with nine classmates from 1981, only two of whom I had seen since we graduated. We met to form a planning group of nearly-50s who want to have a 30-year reunion next year.

This is a class that has only had one reunion, a 10th, and I did not attend that one.

My class had about 220 people in it; I was 5th in my class in rank. I was one of two student speakers who stood before the class, along with the valedictorian.

It was a really long time ago, those years when I was 17 about to turn 18. My whole life was ahead of me. If I only knew!

But don't we all say that when we are feeling nostalgic?

It was great seeing these old comrades, even though I was a bit of a loner who did not hang out with any specific group. A class of 220 divides itself into so many smaller sections - the jocks, the smokers, the smart kids, and others. I think this has gone on since time began and will always continue as like seeks like and prejudices remain regardless of the thinking of the day. It is a part of being human, and it is especially a part of being a teenager.

I was saddened to learn that almost a dozen of us have died in the years since we graduated. Two took their own life. One of the girls pictured above died in a car wreck on the interstate near Hollins about two days after we graduated. Several died from cancer. I knew of some of these passings but at least one of them startled me as I remembered vividly a young girl full of life and mischief. But so it goes.

The rest of us are lucky to be moving on beyond middle age and likely don't even realize it. And here we are, thinking about a big to-do to bring us all together. It's kind of exciting, to think of getting together after all of these years.

I wonder what we will find?

Thursday Thirteen

Thirteen things I do when I am home alone!

1. Sing. I do not have the worst voice in the world but I can crack a bad note on occasion. My favorite song to sing when I am alone is The Lion Sleeps Tonight. I really like the high parts.

2. Take pictures. Most of my shots are outside the windows, where I roam from view to view. Sometimes I just slither from space to space, looking to see if there is anything different to see.

3. Write. I prefer to be alone with my thoughts when I am writing, whether it be a blog entry like this one, journaling, or an article for publication.

4. Read. I also like to be alone with I read, not because I am reading anything bad but because I don't interrupt myself. Plus it is like taking a little mini-vacation.

5. Exercise. I like to exercise when no one is around because I prefer to do it in my PJs. Plus I don't want anyone to watch my fat bounce.

6. Play video games. It is not that my husband minds if I play video games; it is that I think he does. I prefer to do this when he is not around. Otherwise I feel like I should be doing something else. At the moment I am playing The Sims 3. I am bored with it but too cheap to buy another video game.

7. Research. When I am looking up facts, I want peace and quiet!

8. Chores. This should be higher on the list because I am very good about doing my chores first and anything that seems pleasurable last. Chores include things like laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, watering the flowers, gardening, painting the walls, etc.

9. Eat. I tend to eat more when I am home alone. This is a very bad thing and a good reason for me NOT to be alone too much.

10. Pace the floor. Sometimes when I am home alone, I wander back and forth and up and down the hallway. This is particularly true if I am writing something and can't get the words to flow.

11. Talk to myself. Sometimes I even answer myself and I understand that is not a good thing to admit at all. However, I have been known to carry on entire conversations, acting as all parties, sometimes to good advantage. Sometimes I have even made myself fall down laughing.

12. Stare out the window. This is akin to pacing the halls or looking for photos, I suppose, but sometimes I just look out the window to look out the window. I am not really seeing what is out there but my mind is going round and round, computing things or puzzling over something. My husband says I never stop thinking.

13. Play the guitar. This is something that I don't do often enough and should do more frequently. I started playing the guitar when I was 12 and have never stopped but sometimes I go months without picking it up. I am rusty though on occasion I can still get some decent sounds out of the thing.

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Love is a Rose

When I was young, my inquisitiveness led me to ask questions of everything. Why were people on the earth? Who made the sky? Why do airplanes disappear in the Bermuda Triangle?

And the biggest question of all: What happens when we die?

My mother would answer my questions as best she could. These often turned into meandering conversations that never answered the question but instead acknowledged that I was making important inquiries into mysteries that really have no answer.

In the summer of 2000, my mother was dying of pancreatic cancer.  One day while she was in the hospital, she asked me what I thought would happen when she died. I said I didn't know.

"I want to send you a sign that there is something beyond," she said. "What would you recognize?"

I thought about this for a while, running my mind over the things in my house and in my yard. "Send me something orange," I finally said. "I don't have any orange in the house or the yard."

I did not forget this conversation but I also did not expect much to come of it. Nor did I mention it to anyone.

For my birthday the next year, my closest friend gave me a rose.

I planted it. It took a long time to bloom, but it's first bloom appeared in August, 2001, a year after my mother passed away. The bloom was a lovely orange.

And it has bloomed a lovely orange for me in late summer every year since.

Motivational Books & Tapes

Feel the Fear & Do It Anyway
By Susan Jeffers, Ph.D.
Copyright 1988
Audiobook. 60 minutes


How to Put More Time in Your Life
By Dru Scott, Ph.D.
Copyright 1988
Audiobook. 60 minutes
(Apparently out of print)





The Procrastination Cure (Putting an End to Putting it Off)
By Jane B. Burka, Ph.D. & Lenora M. Yuen, Ph.D.
Copyright 1989
Audiobook. 60 minutes
(Apparently out of print)

Relieve Stress
By Dr. Marlene E. Hunter, M.D.
Copyright ???
Audiobook. 60 minutes
(Apparently out of print)

The Power of Optimism
By Alan Loy McGinnis
Copyright 1993
Audiobook. 60 minutes
(Apparently out of print)


So, why tell you about a bunch of motivational tapes that are almost all out of print? Well, if you live in the Roanoke Valley you can check them out from the library, like I did, if you are interested.

I saw these on the shelf at the Blue Ridge Library a while back and on impulse took them all.

Pop psychology, I think these are called, and once they were the big thing in the motivational fields and in self-help circuits.

These tapes offer up ways to beat pessimism, find more time, overcome your fears, feel better about your life, and how to get moving if you're stuck in a rut.

They all say the same thing in different ways: you are what you think, and your thoughts control how you feel, so if you can gain control over your thoughts you can move forward and onward and be happy and live a great life.

They are very cheerful things to listen to, and who knows, you may learn a technique from one of them that you have not tried and find it to be just the thing to stimulate positive change.

I actually plan to listen to them all again before I turn them in to the library, maybe this time in the house instead of the car. That way I can have a pencil ready to jot down a few ideas that I liked.

I wonder where to find today's equivalent to these things -  podcasts, maybe?

Feel the Fear, by the way, is a good book. I read it about four years ago and found it helpful. It is still on my shelf. The audiobook is an early version of the print book, I think.

Organize? Organize!

Here's an interesting question for you, dear reader.

How do you keep up with blogs (or favorite websites, for that matter)? Do you simply follow and then read them in a reader such as Google reader?

Do you subscribe to RSS feeds or have them emailed to you, and read them that way?

Do you add them to favorites on your browser? And if so, do you categorize them at all, or just have them all in there willie-nillie?

Perhaps you use Delicious.com or some other method to categorize and decide what to read? If so, what program?

How do you come back to your favorites time after time? What method do you use?

I am curious and looking for new ways to do this. My own methodology works for about 50 blogs but beyond that it grows cumbersome.

O Covergirl!

I am not sure when Covergirl changed its products, giving things a new look and adding new items to its lineup.

Being old school (not to mention growing a little old), change sometimes frustrate me. Why can't they leave well enough alone, I wonder. I've been buying Covergirl since I was 12 years old. Give me a break.

Recently, when I went to purchase foundation, I discovered new bottles and a new sensitive skin product. Covergirl's water-based products have always been very good for my use; they had little smell or perfume, didn't break out my skin and I had no allergies to their items, unlike oil-based products which were guaranteed to turn my skin red and cause me no end of tears. It has literally been 20 years since I last tried another brand of makeup.

So there I stood before the makeup, blocking the aisle, trying to make a purchase when things were different. I pondered for a time, trying to figure out which, if any, was the old product and which did I want to buy. Finally I opted for the sensitive skin foundation.

The new foundation is a little chalky in feel and it seems to take a bit more to do the job than the old foundation I used previously. But the most unfortunate thing about this change is the darned stuff won't come out of the bottle.

No amount of shaking forces it out onto a finger. Instead I have had to resort to dipping a toothpick or Q-tip or makeup applicator or whatever else I can find into the bottle and forcing the foundation out. It is very wasteful.

I almost went back to get what I thought was the regular product but I haven't so far. Why? Because I think it is the design of the bottle and not the product that is causing the issue, and the bottles are all shaped the same way. Once the new sensitive skin foundation is out of the bottle, it flows fine.

Others agree with me. Check out comments on the Covergirl website to see what other unhappy women are saying.

Apparently Oil of Olay, which like Covergirl is a Proctor & Gamble product line, dropped one of its facial cleansers that I used faithfully, Sensitive Skin hydrating beauty fluid, because I can't find it anywhere anymore. Neither can anyone else, based on comments on the Olay website. I tried the suggested substitute and was so unimpressed that I no longer buy Oil of Olay anything, even though I used it for over 20 years. Now I am using Cetaphil, because it was the only sensitive skin item I could find that was marginally close. Cetaphil is owned by the same folks who own L'Oreal and is not a P&G brand.

So what does it say to me, Mrs. Older Consumer, who has been a faithful user of these P&G products for decades, when things change and it appears as if the company doesn't care? I am sure these changes are aimed at younger, more snazzy young women, those 20-somethings who do not have as much money as I do (if they have a job at all in this economy). I have never been a fan of marketing techniques that focus on younger people because it ignores the rather obvious conclusion that older folks of a certain age (say, 40-60) generally have more "extra" money than any other age bracket. We've already bought our towels and curtains and have a little to spend on things like beauty fluid.

What I am hearing is this: hey, Mrs. Older Consumer, go see what Maybelline and Avon and some of those other cosmetics companies that you've always ignored are offering these days.

And so I will.

Books: The Grilling Season

The Grilling Season
by Diane Mott Davidson
Performed by Cherry Jones
Copyright 1997
Abridged 360 minutes

I have a friend who really likes these Goldy the cook solves the mystery and saves the day books. They are okay but I am not that into recipes and cooking. I find those parts to be very boring, but I understand I am not normal in that respect.

In this book, Goldy's ex-husband has been charged with murder. Since he used to beat Goldy she is not unhappy about this, but her son, Art, wants his father cleared of the charges and begs his mother to help his dad. Goldy reluctantly begins making a few inquiries.

Some parts of this book bothered me; I don't like it when men beat up on women simply for the sake of beating up on somebody. Perhaps this is why I am not a big fan of this series, because in the couple of books I have read Goldy almost always ends up getting hit or hurt by someone and the violence seems a little gratuitous instead of being something that forwards the plot. But perhaps I am simply oversensitive to this issue.

Not a bad book, but I am glad I listened to it by checking it out of the library.

Thursday Thirteen #150

In absolutely random order, 13 people I know.

1. My nephew, Emory, and his new guitar. He and his ol' aunt (that's me) went out yesterday to make this purchase.  Emory is a student at University of South Carolina, where he is majoring in Biology. He plans to be a trauma surgeon.

2. My friend Amy, who now lives in North Carolina. She used to be my editor when I was writing for The New Castle Record. She moved away from the writing business and became a librarian, which was a very smart move on her part. She recently dropped by for a visit; I hadn't seen her in years and it was nice to catch up.

3. My nephew, Trey. He is a big wrestler at his high school. He also likes to hunt and is being groomed to take over his grandfather's business someday (currently his father, that is, my brother, is running the operation).


4. This is Rena, who works at the Fincastle Library. She is an avid genealogist and an interesting person to talk to.



5. This is Steve, the library director for the county. I serve on the Botetourt County Library Board of Trustees and so we have a working relationship. I have known him ever since he came to be the library director, which was back in 1985. He is a very nice guy.



6. Meet Ed. He is the editor of The Fincastle Herald, the newspaper I was writing a lot for up until the recession. I have known Ed since he came to the county in 1984 and have been writing off and on for The Fincastle Herald ever since then, too. Maybe right now I'm just in an "off" phase, eh? Ed worked with me to hone my writing talent and taught me how to put some of "me" into my stories so that they have a little personality.



7. My friend Leslie is a lovely lady who has listened to me complain and whine about things since 1983, when I went to work for a lawyer she worked for at the time. Though I left there in 1985 (and she's since moved on to a different job, too) we have remained friends. We have lunch together at least once a month and annually make a trek up to the Green Valley Book Fair in northern Virginia.



8. Gwen is running for the Board of Supervisors this year. She is the manager of the local family orchard and packing house. We have been friends since about 1993.


9. This is James. He is my husband. We met in October 1982, married in November 1983, built our home we live in in 1987. He is a Battalion Chief with the Roanoke City Fire-EMS Department. I am very proud of him.



10. This is my nephew, Chris. He likes to hunt, fish, farm, and drive pickup trucks. He's a crackerjack.




11. This is Amanda (left) and myself (don't look!). Amanda is a professor at Hollins University and a famous author. This picture was taken a few years ago. I had Amanda for several classes when I was working on my Masters of Liberal Arts Degree at Hollins.


12. This is Lanetta. She is my next door neighbor. She is retired and she runs a cattle farm. She also used to be an athletics professor at Hollins University.  She has been inducted into the UR Athletic Hall of Fame, the Virginia Lacrosse Hall of Fame, the U.S. Lacrosse Hall of Fame, and the Hollins Athletic Hall of Fame.




13. This is my niece, Zoe. She participates in beauty pageants and just this weekend won the title of Ecusa National 2010-2011 Ultimate Grand Supreme. I confess I have no idea what that is, but there you go.


Thursday 13 is played by lots of people and you can see more folks' lists here. This is my 150th time to play.

Summer Roses

Elbow Macaroni

Over the course of the last several weeks, what with the painting and wallpapering and gardening and other things, I have managed to hurt my arm.

Specifically I have given myself lateral epicondylitis. It is more commonly called "tennis elbow," but I don't play tennis. I think I have also heard it called "housemaid's elbow" and that one I can relate to. Essentially, I've torn a tendon or two in my arm near my elbow.

One of the things that irritates this, unfortunately, is working at the computer. (Actually it hurts like the proverbial hole where the bad folks go when I try to type for very long.)

Rest and not doing things that hurt my arm is one of the prescriptions for cure.

Hence, my posting has been sporadic and probably will be for a few days.

This is one of the more painful things I have experienced in that stuff hurts that shouldn't. Taking pictures, for example, hurts. Brushing my teeth makes my arm hurt. Trying to tug the covers away from my husband makes my arm hurt. Driving, lifting a glass of water, loading the dryer with wet clothes - pretty much anything - has become a chore to be performed through gritted teeth rather than something one barely thinks about.

I saw the doctor about this today, as my own feeble efforts at cure (which consisted of occasionally trying to rest it and using Arnica gel on it) were not working. She prescribed a prescription-strength anti-inflammatory, suggested immobilization for a few days with a sling or a brace (which I could pick up at the drug store), and later the use of one of those elbow bands (see the Ace thing above) that fits just below the bend in your arm. She also told me to ice it and took me off of one of my blood pressure medications that can cause joint pain.

I picked up a sling but don't like it - I brought it home, wore it about 30 minutes, and then put it back in the box. I am thinking of returning it. However, as the day grows a little longer, and what with this weirdly damp weather, the ache is making me wonder if putting the sling back on might not be the wiser course. I can't decide. Obviously I can't use it while I am typing on the computer. But I suppose that is the point of the sling, to keep me from doing things I am not supposed to be doing while this injury heals.

I opted for the sling over a brace simply because I couldn't find a full elbow brace that fit, and I have yet to buy the little elbow band.

In any event, I miss blogging and I will try to keep it up, but I did want to let anyone checking know that I haven't stopped writing. I'm just trying not to stress this arm.

Books: Finger Lickin' Fifteen

Finger Lickin' Fifteen
By Janet Evanovich
Copyright 2009
308 pages

I last read a Stephanie Plum book in 2008. While this next title has been out a while, I waited to read it until I could get it at the library.

In this romp, Lulu gets front and center. She is always good for  a laugh and this time was no exception.

Stephanie also blew up a great number of cars. She was in between men and couldn't decide  if she wanted to go back to Morilli or not, so she spent most of her time with Ranger. Make sense? Of course.

There were a number of mysteries in this book, and Stephanie manages to solve them all.